Torben Gundtofte-Bruun

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Hello, world!

I'm a father of one pre-schooler and one toddler. My stake in this site is to learn from you, and also to contribute as much as I can!

Based on my own childhood and parenthood, my specialties are (among others): twins, languages, and international aspects. For the record, I'm an identical twin and married to a fraternal twin. I speak 4 languages fluently and I've lived in 5 countries (Europe, Japan).

I enjoy using my experience to help others. That is why I am active at even more SE sites in the StackExchange network on topics that interest me.

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Outside of this site, I'm something of a Swiss army knife both professionally and in private, able to juggle a wild variety of things at once. I've worked in every kind of business that uses software. I'm also very good with tools, both IT and mechanic. Whether you need software design or assembling some IKEA furniture, I'm your man for the job. I'm generally soft-spoken but driven by clear principles.

To learn more about me, see my Google+ profile.


Apr
16
comment Four year old does not play with toys
OP situation sounds like my 4yo son, and I'd have given pretty much the same response. I'm trying to think of anything to add but this covers it well!
Apr
15
comment At what age should you start giving your children pocket money?
Other sources recommend against paying for chores because it gives a false sense of entitlement. I don't get paid to clean the house either! Chores are mandatory. Payment should be the reward for doing extra work. What's your take on this?
Apr
7
comment First keyboard: Qwerty or Dvorak?
O_o you win! :-)
Apr
7
comment First keyboard: Qwerty or Dvorak?
@DA01 I'd like to see you "writing" a report using Siri :-)
Apr
7
comment First keyboard: Qwerty or Dvorak?
@da01 reasonably reliable speech input has been available for 20 years now (just ask a blind person) but it's not mainstream and I'm guessing it never will be. Good luck getting a speech-recognition app to understand and correctly type my name ;-)
Mar
29
comment Why did my pre-schooler suddenly develop an odd accent?
That last paragraph is a fun idea!
Mar
28
comment How do I define 'rape' to an 8-year-old girl?
You can't wait until 14 - she will reach puberty long before that, and she needs to be prepared to take care of her body. So yes, I think "high time" is correct.
Mar
27
comment How can we ask our 22-year-old son to leave?
@BruceK., you say he was smoking pot since the age of FIVE?!! Whatever your problems are today, they started at or even before that age! Stop trying to make him move out and start treating him like a ten-year old. No responsibility from him => no privileges from you, not even TV. Confiscate his credit card. Stop accepting his behavior.
Mar
20
comment Enforcing minority languages at home
@jpatokal: I've just built a house here so I think I'm settled but I'd be pleased if they would go study for a while in Denmark, for instance. I realize I'm going to lose the battle eventually though, because they probably won't ever be totally fluent in Danish, and they won't pass it on to their kids. This makes me sad, but at least I have a clone (twin) who is still in Denmark. Honestly though, I believe English is much more important to master, and I'll make every effort to ensure that!
Mar
20
comment Dealing with teens and pornography?
His age is an important factor in how to react.
Mar
11
comment When can I start “doing the air plane”?
@Beofett: me too; me neither :-)
Feb
28
comment Why does my wife say our son is so cute that she wants to eat him?
@SteveHHH it sounds like what you're really after here is the etymology of the phrase. This site's focus is practical advice on parenting activities. Even though the phrase exists in many languages, I suggest that you pose this question over at English language & usage.
Feb
28
comment What safety gate can I use at the top of my stairs?
@DanBeale: I've added an update to address this. Better now?
Feb
28
comment Why does my wife say our son is so cute that she wants to eat him?
@SQB: sudo make me a sandwich
Feb
24
comment What are the next steps after a twin mix-up has been discovered after several years?
@SQB: Quit messing with my mind :-)
Feb
24
comment What are the next steps after a twin mix-up has been discovered after several years?
@BillClark: Incidentally, fingerprint readers don't work with kids under ~6 years of age precisely because their fingerprint is too small to be reliably identified.
Feb
7
comment Daddy daughter travel trip?
Doesn't have to be expensive - it could be a week-long tent trip in a national park, for instance. "Back to nature", plus marshmallows.
Feb
6
comment What is the best approach for teaching toddlers not to drop items off the table at meals?
FWIW we also use plastic tableware for the kids because we don't want our nice tableware to be broken. Some things are expensive/impossible to replace.
Feb
5
comment Mastering a foreign language without staying in a country to which the language is native
Another user recently mentioned in chat that it takes at least 20% of the child's waking hours in a given week of hearing a second language spoken fluently to even get the child conversational, so even a good non-native English speaker would have to be very consistent.
Feb
4
comment What are some strategies for raising a bilingual child?
@Annoyed: let's discuss in the Parenting Chat room instead.