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Hello, world!

I'm a father of one pre-schooler and one toddler. My stake in this site is to learn from you, and also to contribute as much as I can!

Based on my own childhood and parenthood, my specialties are (among others): twins, languages, and international aspects. For the record, I'm an identical twin and married to a fraternal twin. I speak 4 languages fluently and I've lived in 5 countries (Europe, Japan).

I enjoy using my experience to help others. That is why I am active at even more SE sites in the StackExchange network on topics that interest me.

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Outside of this site, I'm something of a Swiss army knife both professionally and in private, able to juggle a wild variety of things at once. I've worked in every kind of business that uses software. I'm also very good with tools, both IT and mechanic. Whether you need software design or assembling some IKEA furniture, I'm your man for the job. I'm generally soft-spoken but driven by clear principles.

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comment How to inculcate concentration for 5 yr old kid?
in·cul·cate [inˈkəlˌkāt,ˈinkəlˌkāt], verb: teach (someone) an attitude, idea, or habit by persistent instruction.
Oct
25
comment When my 4 yo has to do something he doesn't want to, he moans/cries/wails and communication is blocked. How can I get him to respond?
@Joe, what other natural consequences are there? E.g. he'll be sent home again because he's not allowed in undressed. And he'll want to be in there? It can be hard to find or realize the natural consequences that would reinforce your goal.
Oct
24
comment Suggestions for a 5 year old girl who has trouble focusing
possible duplicate of In what ways can you help a child develop self-control and delayed or deferred gratification?
Oct
24
comment How to cover base heaters corners
I think this is an excellent solution, and I don't see a heating hazard as long as the corner guard is relatively small. You could probably cut out a useful shape from a pool noodle or similar item you already have that can be partially sacrificed.
Oct
24
comment When my 4 yo has to do something he doesn't want to, he moans/cries/wails and communication is blocked. How can I get him to respond?
Going to kindergarten in pajamas has happened more than once in my family, too. By the time the kid shows up in the group in pajamas he definitely wants to get dressed, and it's a perfectly safe and simple way of teaching him natural consequences of his decisions.
Oct
19
comment I'm pretty sure I'm bound for the mental asylum
Welcome! Vague posts like yours (no offense!) usually don't get very useful responses here. What's your actual question? - This site works best when we can give one clear answer to one clear question. If you have several questions, post them separately.
Oct
19
comment One room for each son, or one bedroom and one play room?
@Ananyawilliams could you elaborate, please? Submit an answer (not a comment) to explain why you think this.
Oct
17
comment What are these? Received from children's centre in free pack
This question is as puzzling as the one about the dinosaur!
Oct
17
comment My Niece is treated as an Outcast by her own Parents
Of course kids can be aroused, why shouldn't that be possible? The kids are exploring - that's a very natural thing in some cultures but even there it can exasperate the parents because they see it with adult eyes. Please see this relevant question and its answers!
Oct
8
comment Help! My 7 year old won't go to bed early, or get up early
I can't tell whether you're serious or this is tongue-in-cheek. But the bright light of a TV (specifically the blue component) isn't conducive to sleep.
Oct
8
comment Not sure what to do about my teen daughters stealing and lying
@DaveClarke "cutting" in this context generally means self-harm. That's very serious.
Oct
6
comment Should children be preemptively taught about drugs, alcohol, and sex?
Faux pas: an embarrassing or tactless act or remark in a social situation" (source) - did you mean taboo?
Sep
28
comment My wife wants another baby but we are already grandparents! Help!
You just say "help" but what is your actual question to us that you want us to answer?
Sep
24
comment Is it safe to blow on a baby's face?
I like how you still managed to get a joking pout into your answer though. Your original use of knottage made me laugh but I have to say Joe has a point if your answer is intended to be serious.
Sep
23
comment How can I teach my 5yo son to respect authority?
@BBM are you describing your son, or mine??! Eerie.
Sep
21
comment How can I teach my 5yo son to respect authority?
I haven't accepted this (or any) answer yet because I don't feel ready to accept the reality it would imply. I awarded a bounty instead because this answer is extremely helpful in determining the root cause of the situation.
Sep
21
comment How can we discipline our toddler?
Update, three years later: Timeouts don't work except in very specific circumstances (see my comment to this answer). It's pretty much as @BBM describes: mostly ineffective and tiring.
Sep
21
comment Should I worried about my son's development? Or maybe my son's right brain is dominant?
Without going into the details you describe, keep in mind that all children are different. The other kid may be ahead right now but in half a year it can be other way round. Don't compare with others; there are a million factors that contribute to differences. Just look at each child separately. If your son is happy and healthy, that's great!
Sep
19
comment How can I teach my 5yo son to respect authority?
The phrasing in my "dictatorship" comment above was a summary for this site, and I can see how I wasn't clear about that. I don't talk to my kids (or anyone) in such a tone.
Sep
18
comment Frequency of visits of in-laws
Not a full answer, but you two need to work on your marriage. She doesn't respect your concerns, and deliberately and repeatedly makes you uncomfortable. Co-owning the house does't give her the power to trample you like that; what a poor argument. She could meet him at his place instead, or elsewhere.