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Hello, world!

I'm a father of one pre-schooler and one toddler. My stake in this site is to learn from you, and also to contribute as much as I can!

Based on my own childhood and parenthood, my specialties are (among others): twins, languages, and international aspects. For the record, I'm an identical twin and married to a fraternal twin. I speak 4 languages fluently and I've lived in 5 countries (Europe, Japan).

I enjoy using my experience to help others. That is why I am active at even more SE sites in the StackExchange network on topics that interest me.

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Outside of this site, I'm something of a Swiss army knife both professionally and in private, able to juggle a wild variety of things at once. I've worked in every kind of business that uses software. I'm also very good with tools, both IT and mechanic. Whether you need software design or assembling some IKEA furniture, I'm your man for the job. I'm generally soft-spoken but driven by clear principles.

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Mar
24
comment Can we afford to have a baby?
@bjb568 I can't tell whether you're saying immunizations is crap, or whether "if you choose to" is crap. Either way, immunizations ought to be mandatory but they aren't - and some people will violently contend them, so I felt the need to be a bit softer in my answer than in this comment.
Mar
24
comment When should I stop swaddling my baby?
@sleske This is not at all about SIDS. You're confusing SIDS with plain and simple suffocation risk. Look up discussions about SIDS on this site.
Jan
16
comment Preparing quality bedtime stories
As long as it takes, @myang. Some stories are really just an anecdote, so you might like to tell two of those in one evening. Some stories are extensive, and you could either simplify as needed, or split into two nights - if you manage a cliffhanger, that would certainly help getting your daughter to bed the next evening!
Jan
6
comment How do I make my son listen to my discipline, not my mother-in-law?
Upvoted for the first half. Not crazy about the last.
Dec
30
comment What if my kids don't want me to speak my native language?
@Ian sure German has more international value than Danish. Following that logic, I should be speaking English with them instead! This is not about international value, it's about cultural values.
Dec
13
comment Where should boys aim their urine?
@Jasmine the surface is a nearly flat bowl, so there's about 3 millimeters of water, diameter maybe 10 centimeters. Hit that, and it'll definitely splash...
Dec
12
comment Where should boys aim their urine?
@Jasmine - what prevents the splash too? The shelf certainly doesn't, on the contrary. The higher elevation of the "target surface" means that more of the splashback leaves the bowl. The only way to avoid it is by sitting down.
Dec
9
comment Should I monitor my child's internet usage?
Unfortunately playgrounds can (and sometimes are!) littered with glass shards and used condoms. Still, probably better than g~cx (I've heard of it and I'm not going to look!) but not a lot.
Dec
5
comment Does Tongue-tie really affect talking?
What's "DD"? "Darling daughter"?
Nov
4
comment Where should boys aim their urine?
@ratchetfreak, can confirm. The foam absorbs (most of?) the splashback, so this is valid.
Nov
4
comment Some games and playful ideas for a father to do with his 4 year old daughter?
Welcome! I formatted your post a bit. Please use your Enter key once in a while :-) (formatting guide)
Nov
3
comment Sleep in booster seats
Try turning the C-shaped pillow around? So that there's nothing in the neck. Some pillows don't stay in place like that but some do!
Nov
3
comment 14 yo daughter broke her friendship due to Homosexuality?
Indeed, this question is both clearer and more precise than OP's earlier questions. It's a good one.
Nov
3
comment Dealing with an irresponsible 30 year old brother-in-law
Look beyond the immediate symptoms! If cycling to work is not an option, and he doesn't have reliable access to a car, then he's not equipped to work that job. He needs to look for a job that he can hold down without having to rely on other people (or bother them with).
Oct
30
comment How to inculcate concentration for 5 yr old kid?
in·cul·cate [inˈkəlˌkāt,ˈinkəlˌkāt], verb: teach (someone) an attitude, idea, or habit by persistent instruction.
Oct
25
comment When my 4 yo has to do something he doesn't want to, he completely blocks communication with moans/cries/wails. How can I get him to respond?
@Joe, what other natural consequences are there? E.g. he'll be sent home again because he's not allowed in undressed. And he'll want to be in there? It can be hard to find or realize the natural consequences that would reinforce your goal.
Oct
24
comment Suggestions for a 5 year old girl who has trouble focusing
possible duplicate of In what ways can you help a child develop self-control and delayed or deferred gratification?
Oct
24
comment How to cover base heaters corners
I think this is an excellent solution, and I don't see a heating hazard as long as the corner guard is relatively small. You could probably cut out a useful shape from a pool noodle or similar item you already have that can be partially sacrificed.
Oct
24
comment When my 4 yo has to do something he doesn't want to, he completely blocks communication with moans/cries/wails. How can I get him to respond?
Going to kindergarten in pajamas has happened more than once in my family, too. By the time the kid shows up in the group in pajamas he definitely wants to get dressed, and it's a perfectly safe and simple way of teaching him natural consequences of his decisions.
Oct
19
comment I'm pretty sure I'm bound for the mental asylum
Welcome! Vague posts like yours (no offense!) usually don't get very useful responses here. What's your actual question? - This site works best when we can give one clear answer to one clear question. If you have several questions, post them separately.