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Sep
22
answered Is it safe to blow on a baby's face?
Sep
21
comment How can I teach my 5yo son to respect authority?
I haven't accepted this (or any) answer yet because I don't feel ready to accept the reality it would imply. I awarded a bounty instead because this answer is extremely helpful in determining the root cause of the situation.
Sep
21
comment How can we discipline our toddler?
Update, three years later: Timeouts don't work except in very specific circumstances (see my comment to this answer). It's pretty much as @BBM describes: mostly ineffective and tiring.
Sep
21
comment Should I worried about my son's development? Or maybe my son's right brain is dominant?
Without going into the details you describe, keep in mind that all children are different. The other kid may be ahead right now but in half a year it can be other way round. Don't compare with others; there are a million factors that contribute to differences. Just look at each child separately. If your son is happy and healthy, that's great!
Sep
19
answered How can I show my appreciation for my wife?
Sep
19
comment How can I teach my 5yo son to respect authority?
The phrasing in my "dictatorship" comment above was a summary for this site, and I can see how I wasn't clear about that. I don't talk to my kids (or anyone) in such a tone.
Sep
19
revised How can I teach my 5yo son to respect authority?
linked to relevant issue 3 years ago.
Sep
19
revised How can I teach my 5yo son to respect authority?
linked to relevant issue 3 years ago.
Sep
18
revised How can I teach my 5yo son to respect authority?
added info on 123-magic
Sep
18
reviewed No Action Needed potty trained 2 1/2 year old wetting the bed again
Sep
18
comment Frequency of visits of in-laws
Not a full answer, but you two need to work on your marriage. She doesn't respect your concerns, and deliberately and repeatedly makes you uncomfortable. Co-owning the house does't give her the power to trample you like that; what a poor argument. She could meet him at his place instead, or elsewhere.
Sep
18
reviewed Close Frequency of visits of in-laws
Sep
18
reviewed Close Is buying school supplies online worth it?
Sep
18
comment Is buying school supplies online worth it?
Isn't this more of a personal-finance topic? It doesn't relate very much to parenting.
Sep
18
comment How can I teach my 5yo son to respect authority?
@Jeremy I can assure you it's just wording. See my comment to Rookie Parenting's answer below; my description here applies after we've tried all our tools and tricks, including talk.
Sep
17
comment How can I teach my 5yo son to respect authority?
@the_lotus you'll have the sweetest kids on the block and be the envy of the entire kindergarten group :-) Look at it this way: the difficult kids are already taken! Besides, my rep count (has it been 3½ years already?) mostly shows how my contributions were received, not how well I execute them myself. Walking the talk is hard.
Sep
17
comment How can I teach my 5yo son to respect authority?
Dictatorship: Forgive me my wording. As I also mentioned, we strive to use reason and explanations but it often ends with some sort of definite ending from our side. If he won't accept our reasoning, he's going to have to accept that, sorry bub, that's just how it's going to be, because we're the parents, know better, and we say so in your best interest. The end. Believe me, we've tried all kinds of patience but eventually you reach a point where it all ends -- patience, arguments, reason. Thanks for your alternate perspective. I'm not convinced of ODD either, but I'm evaluating the option.
Sep
17
comment How can I teach my 5yo son to respect authority?
Let us continue this discussion in chat.
Sep
17
revised How can I teach my 5yo son to respect authority?
linked another relevant post
Sep
17
comment How can I teach my 5yo son to respect authority?
My wife is very good at loudly counting "1... 2..." (based on earlier posts here, and other received parenting advice) and we have never reached 3 yet. But it seems impossible to be absolutely consistent with this, and having to do this all the time is wearing us out. We've done this since age 2 and it is mostly effective in the specific situation but there has been zero improvement in the long term. This is disheartening, especially when seeing the contrast to his sweet younger brother.