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Hello, world!

I'm a father of one pre-schooler and one toddler. My stake in this site is to learn from you, and also to contribute as much as I can!

Based on my own childhood and parenthood, my specialties are (among others): twins, languages, and international aspects. For the record, I'm an identical twin and married to a fraternal twin. I speak 4 languages fluently and I've lived in 5 countries (Europe, Japan).

I enjoy using my experience to help others. That is why I am active at even more SE sites in the StackExchange network on topics that interest me.

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Sep
17
comment How can I teach my 5yo son to respect authority?
Dictatorship: Forgive me my wording. As I also mentioned, we strive to use reason and explanations but it often ends with some sort of definite ending from our side. If he won't accept our reasoning, he's going to have to accept that, sorry bub, that's just how it's going to be, because we're the parents, know better, and we say so in your best interest. The end. Believe me, we've tried all kinds of patience but eventually you reach a point where it all ends -- patience, arguments, reason. Thanks for your alternate perspective. I'm not convinced of ODD either, but I'm evaluating the option.
Sep
17
comment How can I teach my 5yo son to respect authority?
Let us continue this discussion in chat.
Sep
17
revised How can I teach my 5yo son to respect authority?
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Sep
17
comment How can I teach my 5yo son to respect authority?
My wife is very good at loudly counting "1... 2..." (based on earlier posts here, and other received parenting advice) and we have never reached 3 yet. But it seems impossible to be absolutely consistent with this, and having to do this all the time is wearing us out. We've done this since age 2 and it is mostly effective in the specific situation but there has been zero improvement in the long term. This is disheartening, especially when seeing the contrast to his sweet younger brother.
Sep
17
comment How can I teach my 5yo son to respect authority?
Time-outing: our typical problem is that we can't enforce the time-out, at least not consistently. He won't stay in the assigned spot, he won't sit still or be quiet, he plainly won't obey. While I'm at work, my wife has limited means of enforcement because she can't leave the toddler unattended. While I'm home, the only consistently effective means of discipline is when I bodily carry him to his room and sit myself down in front of his door (on his side); this will calm him within 3-5 minutes every time but is not an option for my wife.
Sep
17
comment How can I teach my 5yo son to respect authority?
Adressing your questions: "siblings" - one well-balanced younger brother, aged 2, whom he generally terrorizes. "kids with ODD drive their parents crazy" and "ADHD" - I've been feeling that from the start. "a biological component" - there is one person in the family that only got his act together at around age 30.
Sep
16
comment How can I teach my 5yo son to respect authority?
Great thought! Yes we model good citizenship and frequently talk about following rules, e.g. in traffic, when we see a police car or officer, etc.
Sep
16
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Sep
1
reviewed Reviewed How and when to disclose to children a parent's suicide
Sep
1
comment How and when to disclose to children a parent's suicide
So what is your answer to the "when" question? You only explained your situation but not what you'd recommend for others.
Aug
26
comment How are pregnancy ultrasounds administered?
In Austria, we got 3D ultrasounds as well. At no extra cost.
Aug
26
answered How are pregnancy ultrasounds administered?
Aug
24
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Aug
24
revised How can I assuage my pre-teen's fear of flying
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Aug
24
comment How can I assuage my pre-teen's fear of flying
Are you saying that the girl doesn't feel safe in her family? I'm glad to hear from a professional but I have to say that I feel this response is way over the top, suggesting therapy work right off the bat without suggesting or attempting any easier and less drastic alternives first. As a professional, could you give some such alternatives too?
Aug
21
comment Destructive when unattended
What is your reaction when you encounter destruction? What is his reaction to yours? Does this help you identify if there is spite involved, or remorse afterward, or any kind of hostile/moral emotions?
Aug
20
awarded  Good Answer
Aug
20
answered Older sister grabs whatever her younger sister holds
Aug
20
comment From what age is it safe to install a life hammer in my car?
Car windows are safety glass without sharp edges, so "extremely dangerous" is a serious exaggeration. It's no worse than fine gravel. The bell is a nice idea!
Aug
16
comment Writing from the bottom up
@user3143 see this question about Qwerty/Dvorak in which the consensus seems to be that keyboard skills are important but Dvorak is (sadly) not a realistic goal.