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Hello, world!

I'm a father of one pre-schooler and one toddler. My stake in this site is to learn from you, and also to contribute as much as I can!

Based on my own childhood and parenthood, my specialties are (among others): twins, languages, and international aspects. For the record, I'm an identical twin and married to a fraternal twin. I speak 4 languages fluently and I've lived in 5 countries (Europe, Japan).

I enjoy using my experience to help others. That is why I am active at even more SE sites in the StackExchange network on topics that interest me.

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Outside of this site, I'm something of a Swiss army knife both professionally and in private, able to juggle a wild variety of things at once. I've worked in every kind of business that uses software. I'm also very good with tools, both IT and mechanic. Whether you need software design or assembling some IKEA furniture, I'm your man for the job. I'm generally soft-spoken but driven by clear principles.

To learn more about me, see my Google+ profile.


May
23
awarded  Enthusiast
May
22
comment What are some good tea party snacks for toddlers?
That's a lot of sugar...?
May
21
comment What should I teach my teenager about condoms?
+1 for the point of avoiding a specific event as the embarrassing trigger.
May
21
comment What should I teach my teenager about condoms?
turn that comment into an answer and you'll get a handful of upvotes for sure. Short, practical, simple!
May
21
comment What do I do about the fact that my child can already read, write and do math before entering Kindergarten?
Oh boy that sounds familiar!
May
20
reviewed Approve suggested edit on What do I do about the fact that my child can already read, write and do math before entering Kindergarten?
May
20
comment How do I deal with a child that refuses to do a chore or task?
@Kivetros, put that in an answer by itself please, along with a short summary. Some might find it interesting.
May
20
comment Why does my infant wake crying the instant we put him in his bed?
nah, they remain sensitive even later.
May
20
comment Why does my infant wake crying the instant we put him in his bed?
Your last sentence is a bit hardcore :) but I like the general idea.
May
19
revised How can I help my child develop social intelligence?
Fixed typo.
May
19
comment What are the next steps after a twin mix-up has been discovered after several years?
I've pondered this some more during the day. Sure my dad had mistaken me for my brother every now and then, but never permanently. I absolutely cannot imagine that such a mix-up could actually happen.
May
19
comment What are the next steps after a twin mix-up has been discovered after several years?
In Jay's question, it was stated that the mix-up is discovered at age 6. If I'm wildly successful and my twin isn't, I'd hate to have looming in the background the knowledge that everything I signed and own is actually in his name, not mine. I'm just saying that when the mistake is known then it's wisest to fix it.
May
19
comment Why does my infant wake crying the instant we put him in his bed?
@Tom, that reinforcement can be desired, if one subscribes to the "attachment parenting" philosophy that has been mentioned in other posts. Some parents encourage that, others (like myself) don't - but perhaps it's something to make a conscious decision about? And then some infants might actually have their own opinion on this, which must be taken into account.
May
19
comment What are the next steps after a twin mix-up has been discovered after several years?
-1 Sorry, but ignoring can be dangerous because if one gets into serious legal trouble then, worst case, the other one could be made punishable. Don't risk that. Same theory applies to any and all legal contracts; whatever Twin A signs, Twin B should never be made liable for, or able to claim. Think of jobs, loans, ownership of property and other high-value items, etc.
May
19
comment What are the next steps after a twin mix-up has been discovered after several years?
+1 Being a twin, and married to one, we both feel this is the best way. The kids get to keep the names they've become used to; the paperwork must be adjusted. I couldn't imagine having to swap my name with my brother!!
May
19
comment What are the next steps after a twin mix-up has been discovered after several years?
They generally don't do fingerprints, and even the footprints are made as a memento and a novelty. They are useless as a "forensic" tool because you can't compare an infant footprint with a 6yo and they're not made with that kind of precision.
May
19
answered How do I make sure I don't mix up identical twin newborns?
May
19
comment When is it safe to start letting our children go into relationships?
Apart from the (unnecessary?) "lefty" remarks as you call them, this post is fantastic. Should go on the fridge of any tween/teen parents :)
May
19
comment How do you know if you're ready to be a parent?
I guess that depends on how the involved parties handle the conflict. Here is a resource that discusses this. That blog touches on the subject regularly; see also here and here.
May
18
comment How do you know if you're ready to be a parent?
I like your writing style. To your point 1) I would add that the relationship should share the same financial philosophy. It doesn't matter if both are savers or both are spenders, as long as they agree with each other.