Torben Gundtofte-Bruun

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Hello, world!

I'm a father of one pre-schooler and one toddler. My stake in this site is to learn from you, and also to contribute as much as I can!

Based on my own childhood and parenthood, my specialties are (among others): twins, languages, and international aspects. For the record, I'm an identical twin and married to a fraternal twin. I speak 4 languages fluently and I've lived in 5 countries (Europe, Japan).

I enjoy using my experience to help others. That is why I am active at even more SE sites in the StackExchange network on topics that interest me.

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Outside of this site, I'm something of a Swiss army knife both professionally and in private, able to juggle a wild variety of things at once. I've worked in every kind of business that uses software. I'm also very good with tools, both IT and mechanic. Whether you need software design or assembling some IKEA furniture, I'm your man for the job. I'm generally soft-spoken but driven by clear principles.

To learn more about me, see my Google+ profile.


May
19
comment Why does my infant wake crying the instant we put him in his bed?
@Tom, that reinforcement can be desired, if one subscribes to the "attachment parenting" philosophy that has been mentioned in other posts. Some parents encourage that, others (like myself) don't - but perhaps it's something to make a conscious decision about? And then some infants might actually have their own opinion on this, which must be taken into account.
May
19
comment What are the next steps after a twin mix-up has been discovered after several years?
-1 Sorry, but ignoring can be dangerous because if one gets into serious legal trouble then, worst case, the other one could be made punishable. Don't risk that. Same theory applies to any and all legal contracts; whatever Twin A signs, Twin B should never be made liable for, or able to claim. Think of jobs, loans, ownership of property and other high-value items, etc.
May
19
comment What are the next steps after a twin mix-up has been discovered after several years?
+1 Being a twin, and married to one, we both feel this is the best way. The kids get to keep the names they've become used to; the paperwork must be adjusted. I couldn't imagine having to swap my name with my brother!!
May
19
comment What are the next steps after a twin mix-up has been discovered after several years?
They generally don't do fingerprints, and even the footprints are made as a memento and a novelty. They are useless as a "forensic" tool because you can't compare an infant footprint with a 6yo and they're not made with that kind of precision.
May
19
answered How do I make sure I don't mix up identical twin newborns?
May
19
comment When is it safe to start letting our children go into relationships?
Apart from the (unnecessary?) "lefty" remarks as you call them, this post is fantastic. Should go on the fridge of any tween/teen parents :)
May
19
comment How do you know if you're ready to be a parent?
I guess that depends on how the involved parties handle the conflict. Here is a resource that discusses this. That blog touches on the subject regularly; see also here and here.
May
18
comment How do you know if you're ready to be a parent?
I like your writing style. To your point 1) I would add that the relationship should share the same financial philosophy. It doesn't matter if both are savers or both are spenders, as long as they agree with each other.
May
18
comment At what age should a child be introduced to the Television?
In this TED talk a language researcher determines that "talking heads on a screen" have practically zero impact on children's language learning (I think she said 2% as compared to 100% of a real person).
May
18
comment What are the (dis)advantages of putting a child in a nursery or pre-school even when one parent is at home?
Wow, I've hear good things about that method! Wish you all the best!
May
18
comment What are the (dis)advantages of putting a child in a nursery or pre-school even when one parent is at home?
Literally dropping a child? No, that's not the right thing to do ;-) Children are fragile with many small bits. They can be difficult to glue together again if they break. (Sorry for this joke, but I felt I had to comment on the literal. Just for fun!)
May
18
comment Is bribing children with cash incentives a good idea?
+1 for not negotiating rules, and for the idea of performing services.
May
18
reviewed Approve suggested edit on How can an older brother fill the parenting void of an absent father?
May
18
revised Are signs of early puberty in a primary-school aged child a cause for concern?
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May
18
revised How can an older brother fill the parenting void of an absent father?
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May
17
revised Is this excess phlegm and throat clearing a sign of lactose intolerance?
Fixed typos.
May
17
comment Is there any scientific evidence in favor of co-sleeping with children?
Rory, your answer misses the point. Javid was asking for scientific evidence in favor, and you provided none. Sorry, but I have to -1 that even though I agree with what you're saying.
May
17
comment Is there any scientific evidence in favor of co-sleeping with children?
I agree with nearly all of your answer, except that my personal opinion on "well-rested parents" is that I'm a lot more rested when I don't hear all the inconsequential movements and sounds. Having my son in the next room (with the doors open) adds just enough "noise-reduction" filter so that I do hear and react to anything that's more than inconsequential. Between that, I sleep better. But maybe it's just me.
May
17
comment Why does my infant wake crying the instant we put him in his bed?
@Tom, my wife told me the gyro thing; she's a physiotherapist with a special focus on the balance organ of the ear... I could send you her thesis but it's in German ;) I have no idea where to find public information in English. Sorry!
May
17
revised My child has chickenpox, am I infectious?
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