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Dec
9
comment How to deal with a bedwetting teenager?
I concur. I suggest investigating a psychological evaluation and/or some sleep study observations.
Dec
8
comment Cleaning bathtub toys that squirt water
diluted bleach soak once in a while worked for us.
Dec
7
comment To medicate or not to medicate?
That kind of stigma is unfair and illogical so I wouldn't put to much weight behind it.
Dec
7
comment What studies exist regarding computer usage and computer game playing that support limiting access?
Perhaps it's a bit of vicarious guilt. "I wish my parents exposed me to more things than they did so I should try a bit harder with my kids." On the other hand, indulgences left unchecked aren't always good either. For instance, I know my kids would eat McDonalds for every meal if they could. :)
Dec
7
comment What studies exist regarding computer usage and computer game playing that support limiting access?
I see it as a difference in both frequency and magnitude. Either way, yes, the solution is the same. It's just that also requires a different magnitude of intervention. IMHO, of course. As for last question, I think it's both. I think a person can likely be much more mean online than they otherwise would be in person, and can be subjected to more meanness online than they otherwise would be in person. (Again, just my opinion)
Dec
7
comment What studies exist regarding computer usage and computer game playing that support limiting access?
@doug, well, sports trivia is certainly a way to socialize with certain people. That said, in general, 'well read' usually refers to a broader knowledge base. Granted, there's plenty of fluff books that probably don't add a whole lot to one's perspective in life. In the end, it's not so much the medium as much as it is the actual content. I'd say reading wikipedia on the computer is better for the mind than reading the latest Archie Comics. But perhaps reading some Socrates trumps 2 hours of angry birds. ;)
Dec
7
comment To medicate or not to medicate?
What stigma are you referring to? There are those that believe drugs are bad, but there's also otherwise brilliant people like Steve Jobs who thought he could cure cancer without a doctor. In the end, your child's well being should be the main focus and trump any whispers behind your back at the PTA meetings. ;)
Dec
7
comment To medicate or not to medicate?
...the 'media barrage' isn't actually relevant to ADD in a lot of cases. For those of us with ADD, having that 'barrage' is actually a way for us to focus. It drives non-ADD people mad and they can't seem to understand it, but those of us with it will often have the TV on while we're reading. Or the radio on while we're working. An analogy is that we're trying to keep a part of our mind busy that otherwise would be distracting the part of our mind that we're using to accomplish a task. This is not unlike how certain medications work on the ADD mind (as a simplified metaphor, of course)
Dec
7
comment To medicate or not to medicate?
"It seems pathetic that we must be in some form medicated" I would hardly call advancements in mental health treatment options 'pathetic'. I don't mind a careful, if even skeptical evaluation of whether to medicate or not, but I'm not a fan of those that brush off the entire concept of medication as it's a careless thing to do. All that said, adjusting one's environments is certainly an accepted and used form of coping as much as medication is. HOWEVER...
Dec
7
comment To medicate or not to medicate?
@nGinius while giving a break from meds can be an option, do check with your doctor(s) as some meds require a long time to re-build up after a break.
Dec
6
answered To medicate or not to medicate?
Dec
3
comment How can my 7yo daugher increase her attention span in school?
You are free to disagree, but I'd say that's a gross overgeneralization.
Dec
2
comment What are the psychological impacts of a split-religion household?
(I say that as an atheist that does have a certain amount of appreciation for the concept of a church...community, volunteer organization, pot lucks...)
Dec
2
comment What are the psychological impacts of a split-religion household?
"I'm a very strong nonbeliever" just have to point out that there really isn't any 'strength' scale for not believing something. ;) You either do, or you don't. Good answer, though. I've been casually considering the Unitarian model. Seems that might be the one place that a couple with religious views on opposite ends of the spectrum can comfortably go together.
Dec
2
comment What are the psychological impacts of a split-religion household?
@doug it's not a religion, but it is a religious point of view (yea, I guess that's semantics now...). Actually, I call it more of a political point of view. But now we're opening whole other cans of worms. ;) I do agree with you on indoctrination. Maybe it's a harsh term, but the concept is there. Kids don't naturally take to religion...it's something they are specifically taught, usually by their parents doing. I'm not saying it's necessarily bad or necessarily good, but it is something that isn't really a free choice they make.
Dec
2
comment What studies exist regarding computer usage and computer game playing that support limiting access?
Example 1: log into any average online shooter multi player server and just see the chat log. As adults, we can easily write it off as silly hormonal immaturity. But kids see each other a lot differently than we adults see them. Example 2: Facebook. Post a comment about religion or politics and watch the name calling begin. And these are usually adults. sigh ;)
Dec
2
comment What studies exist regarding computer usage and computer game playing that support limiting access?
@doug the point I disagree with is "given that these objectionable things exist in the real world just the same". They don't exist just the same. People say things to each other online that they'd never say in person. Typing into a text box reduces the liability of one's immediate actions. And words hurt the most in the teen/preteen years. As for censorship, that's not anything I'm arguing for or against. Merely stating that uninhibited interactions amongst pubescent kids can bring out an uglier side to them.
Dec
2
comment Why do kids always do things which we tell them NOT to do?
Because they are humans with their own free will. 'tis human nature.
Dec
1
comment What to buy to prepare for the arrival of a new baby?
I've never heard of noodles for car seats! But it makes sense. As for isofix, do note that it's not a cure-all. One still has to make sure things are proper. Where our kids grew up, you could also go to any fire station and they'd come out and thoroughly inspect the installation of the car seat for you for free.
Dec
1
comment What studies exist regarding computer usage and computer game playing that support limiting access?
On-line interactions being notoriously uninhibited is a gigantic drawback, IMHO--especially for kids--namely in the preteen/teenage years. It's even a problem for adults. Read the comments at the bottom of nearly any online newspaper article and you will see humans interacting with each other in truly offensive ways. Now, that said, there are other benefits to online socializing--a big one being like the SE sites...it allows people to search out others with like interests a lot easier. One can find groups to fit-in with online that don't always exist in their particular region.