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Jul 7	comment	How can I prevent my 8-year-old from spending time with his bad friend? @BBM: The friend has gone to Africa to spend the summer with family through August. We leave in a week for a 10-month sabbatical, so we will not see him again until Jun 2012.
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Jun 11	accepted	How can I prevent my 8-year-old from spending time with his bad friend?
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Jun 6	comment	How can I prevent my 8-year-old from spending time with his bad friend? I appreciate your response, Thomas, but I have never and would never engineer a conversation for my son to overhear. Both my wife and I prefer to talk to him directly, and he responds well to that approach.
Jun 6	comment	How can I prevent my 8-year-old from spending time with his bad friend? Just to clarify, I never said the child was bad. I just said I was shocked and dismayed at the things he said in my presence and in my son's presence. To contrast, the child also is refreshingly polite at times, and he is fairly charismatic (he obviously attracted my son).
Jun 6	comment	How can I prevent my 8-year-old from spending time with his bad friend? I have a huge amount of personal, anecdotal evidence to support what you say here, Jeff. And although I'm a scientist by day, I can't help but listen to what my gut is telling me. My brothers hung out with druggies, and I did not. Guess who made it out of that neighborhood?
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Jun 6	comment	How can I prevent my 8-year-old from spending time with his bad friend? I agree; @HedgeMage has a level-headed perspective and writes with refreshing intelligence on a difficult topic.
Jun 6	comment	How can I prevent my 8-year-old from spending time with his bad friend? @torbengb: The sabbatical was planned long ago, before this other kid was in our lives. And yes, we are returning to the same house in summer 2012. My sabbaticals are every 7 years, so this isn't a great solution. :) :)
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Jun 6	comment	How can I prevent my 8-year-old from spending time with his bad friend? @scrappedcola Yes, I've spoken to him numerous times about his friend's actions. My son says he doesn't approve of the things his friend says, but still wants to hang out with him. I've never invalidated his feelings.
Jun 6	comment	How can I prevent my 8-year-old from spending time with his bad friend? My kid knows some profanity... he knows "hell," and "damn" and knows not to use them at school since he's seen other kids get in trouble for doing so. The other day he asked me "Dad, what is the 'F' word?" and I explained that it was better he waited a while to learn that word since he had no practical reason to know it at age 8 and accidentally using it would just get him into trouble. And to address your 2nd statement, the other kid already is in counseling at school.
Jun 6	comment	How can I prevent my 8-year-old from spending time with his bad friend? My wife's sister homeschools all 8 of hers (she's not human), but it isn't practical for us. Nor can we afford private schools. Our school is actually amazing; the teachers are simply wonderful. This one child is making our experience a challenge, however.
Jun 6	comment	How can I prevent my 8-year-old from spending time with his bad friend? Oh, and I edited my question to emphasize that "typical middle class family" was relative to my neighborhood; I didn't mean to imply that we were necessarily typical for all of the US.
Jun 6	comment	How can I prevent my 8-year-old from spending time with his bad friend? By "love and understanding" my wife definitely did not mean overlooking the child's behavior; she's called him on things more than I have. And she's very plain and matter-of-fact about the rules here. But she disagrees with my "keep him out of our house" decision, saying I'm overreacting. This child is already ostracized at school and in our neighborhood (where he doesn't fit in well), and she doesn't think that we should do the same.
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