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comment How can I prevent my 8-year-old from spending time with his bad friend?
@BBM: The friend has gone to Africa to spend the summer with family through August. We leave in a week for a 10-month sabbatical, so we will not see him again until Jun 2012.
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comment How can I prevent my 8-year-old from spending time with his bad friend?
I appreciate your response, Thomas, but I have never and would never engineer a conversation for my son to overhear. Both my wife and I prefer to talk to him directly, and he responds well to that approach.
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comment How can I prevent my 8-year-old from spending time with his bad friend?
Just to clarify, I never said the child was bad. I just said I was shocked and dismayed at the things he said in my presence and in my son's presence. To contrast, the child also is refreshingly polite at times, and he is fairly charismatic (he obviously attracted my son).
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comment How can I prevent my 8-year-old from spending time with his bad friend?
I have a huge amount of personal, anecdotal evidence to support what you say here, Jeff. And although I'm a scientist by day, I can't help but listen to what my gut is telling me. My brothers hung out with druggies, and I did not. Guess who made it out of that neighborhood?
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I agree; @HedgeMage has a level-headed perspective and writes with refreshing intelligence on a difficult topic.
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comment How can I prevent my 8-year-old from spending time with his bad friend?
@torbengb: The sabbatical was planned long ago, before this other kid was in our lives. And yes, we are returning to the same house in summer 2012. My sabbaticals are every 7 years, so this isn't a great solution. :) :)
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comment How can I prevent my 8-year-old from spending time with his bad friend?
@scrappedcola Yes, I've spoken to him numerous times about his friend's actions. My son says he doesn't approve of the things his friend says, but still wants to hang out with him. I've never invalidated his feelings.
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comment How can I prevent my 8-year-old from spending time with his bad friend?
My kid knows some profanity... he knows "hell," and "damn" and knows not to use them at school since he's seen other kids get in trouble for doing so. The other day he asked me "Dad, what is the 'F' word?" and I explained that it was better he waited a while to learn that word since he had no practical reason to know it at age 8 and accidentally using it would just get him into trouble. And to address your 2nd statement, the other kid already is in counseling at school.