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Husband, Father, Catholic ... also a corporate IT stooge, just waiting for the scorn and ridicule to be heaped upon me.

Jun
14
comment How do you teach a child religious views?
+1 - I upvoted to offset a downvote, because I sense some religious hostility in the comments. You all are forgetting that to those of us who believe, our beliefs are the truth. So we teach them as the truth, the truth to us, and hope our children come to the same understanding.
Jun
14
comment How do you teach a child religious views?
+1 - Nicely written.
Jun
14
comment How do you teach a child religious views?
@Hairy Parenting by negotiation and persuasion doesn't work with toddlers. For heavens sake, washing of hands after visiting the rest room is not negotiable. If they don't, take a baby wipe to their hands and punish them.
Jun
14
comment What is the least problematic age difference between siblings?
You are overthinking the matter. Good parenting will produce good children regardless of the spacing, and vice versa. You want another child ... have another child. The last thing you want to do is make it about the other child(ren).
Jun
14
comment How can we discipline a strong-willed, misbehaving 5 year-old?
+1 for the clear and actionable response! However, don't get carried away with the warnings. Once the child knows that (for instance) shouting in public is not OK, stop warning and go directly to punishment.
Jun
10
comment How can you deal with tantrums without spanking?
@Ilari ... Being able to express emotions doesn't mean being free to express emotions in any way desired at any time desired. Parents must teach kids when and how such expression is appropriate. Tantrums are about power. Most come about in an attempt to get an unsatisfied want of one form or another satisfied. Kids are smart and learn quickly. If a kid figures out that a tantrum gets Mom to give them a cookie, tantrums become a tool to get cookies. If instead a tantrum gets the kid a whack on the bottom and a seat in the time out chair, tantrums won't happen too often.
Jun
10
comment How can you deal with tantrums without spanking?
@Ilari .. OK .. we can't hurt the kid's self esteem with the bad label .. we might damage them permanently. Call it "undesired" behavior. But your "no alternative" idea is nonsense .. the "desired" behavior is to not throw the tantrum. Oh my heavens .. leaving an emotion unexpressed .. we can't have that .. our kid might become repressed.
Jun
1
comment How do we help our toddler to sleep through the night?
Fixed the number of thoughts. I had a third but thought better of it.
Jun
1
comment How can you deal with tantrums without spanking?
I agree with punishing the undesired behavior, but you also mentioned distraction and ignoring, with which I don't agree.
May
31
comment How can you deal with tantrums without spanking?
Depends on the kid. My daughter loves to participate, to be in the action. So punishment was pulling her away from things. Once at a birthday party when she was 8 she misbehaved, and her punishment was that she had to watch the pinata without getting to take her turn or go after the candy. It worked wonders .. she was an angel at the rest of that parties that summer.
May
31
comment How do we help our toddler to sleep through the night?
Excellent answer .. it worked well for my daughter.
May
31
comment How can you deal with tantrums without spanking?
Here I STRONGLY disagree. There may be reasons for a tantrum or other bad behavior, but that doesn't mean they are OK. At 2, I can see that distracting might make sense. At 10, a tantrum gets punished. The kid needs to learn that bad behavior is not OK, whether you think you have been wronged or not.
May
31
comment How can you deal with tantrums without spanking?
@JBRWilkinson .. Are you kidding? Of course a tantrum is bad behavior. It may well be the sign as you suggest, but it is still bad behavior, and should be dealt with as such.