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Husband, Father, Catholic ... also a corporate IT stooge, just waiting for the scorn and ridicule to be heaped upon me.

Oct
28
comment What's the best way to extract baby snot?
Probably a great help, but the concept of hooking an electric pump up to an infants nose scares me.
Oct
28
comment ADD Children and writing - tips, tricks?
@DA01 I didn't say ignore, I said don't continually talk about, don't focus on, and don't use as an excuse. I also did not say it was going to be easy ... there is no easy. Your mom seems to have gotten it right; her ADD son was an excellent student and is now a working professional who controls his ADD rather than allowing it to control him. The likelihood of an easy, pleasant solution having excellent results seems low to me.
Oct
28
comment ADD Children and writing - tips, tricks?
Every kid procrastinates, even those without ADD. If you were an excellent student, what was the problem?
Oct
27
comment At what age should you start giving your children pocket money?
Dave Ramsey is awesome! We followed his advice a few years back, got out of debt and have an emergency fund. I lost my job a couple of years ago and was unemployed for over a year. But my daughter stayed in private school, we kept our house, and we stayed out of debt. The unemployment became a bump in the road, not a catastrophe.
Oct
27
comment How do I get my child to stop picking his nose?
How about all three ..
Oct
27
comment How do I teach my child to express his frustration?
I think that actively discouraging the unwanted behaviors will help the child find alternatives, either through your own suggestion or by himself. And I do agree that this is needed.
Oct
27
comment How do I teach my child to express his frustration?
You mentioned 10 occurrences of dropping his head onto tile "as hard as he could." That is one reason I think it has to stop. My kid didn't hit her head 10 times in her entire 19 years of life.
Oct
27
comment How do I teach my child to express his frustration?
Sure, they bump into things, but rarely leading with the noggin. I could well be underestimating the resiliency of the toddler cranium, however. However, brain injuries are cumulative.
Oct
27
comment When is it safe to start letting our children go into relationships?
So what exactly are "old enough to get married" and "almost old enough to get married"?
Oct
27
comment When is it safe to start letting our children go into relationships?
@Ethel .. seriously? There are aggressive girls and sensitive boys, but they are the outliers. Boys and girls (and men and women) are different, and how they respond to sexual desires and emotional entanglements are among the differences.
Oct
27
comment When is it safe to start letting our children go into relationships?
@Ernie .. do you have the slightest bit of support for your final assertion? I think you have it exactly wrong ... the divorce rate and promiscuity seem to go hand in hand. Further, the inability (or unwillingness) to control one's sexual desires before marriage is a pretty good indicator that one will be unwilling or unable to remain monogamous during marriage.
Oct
26
comment What are some milestones a child should reach before learning programming?
Be aware .. so much related to programming now is on the internet, and the internet is not a good place for young kids.
Oct
22
comment How do I make sure I don't mix up identical twin newborns?
Until you can tell the difference, does it really matter?
Oct
19
comment How should a parent react when their child comes out of the closet to them?
@AarthiDevanathanΨ I suppose you are right, but I don't think I could do so without being negative and condescending. And, lest you forget, you are a moderator and an employee. One messes with your posts and risks offending you at ones own peril.
Oct
19
comment How should a parent react when their child comes out of the closet to them?
@Beofett ... Given that the question is "How should ... ", the "Ideally ..." statement can reasonably be construed as expressing the desired answer within the question. So is the real question "how should imperfect parents deal with their poor response?"
Oct
18
comment How should a parent react when their child comes out of the closet to them?
@Beofett - seriously? "... ideally all parents would love and accept their child as they are" seems like a pretty clear expectation, and in fact is answering the question!
Oct
18
comment What should I teach my teenager about condoms?
That the need for them is a pretty good idea that what he is about to do is risky and probably a mistake ....
Oct
18
comment Should I enroll my child in driving lessons or teach them myself?
Obviously, you don't give your kid the keys if you aren't confident that the kid can drive safely and responsibly. But why does it follow that you are the best person to teach?
Oct
18
comment How should a parent react when their child comes out of the closet to them?
-1 .. subjective and agenda driven. Politically correct. There is no right answer, because it depends on the goal and perspective of the parents. What if the goal is to get the child to reconsider? What if the parents think the child is just in a "phase" or "experimenting"? What if the parents sincerely believe that homosexuality behavior will keep their child out of heaven? And so forth. Yet clearly, the answer expected will revolve around love, tolerance and acceptance.
Oct
8
comment How should a child respond to peers who ask about their adoption?
+1 .. I agree with @TorbenGundtofte-Bruun