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Mar
11
comment evaluating social/emotional development
@all "It helps to know what is socially/emotionally expected ... " is the problem. How can it be measured? If the goal is a "happy well adjusted child", then evaluate if your child is happy and well adjusted. If not, find out what and help your child. If yes, then who cares if the child has fewer friends than peers, or doesn't text message 100x/day, or only gets 1 birthday party invitation a month, or whatever measure some academic comes up with. This is one area where you should TRUST YOUR INSTINCTS.
Mar
8
comment evaluating social/emotional development
What is the point? What changes would less than stellar results lead you to make? Perhaps you should just make those changes ...
Feb
27
comment How can I stop repeating myself?
I agree with the praise, but it sounds to me like you are doing a lot of negotiating and "cajoling." Here is the thing. You want the kid to comply, without hesitation, because you said so. You don't want the kid to evaluate the command and decide on compliance or not. You want it to be a habit .. Dad speaks, kid complies, without discussion, without argument, without negotiation. The only way to get there is to apply punishment immediately upon non-compliance, every time, without hesitation.
Feb
27
comment Is the “1 2 3 Magic” strategy for disciplining effective?
The "straight to punishment" part IS THE ENTIRE POINT. If the kid knows you are going to say it twice, there is no reason to listen the first time. If the parent has been repeating and getting angry consistently, it might take 50 cycles of speak, wait, punish for the kid to figure it out and adapt. But believe me, the kid will eventually adapt.
Feb
22
comment How do you get a child to eat?
Please clarify ... is he normal for height and weight, and is he getting nutrition some other way, such as from a bottle or breast?
Feb
22
comment What would be a effective way to explain pornography?
The idea is that you can't prevent them from exposure, but you can help them realize how terrible and destructive it is, so that they will have second thoughts.
Feb
21
comment Help for my friend's pre-schooler who eats too much
This strikes me as something that should be brought up to a doctor.
Feb
19
comment How can I address issues that concern me at daycare (and school) without creating tension with the staff?
@TorbenGundtofte-Bruun The problem can only be faced and resolved if the provider is willing to listen and take action. My point is that if they are not willing to do so, that unwillingness should be properly weighted.
Feb
19
comment When did you let your child play around your house unattended? (by herself)
@Treb Yes ... the nanny state is encouraging people to think that the government needs to get involved in everything.
Feb
19
comment Moving with our bilingual child
@Treb Indoctrination instead of education is common everywhere unfortunately.
Feb
19
comment What should one look for in first firearms training for children?
Great question! I would answer, but @HedgeMage nailed it.
Feb
19
comment What should one look for in first firearms training for children?
+1 Nice answer .. I can't add a thing!
Feb
19
comment What would be a effective way to explain pornography?
@TorbenGundtofte-Bruun I think saarthak answered the question very precisely. He will tell his children that porn is contrary to the values in which he believes, which include chastity and purity. Absent those values, what exactly is wrong with porn?
Feb
19
comment What would be a effective way to explain pornography?
@DA01 Would you show porn to your kids? Why not?
Feb
19
comment What would be a effective way to explain pornography?
Pedantic note: Who cares about efficient. You want effective.
Feb
19
comment Ideas for dealing with a 16 month old toddler who likes to climb things?
+1 I Concur ... it is called being parents. Toddlers need to be watched and managed. There really is no way around it.
Jan
12
comment Is it ever okay to tell a kid you disagree with their parents?
Except it doesn't answer the "should I disagree" question. I completely agree with Karl that being loving and supportive of the kids is important. But more important is not maligning the parents to their kids.
Jan
3
comment How do you control the quantity of sweets and junk food a pre-teen eats?
+1 to counter @bobobobo .. looking forward to dessert 1 meal a week is hardly making it routine, in fact it is just the opposite. This approach seems like a great way to get the kids into the habit of not expecting sweets routinely.
Nov
13
comment What are some tips for making an international flight with a toddler?
@JeffAtwood That depends on the 20 month old. My 19 year old (girl) started talking at around 14 months and hasn't shut up since.
Nov
13
comment What are some tips for making an international flight with a toddler?
Liberal use of Benadryl can prove helpful ....