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Husband, Father, Catholic ... also a corporate IT stooge, just waiting for the scorn and ridicule to be heaped upon me.

Mar
27
comment What do we do when timeouts are not effective?
A friend once told me that as parents, you get "lots of at bats". You don't have to get it right every time, but you have to keep trying. A single error does little harm, but consistent errors do great harm.
Mar
27
comment What do we do when timeouts are not effective?
@AskBjørnHansen You miss my point. You need to parent, to exercise authority, and to be in control when your child is young. The police officer who gives you a traffic citation for driving too fast is not "resolving conflict", he is enforcing the rules and exercising authority. And next time, you are going to slow down on the that street.
Mar
26
comment What do we do when timeouts are not effective?
Parental discipline is not about resolving conflict, it is about managing behavior and teaching proper responses to parental authority. The child learning that yelling at Mommy results in a shoulder pinch does not translate into child thinking it is OK to punch an irritating classmate. Mine didn't.
Mar
26
comment What do we do when timeouts are not effective?
@mmr The methods can be applied independent of one's religiosity ... they are entirely behavioral. Corporal punishment is advocated because, in his view, when properly done it is effective. My experience confirms this. Be aware that properly done includes never, ever, using corporal punishment when angry.
Mar
26
comment What do we do when timeouts are not effective?
The kid is THREE .. discussion, persuasion and explanation do not work. The chart isn't a bad idea though.
Mar
25
revised My toddler is waking up with crust on the inside of her eyes, should I be concerned?
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Mar
25
answered My toddler is waking up with crust on the inside of her eyes, should I be concerned?
Mar
25
comment How do you prepare for the “terrible twos”?
Disagree .. this isn't about teaching the kid to express themselves .. it is about teaching the child to control their behavior. I never had any trouble knowing what my two-year-old daughter wanted.
Mar
25
comment How do you prepare for the “terrible twos”?
You don't. There is no preparation. Be afraid, be very afraid. ;-) Seriously .. search the site for "tantrum". Remember .. parenting requires courage! Good luck.
Mar
25
comment How can we avoid tantrums over sweets and cakes?
-1 .. doesn't even pretend to answer the question, just lectures about the evils of sweets.
Mar
25
answered Guided Meditation for Children
Mar
25
answered How should parents handle disagreement over medicine?
Mar
25
answered Immediate reflux/heartburn relief for a baby (8 months old)
Mar
25
answered What do we do when timeouts are not effective?
Mar
25
answered How do you know when a baby needs to be burped?
Mar
20
answered How can I handle my toddler's bedtime-avoidance tricks?
Mar
20
comment Should I use a child harness?
We used a harness in busy places .. travelling, amusement parks, the mall .. mainly to avoid her getting lost in the crowds.
Mar
20
comment Is it reasonable to put limits on a pre-teen playing video games?
I don't care if the video games are the cause .. this is about rewarding desired behavior and punishing undesirable behavior. If the kid loves video games, then they are a powerful incentive.
Mar
17
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Mar
15
comment Is it reasonable to put limits on a pre-teen playing video games?
@Treb I agree in theory but not in practice. Except in the most demanding of classes, grades are virtually 100% correlated with effort and discipline.