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Husband, Father, Catholic ... also a corporate IT stooge, just waiting for the scorn and ridicule to be heaped upon me.

Jun
12
comment How can I handle my toddler's bedtime-avoidance tricks?
How will you know if you don't read it? "Spanking" is non-specific and somewhat pejorative. He advocates using corporal punishment when other forms of punishment fail. I personally found a tight squeeze of the neck/shoulder muscle far more effective for defiance than anything else. Dobson clearly, specifically and repeatedly says one should not punish from anger. Which is worse .. effective corporal punishment delivered calmly, or repeating ineffective punishments with increasing levels of frustration and emotion?
Jun
11
answered What should I be teaching my two year old?
May
31
awarded  Yearling
May
10
comment Do parents of teens need a locked liquor cabinet?
@Beofett It was really a rhetorical question, along with some hope that the 17 year old isn't a parent.
May
9
answered Do parents of teens need a locked liquor cabinet?
May
9
comment Do parents of teens need a locked liquor cabinet?
What on earth are you doing on a parenting site?
May
9
comment Do parents of teens need a locked liquor cabinet?
I am sure that some do. But parents probably drive teens to drink more!
May
9
comment Is the child obesity epidemic biasing growth charts?
Who cares! Comparing your child against standards such as these is a distraction from the real concerns. Is the child healthy? Is the child growing? Is the child making progress?
May
9
answered How do you deal with when you've had a “parenting fail”?
May
9
comment How do you deal with when you've had a “parenting fail”?
Why on earth does the child get an apology?
Apr
17
comment We're looking to get pregnant - what can we do to optimize our chances?
I have always thought it interesting how couples will aggressively train the women's bodies not to get pregnant for decades, and then be confused when that it doesn't get pregnant immediately when they change their minds.
Apr
17
comment We're looking to get pregnant - what can we do to optimize our chances?
You mean in addition to having lots of sex ?-)
Apr
14
answered How much time is too much time playing educational computer games?
Apr
14
comment Is the “1 2 3 Magic” strategy for disciplining effective?
Sure, and I imagine that you were generally strict such that your kids obeyed in general. The OP has a situation of kid not listening, so overly strict seems necessary.
Apr
8
revised Addressing bad behavior after the fact
Spelling, remove a bit of equivocation
Apr
8
comment Addressing bad behavior after the fact
+1 I agree with TGB ... and would in fact second the notion that intentional disobedience must be dealt with harshly. I define "a while" as within the memory. Also, don't be concerned about who instigates, be concerned about choices your child makes and actions your child takes. It matters little who thought of it.
Apr
6
answered How do I get a young toddler to walk holding my hand?
Apr
6
comment How can I stop repeating myself?
@Kevin I thought I got pedantic. I said "a second or two" as in a "small amount of time", like "hold on a second", not "1 or 2 seconds" as an exact unit of time. However long you think it takes the child to process and not much longer.
Apr
5
answered Do toddlers need every size of shoe?
Apr
5
comment Fostering a relationship with a relative your child doesn't like
@PéterTörök I don't have a huge problem with my child suffering a few wet kisses from Aunt Maggie. IMHO that is preferable to risking hurt feelings. Emerson once said that "Good manners are made up of petty sacrifices."