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Husband, Father, Catholic ... also a corporate IT stooge, just waiting for the scorn and ridicule to be heaped upon me.

Mar
20
awarded  Nice Answer
Mar
10
comment Why does my toddler cry when he's put to bed?
@erik Seriously .. "blank despair" after 5 minutes of crying? I think you are being a bit over-dramatic. Until you get a grip on reality, your kid is going to have you wrapped around his/her finger. Even an hour or two a night or crying for a week isn't going to scar the kid for life or destroy any hope of happiness.
Mar
5
awarded  Nice Answer
Jan
10
comment What would be a effective way to explain pornography?
locounu .. why is "loose" pejorative? It is a reasonable word choice as the antonym of "restrictive" or "tight". I suggest you are being overly sensitive. What term would you suggest?
Dec
23
awarded  toddler
Oct
10
comment Do parents of teens need a locked liquor cabinet?
@Ape-inago I disagree with that approach, because then the kid is forced to lie to her friends. Further, you don't think that teenagers will test the locks?
Aug
3
comment What are some tips for making an international flight with a toddler?
@DaveClarke my sarcasm was obviously too subtle ...
Jul
20
awarded  Nice Answer
Jun
13
answered Stomach crunches in the early stages of pregnancy?
Jun
12
comment How can I handle my toddler's bedtime-avoidance tricks?
The most important aspect is to NOT ACT FROM ANGER. You don't see people on Dr. Phil because they were spanked, but plenty whose Mom or Dad was "emotionally abusive."
Jun
12
comment How can I handle my toddler's bedtime-avoidance tricks?
Any punishment, in order to be effective, must be unpleasant. It must inflict discomfort of some kind in order to have an impact on future behavior. I don't see a difference between the physical discomfort and emotional discomfort, when both are given dispassionately and without anger.
Jun
12
comment How can I handle my toddler's bedtime-avoidance tricks?
How will you know if you don't read it? "Spanking" is non-specific and somewhat pejorative. He advocates using corporal punishment when other forms of punishment fail. I personally found a tight squeeze of the neck/shoulder muscle far more effective for defiance than anything else. Dobson clearly, specifically and repeatedly says one should not punish from anger. Which is worse .. effective corporal punishment delivered calmly, or repeating ineffective punishments with increasing levels of frustration and emotion?
Jun
11
answered What should I be teaching my two year old?
May
31
awarded  Yearling
May
10
comment Do parents of teens need a locked liquor cabinet?
@Beofett It was really a rhetorical question, along with some hope that the 17 year old isn't a parent.
May
9
answered Do parents of teens need a locked liquor cabinet?
May
9
comment Do parents of teens need a locked liquor cabinet?
What on earth are you doing on a parenting site?
May
9
comment Do parents of teens need a locked liquor cabinet?
I am sure that some do. But parents probably drive teens to drink more!
May
9
comment Is the child obesity epidemic biasing growth charts?
Who cares! Comparing your child against standards such as these is a distraction from the real concerns. Is the child healthy? Is the child growing? Is the child making progress?
May
9
answered How do you deal with when you've had a “parenting fail”?