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Husband, Father, Catholic ... also a corporate IT stooge, just waiting for the scorn and ridicule to be heaped upon me.

Jun
23
awarded  Nice Answer
Jun
23
comment What are the psychological impacts of a split-religion household?
@Hendy ... When you baptized the children in the Church, you made a commitment to raise them Catholic. Are you really willing to break that commitment?
Jun
23
comment What are the psychological impacts of a split-religion household?
@Hendy ... I am sorry to hear that you have fallen away. Respectfully, I doubt that you "researched your way away" from the Church, and I hope you find some peace with whatever drove you away.
Jun
23
comment How do I stop my daughter from hitting another child?
Be careful about this pattern; soon the warning becomes part of the dance. You are not trying to modify behavior around following Moms instructions, you are trying to modify behavior to not hit without having to be told. After two or three cycles with the warning, skip the warning and go directly to the consequence.
Jun
23
answered How can the god-parent obtain legal custody of children when single parent is comatose?
Jun
22
revised How do we determine what school is best when a child is high performing on the Autism Spectrum (Aspergers)?
Correct spelling error
Jun
22
comment How do we determine what school is best when a child is high performing on the Autism Spectrum (Aspergers)?
@Lennart - see my answer below - you didn't say you would pay attention to his thoughts and feelings, you said you would let him decide. The two ideas are very different. I stand by my position .. the 7 year old has no business making this decision.
Jun
22
answered How do we determine what school is best when a child is high performing on the Autism Spectrum (Aspergers)?
Jun
22
comment How do we determine what school is best when a child is high performing on the Autism Spectrum (Aspergers)?
@Lennart - Letting the child make the decision is nonsensical. The kid is SEVEN, and absolutely incapable of understanding the elements necessary to make the choice.
Jun
21
comment How can we discipline a strong-willed, misbehaving 5 year-old?
@HedgeMage, @Jane .. how comfortable are you talking when you know you are in trouble? Seriously, you are making too much out of the lack of eye contact. If the child can make eye contact during normal conversation but not when having tough conversations, that isn't abnormal.
Jun
21
comment How do I stop my daughter from hitting another child?
Is it OK for you to act out if someone else is annoying you? You can't teach that hitting is not OK, unless the other person deserves it. That doesn't mean don't figure out what is going on, but when the hitting (or cursing or disrespect) line is crossed, punishment happens.
Jun
14
comment How can we discipline a strong-willed, misbehaving 5 year-old?
@HedgeMage .. not responding to "correction" is perfectly normal, when said "correction" consists of nothing more than parental admonishment. It is very possible that hurting animals is not a symptom of an underlying problem, but rather something else that can get attention from Mommy. See my note on my own answer. And as to eye contact .. shying away from eye contact with an angry parent is not "not normal".
Jun
14
revised How can we discipline a strong-willed, misbehaving 5 year-old?
Added note about possible other issues.
Jun
14
answered How can we discipline a strong-willed, misbehaving 5 year-old?
Jun
14
comment How do you teach a child religious views?
@Hairy .. for some things, absolute, unquestioning compliance is necessary. No stepping off the sidewalk. No wandering away from Dad in the store. Personal hygiene is required. Negotiating/persuading for these kinds of things is the wrong approach. Not being diligent and disciplined in making these things happen is lazy, ineffectual parenting. The trick is deciding what things to force and what to not force. Force personal hygiene. Force common courtesy and treating others with respect. Don't try to force feelings, or likes, or beliefs.
Jun
14
comment How do you teach a child religious views?
@Hairy .. quips aside .. do you take issue with the concept that sometimes compliance is the only acceptable alternative?
Jun
14
comment How do you teach a child religious views?
@Hairy .. seriously? Washing of hands after visiting the rest room is optional in your family? Remind me not to shake hands if we ever meet.
Jun
14
comment How do you teach a child religious views?
-1 (if I could) for the "don't teach them your faith", don't send them to religious education nonsense. Parents are supposed to teach. Sometimes teaching happens when the child asks. Sometimes it happens when the teacher makes it happen. Both are important.
Jun
14
comment How do you teach a child religious views?
+1 - I upvoted to offset a downvote, because I sense some religious hostility in the comments. You all are forgetting that to those of us who believe, our beliefs are the truth. So we teach them as the truth, the truth to us, and hope our children come to the same understanding.
Jun
14
comment How do you teach a child religious views?
+1 - Nicely written.