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Jul
8
comment What should you do after you've raised your voice at your child?
You can parse the words all you want, and convince yourself that it is OK to blame the child for your losing it. That's my point. I put in one sentence here what is delivered in a couple of sentences, with a pause (or acknowledgement) in between. You have to BOTH take responsibility for your losing your cool and punish the child for the child's transgression. There can be no "why her actions led you to ..", because that is blaming the child.
Jul
8
comment What should you do after you've raised your voice at your child?
It is vitally important that you not do anything to give the child the impression that your losing it is their fault. Any putting a "but" after the apology does exactly that. DON'T MAKE EXCUSES WHEN YOU MESS UP.
Jul
8
comment What should you do after you've raised your voice at your child?
@Hairy .. There is no contradiction. There is a huge difference between "I'm sorry I over reacted, but I only overreacted because you did X" and "I'm sorry I overreacted, it was not OK and I will try not to do it again. Nonetheless, your doing X broke a rule and the punishment is Y." The first implies the the child is responsible for my losing my cool. The second doesn't.
Jul
6
comment What should you do after you've raised your voice at your child?
I would stop before the "explain why her actions led me ... ". An apology with conditions or excuses is not an apology.
Jul
6
answered How strict can I be with my niece?
Jul
6
comment What should you do after you've raised your voice at your child?
Yelling doesn't "just happen", it happens when someone loses control of their emotions. Kids should be treated with respect just as adults should. If you treat them with disrespect, you should apologize. In fact, it is important (and useful) to demonstrate self-control, and self-correction when you fail at self-control.
Jul
6
answered What should you do after you've raised your voice at your child?
Jul
3
comment How to react to “cruelty” of a toddler?
@lazyr I think this was sarcastic in nature ...
Jun
30
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Jun
30
answered How to react to “cruelty” of a toddler?
Jun
27
revised What are the psychological impacts of a split-religion household?
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Jun
27
comment What are the psychological impacts of a split-religion household?
@Beofett - I was talking about how he should treat his wife's beliefs. I brought it up because his blog posts relatively scornful of the Catholic faith. There is no indication from that his wife that she has behaved similarly.
Jun
27
comment What are the psychological impacts of a split-religion household?
@Beofett - The OP stipulated that his wife is a "strong faithful Catholic." As such, she believes in the faith as truth. She cannot treat it as anything else without lying.
Jun
27
answered What are the psychological impacts of a split-religion household?
Jun
26
comment What are the psychological impacts of a split-religion household?
@Hendy .. your personal disrespect for me and your bitterness and disrespect for the church itself are clear, which is why I posit that your falling away was not "researched" but rather emotional in nature. Again .. I hope you find peace.
Jun
23
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Jun
23
comment What are the psychological impacts of a split-religion household?
@Hendy ... When you baptized the children in the Church, you made a commitment to raise them Catholic. Are you really willing to break that commitment?
Jun
23
comment What are the psychological impacts of a split-religion household?
@Hendy ... I am sorry to hear that you have fallen away. Respectfully, I doubt that you "researched your way away" from the Church, and I hope you find some peace with whatever drove you away.
Jun
23
comment How do I stop my daughter from hitting another child?
Be careful about this pattern; soon the warning becomes part of the dance. You are not trying to modify behavior around following Moms instructions, you are trying to modify behavior to not hit without having to be told. After two or three cycles with the warning, skip the warning and go directly to the consequence.
Jun
23
answered How can the god-parent obtain legal custody of children when single parent is comatose?