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How should I respond to a child asking to have as much spending money as her friends do?

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When a child has some close friends at school, but some of them come from relatively richer families, so they get maybe twice my child's pocket money, how should I answer when he complains and asks to be on par with such friends?

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"That's great. I'm glad to see that you have ambitions. What do you think you can do to earn more money?"

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In addition to the answers already given, I would also point out those who are not as fortunate as you or the richer families.

Depending on the age of your child, it may be a good time to discuss community service. Take your child to a food bank or get involved in other activities where your child can experience both sides of the coin.


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How should I respond to a child asking to have as much spending money as her friends do?

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When a child has some close friends at school, but some of them come from relatively richer families, so they get maybe twice my child's pocket money, how should I answer when he complains and asks to be on par with such friends?


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"That's great. I'm glad to see that you have ambitions. What do you think you can do to earn more money?"

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Perfect. It let's the kid know (a) that you're listening and understanding their concerns; (b) sends the message, "If you have a problem you need to hunt for a solution," and (c) imparts the important message that in life work and effort is required if you want to enjoy material/monetary gain. - Scott Mitchell May 5 '11 at 19:36

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