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This is actually a pretty common problem. Basically, it boils down to you starting to stand on your own but your parents not liking some of the decisions you've made. They feel that you still need their guidance and protection and you feel that you don't. It's a struggle that pretty much everyone goes through at some point. Everyone's situation is different, ...


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Going from your answers and with my gut-feeling: Try to get your counsellor to REALLY push for some family-sessions. These are NOT for "you did this, so I did that" blaming, but hopefully for supervised LISTENING. Right now, the relationship to your father sounds deeply broken from both sides, and you both need help to understand each other again. If your ...


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First of great you took the step to counseling, you should continue your visits. But do not expect immediate results, this will likely be a slow process. If I understand your situation somewhat you made some bad choices in (boy)friends and now your father doesn't trust any of your friends anymore. You need to show your father he can trust you again and this ...


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This answer is somewhat in vein of @user1450877, but more specific. As others noted, the main problem is that your parents don't trust your judgement. In a superficial way, it's a situation similar to someone with a poor credit history, and the solution is similar as well. As a parent, the only way to regain that trust is to tangibly demonstrate a ...


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It is very likely that daycare will allow you to bring refrigerated or frozen breast milk and that your partner will be able to pump at work, but it takes dedication and logistics. I will share my experience, as it worked for us and was improved over months of trial/error. I went back to work when my baby was 3 months old. Each day, (after nursing my ...


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It is hard to say what is best to do without knowing more information, but I'll share my thoughts based on what you said. I can't know what caused your parents to act the way they do, but it does not seem like a supportive environment for you now. If the situation is not downright abusive though (are you physically in danger?), I wouldn't suggest doing ...


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You will probably be able to provide your own milk. Talk to daycare facilities you're considering and find out their policy. Some include formula and diapers as part of their services, some do not. Ours required parents to bring in the baby's food (whether breastmilk or formula) and stored it in the fridge with the bottle clearly labeled. Even in cases ...


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The problem is they don't trust your judgement. Maybe they have a reason to, as in trying to protect you from older men, or maybe they are just over protective but it comes from a place of love. They just want what is best for you . The best way to change things is to talk to them. Ask them what their fears are, why they don't trust you and what you can do ...


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When I was a teenager, my parents had one unbreakable rule. At any given time they had to know where I was, who I was with, and when I would be home. If any of those things changed, I had to call. This seemed unfair to me until my parents pointed out they voluntarily do this for each other. It's a natural part of engendering trust, and if anything should ...


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Its a parenting programme aimed at teaching parents a way to interact with their children by receiving immediate feedback on how they are interacting. A key aspect of being a parent is to set the behaviours of our children by the way we interact with them. Enforcing good behaviour by being a positive role model. One way is for a parent to display good ...


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Trust your wife. If she has chosen to be a stay-at-home mom, don't micromanage her. If she feels up to the task of running your busy household (three small children) without help, let her thrive. If you insist on bringing in outside help when she says she doesn't want it, you are sending a vote of "no confidence" and undermining her in her domain. Let her ...


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I never thought about it before, so here are a few things that just popped into my mind : You can maybe play "hide & seek" : your wife hide the device somewhere while still connected and your kid has to find "you" back sing-a-long with a little organisation you can probably also read him a book (while your wife turns the pages) have him make and send ...


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He's a little young yet, but when he turns 5 you might seriously consider enrolling him in a martial arts class. In addition to the benefit of giving him a physical outlet, it will help teach him when it is appropriate (and when not appropriate) to hit or kick. My son learned some very good habits at tai kwan do...they stressed self discipline, self ...


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16 is a difficult time for everybody, and most of the time parents are right and teenagers are wrong. Some parents are overprotecting, but is still love not hate. The problem is that teens only realize and accept that when they are 25+. We grow up with the self centered impression that parents have no idea and they are against us, but, as cold as it may ...


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I'm posting this as a second answer, since you seem to have asked 2 questions in one. My other answer deals with answering "how do I improve this situation?" This one answers another one, although it was clarified in comments more than a question: you have a problem with your dad knowing everything you do. The answer to that is, is there a major reason for ...


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There is a general approach to these types of questions / problems, that eliminates opinion-based subjectivity that the initial comment points to. It's called "testing". First, avoid thinking about anything as an infinite commitment to trying something out, which generates a huge mental and financial barrier to trying something out. Look for incremental ...


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This situation is, at least as you've described it without knowing more details, unfair to you (as you imply but don't directly state). However, many many things that will happen to you in your life will be unfair. Perhaps even grossly so. One thing to remember is that its up to you how to deal with it: its only wasted time if you fail to make the best of ...


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You cannot get out - but you can still access the internet. Problem with internet is that it is not easy to find out who is real friend and who is con. Aim for communities where members are graded by some kind of "karma" like on this forum. I highly recommend to look at free online course "science of happiness". ...


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This sounds familiar... :) Here are some things we did which helped us: making sure we go outdoor at any given opportunity (you're already doing that, I see) because he can use all his energy and then behave at home enrol him in sports at least during autumn/winter. In our town some places offer sport "classes" for 3-4 year old kids where they mostly run, ...


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The question seems to assume that the impact is negative, but research is showing the exact opposite. This study came out just last month showing that a working mother is correlated with positive outcomes for her children across cultures. Adult daughters of working mothers are more likely to be employed, earn higher wages, and hold supervisory positions. ...



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