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Be honest about why you are leaving. It sounds like a really terrible job that is giving you nothing but a paycheck, and you don't necessarily need the paycheck. That's a wonderful reason to leave. "This is making me very unhappy, I want to follow my dream, and here is my plan for enacting my dream." Focus on the positives. You aren't very specific about ...


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By your own words, your father's belief and your's disagree. Now most parents don't go around proferring the exact nature of their finances to their children, so on that basis I presume you are coming to your own conclusions without sufficient knowledge. You say that your mother struggles to earn money: welcome to life... we all do! You say that she works ...


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Every parent tries to figure out how to keep their first child from being sad when they leave, and I don't know a single one who succeeded. It's just something kids have to go through, and they will grow out of it when they are mature enough to realize you are coming back. Until that time, any cheering up you try to do just prolongs the agony. If she sees ...


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While you asked about pro/con of more children, I am going to take a step back and puzzle something out of the arguments you presented. Note that your arguments are either very logical (bigger house, more money) or a little constructed (as someone pointed out - age gap and time to kids doesn't really work like that). A side note: One thing you have not ...


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It sounds like you have a child who has a hard time falling asleep. This was me as a kid - I didn't do all of the above, but it took me hours to fall asleep, literally. I would lie down with the lights off at 10pm, and not fall asleep for one to two hours most nights - then still wake up around 7am. A seven year old child is old enough to have intelligent ...


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When you travel by plane, they always tell you to put your own oxygen mask on first and THEN help your child put on her mask. You can't be a good parent feeling the way you do about your job. One of the most important things a parent can do to educate her child and prepare her for her adult life is to model healthy behavior and self-advocacy.


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I am was born and raised in Asia and spent some time in the US for school and work. I can say that I have seen both Western and Eastern ideologies from both family and friends. In the Western world, it is more about chasing your dream while the Eastern, it is more about taking care of the family and name no matter how bad it gets. What you are experiencing ...


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A young teenager in any society is likely ill-equipped to make wise decisions for adults. I understand that you love her and you want her to be happy. To that end, as a parent you owe her love, shelter, food, stability, some amenities and guidance. It sounds like you've given her that and more. Now, maybe you can teach her the importance and rewards of ...


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It is fairly normal for one parent to work and the other to stay home and look after children. It is what happens in my family. I work full time, my wife works one day a week (her choice completely), and spends the rest of the time looking after our two children. I prioritize my families financial needs over my own gratification just like you say your ...


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There are several complicated issues you will need to resolve, some of which may not be issues for you depending on your approach to child rearing. This is very complicated for a young baby (let's say, under 1); after 1 it's less complicated (though certainly not 'easy'). Challenges to leaving the child home First off, are you planning to exclusively ...


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I think your daughter is expressing her sadness in her own way. Every child varies in how they express emotions, and not every child will cry. Maybe by turning her face away from you, she is coping with your absence by giving herself some control over your leaving. In other words, she will stop seeing you at the moment SHE chooses; she will not be at the ...


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Listen, I am in the same boat as his wife. I want 4 kids and my husband wants to stick with 3. It is a hard thing to figure out. Some people say that both should be on board with more children. In a perfect world, I agree with that. However, shouldn't both also be on board with stop having children. Why is it ok for the wife to get her dreams crushed? I ...


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White noise machines are great, but in my experience the ROUTINE is what will make the difference. You say he goes to bed at different times every night; that makes a routine very hard for him to get into, and if he cannot reliably predict what will happen (bath at 7, book at 7:30, lights out at 8) it makes it more difficult for him to settle down. Can all ...


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We found a cradle swing extremely useful with both of ours, when they were overtired and really needed to sleep but couldn't get off to sleep. White noise + swinging motion + dim moving lights + mobile + mum or dad nearby = baby hypnotism machine.


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Seeing your kids after work is always awesome. Leaving them to go to work can in some ways be like the only break you get in a day. So I would have to say it depends on the kind of person you are. If you just love every second with your kids and have the patience of a saint, then stay at home is probably the way to go. If you're like me and have a low ...


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I will be honest, I have no choice but to work as I was a divorced mom and had a family of four to feed and clothe, and rent to pay to keep a roof over our heads. The children understood, as they knew I was looking out for them, and are now following my example and all work. In between my days off I would take them for picnics and to Stourport and Kinver, ...


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First, it's important that you and your husband come to an understanding about this first. That's more important than your daughter, who is not mature enought yet to understand everything. You and your husband must be a united front. If the two of you are at odds about what's happening, your daughter will surely be confused as well. When you start a ...


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Perhaps explaining to your daughter that entrepreneurial efforts in many ways are more work than just accepting someone else's job. It's always been my opinion that conventional employment is not worth the praise it is given. To be sure, many conventional jobs are noble ones. I respect a road worker job far more than criminal defense lawyer and I think the ...


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I applaud you for wanting to have this tough conversation with your dad. Here are some basic steps for starting this type of conversation: State the problem: Dad, I noticed that you have decided to no longer contribute to the family finances. State the impact of the problem is having: This impacts the family. Mom can cover our needs with her salary, but ...


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Try using a white noise machine They work wonders. We use the one with our girls and they love it. I know they cost a lot but we've had ours for years now.


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I actually feel there are a couple of more options you could consider, along with the ones presented, as well as some pros/cons: Travel with husband and baby Pros: Allows you to do what usually do, just with the baby. Lets you stay close to the baby without missing conferences (You will probably be emotionally attached) Cons: Safety Since you on a ...


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During the Pregnancy That depends entirely on your girlfriend. In my case, we bought a house about 7 weeks before my wife was due, so she couldn't do much, and I needed to do most of the homebuying myself. Fortunately for me, my wife was a researcher and was able to find support groups online (other people due the same month), so there wasn't too much that ...


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You are far too nice, and your 7-YO has learned, subconsciously, to manipulate you to get what she wants. Be clear that after 9pm is your time, she will get nothing other than directions back to bed. She is not hungry - you saw her eat dinner. She is not thirsty (leave a bottle of water in the bedroom to halt this complaint) and at 7 she can use the ...


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It takes a while for a child to become confident that a parent leaving will come back. Give her time to learn this. Younger children only have a vague understanding of time and have great difficulties looking ahead for longer than a few minutes, but eventually they will learn that absence is only temporarily. If you want to ease the path to this ...



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