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My wife and I faced this very issue with our twin boys, now four years old. When we first brought them home from the hospital, we kept the little wristbands on them for the first few weeks, until they started to outgrow them. Then, we painted their big toe a different color so that we had a foolproof way of keeping track -- the nail polish wouldn't come ...


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Hitting and biting are natural things for toddlers to do. Part of your job is to teach them how to do something different. It's hard, and I'm sure it's harder still when there are two of them in that stage together. Some of what you can do: every time, every single time, you see any hitting or other physical interaction, you gently separate them - just out ...


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Here's what I saw with my fraternal twins: While learning to speak, all children develop some of their own dialect. Some words they will use incorrectly for a while. Many they can't pronounce correctly, so they say them differently. For a singleton child, this usually gets corrected pretty quickly, as everyone around them is using correct language all the ...


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Just speaking from our experiences: One step we took when our 2nd daughter was born, was to buy a present from her for her sister. I know it will be a huge time commitment raising twins, but try to make sure that your 2yo gets her one on one time. Additionally if you can get her to help in looking after the twins, simple things like getting toys for them, ...


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TL;DR: No different from single children. There ought to be ample opportunity to address twins individually. They don't (always) do their misdeeds in sync - sometimes only one of them does it, or at least one does it first and the other one follows. Also when you're feeding them, or changing them, or doing any number of similar things - you will inevitably ...


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I would try to get seen by a neurologist. My daughter has seizures and a lot of people, even relatively trained people like special ed teachers or school nurses, don't realize that's what they are. Seizures are basically the brain misfiring, so there isn't a consistent way they manifest. Sometimes she gets the full shaking, but often she just spaces out ...


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With twins, it's going to be chaotic sometimes. Don't worry too much and go with the flow. Try and see what works (the next day it may be all different :-) It really depends on their personalities - one may be fast eater while the other is slow. One may be eager to try out new tastes, while the other reluctant (as you note in your other post). One may like ...


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Developmentally they're at the age where sharing is an alien thing, so what you're seeing isn't necessarily a bellweather for problems down the road. That being said, the best luck we've had teaching our 21-month-old to share is modelling the desired behavior. When he picks up something that's interesting to him but that we'd rather he didn't play with ...


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Don't separate unless there's a good reason to. Here's my story, and the reasons behind it: I spent several years in the same class as my twin, but later (as we moved to a new country) we were put in separate classes. Much later, we were again in the same class. We were separated because my brother relied too much on me; he didn't make notes on what ...


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We have almost exactly two years between our two daughters and we did a bit before the birth (we bought books with stories about new babies) and made sure that she 'knew' (as much as she could) that there was a baby in Mummy's tummy. Then around the birth we bought her a gift from the baby - and a gift from her to the baby. So for a while after the birth ...


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Depending on the ages you can do different things. When my first daughter was born, her older bros were 9 and 11. That's far enough apart that I didn't have to do to much. I just told them they were getting a sister and we'd need their help with... stuff. Kids that age pretty much have a cemented personality and know their role in the parents life and here ...


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I think the most important information is the age of the children. AFAIK the "hard" seats on the back are not really suitable for young toddlers, as they are "sitting" on a very thin support and if their head is not supported accordingly, it is not good for their spine. Most important features IMHO: large and soft support surfaces for the child ...


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I have twins who are 2.5 years old. At 18 months consider having the kids take turns with a toy and not play with it at the same time (another form of sharing). First it's Sam's turn and then it's Alex's. You can use a timer so after 2 minutes they have to switch toys. Be very encouraging, thanking them for sharing and playing nicely together. At this ...


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I have a set of almost 2 year old twins and here is a list of what worked best for us when they were starting out. Alternate bites We mix up one bowl of the food we are going to spoon feed them and alternate bites. I had them in high chairs next to each other and sat in front of them so I could reach each one at any time. Finger foods We found that ...


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http://www.ehow.co.uk/list_7453930_double-strollers-separate.html contains a list including: iCandy Apple / Pear Phil & Ted's Sport Buggy with Doubles Kit Uppa Baby Vista Stroller Baby Jogger City Select Stroller You can also buy connectors to attach two single strollers: ...


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I'd change the names -- in the records, not what you call your sons -- to avoid any legal issues further down the line. If you're in the United States, there actually is no official "legal name change" procedure in most states, and anyone is allowed to change their name to (almost) anything they want, simply by beginning to use the new name. You can read ...


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Yes, twins can develop their own language, but it's not a given. They may, or they may not. Don't worry either way. I'm convinced that it doesn't matter at all whether the twins are identical or fraternal. I'm an identical twin. I never had a baby language, but then again I grew up bilingual so there were plenty of languages in the first place.


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I think it's important that you make time for the older child so they don't feel neglected. Do something that just involves her. With my older daughter, I'll take her to the store with me or out for a walk. Just the two of us. While my wife takes my other daughter (2 month old) or vise-versa. It has really helped with the jealousy for us.


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We just had our second baby in February and we also have a two year old. It's only been a few months, but he seems to be coping well with having the baby around. The thing that is really helping us now is we try to keep his daily routine as regular as possible. For example, story times with me in the mornings, lunch together in the afternoons, dinner as ...


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To add to the above comments use clothing colors and patterns. The following list developed over time, often based on what colors the our boys were drawn to at a young age. Since about 3 months old Twin B always reaches towards the yellow toys and clothing. In our house it is an unwritten rule that: Twin A always wears blues, greens, browns, solid ...


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Even identical twins aren't exact copies of each other. There ARE differences! Look for these differences, however small, and remember that Bob is the one with the narrower toenail, and Ben was born with longer hair. Alice has a dimple on the left butt cheek, Denise has one on the right shoulder. If all else fails, you can still mark the twins as @Bill ...


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For a 3 month old baby you would need a soft carrier like an Ergo or Beco, not a framed backpack carrier. REI's website does include a couple Ergo models. I've heard Ergo and Beco ones will be usable significantly longer than a baby bjorn or snuggli type of carrier and be more comfortable, and usually can be worn in front or back. Be sure to check the age ...


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Jealousy is natural tendency we find among infants and babies. You simply cannot help it and it goes with the time. Have you ever seen two grown up twins fighting over a morsel to eat first? Don't worry, this will go as they grow. As of now, if alternating spoon-feeding has not worked, for a period being, you can treat/feed them separately. You take one of ...


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I agree with Valkyrie. To add a technique, tho, you could also try sitting and playing with one or the both of them a few times. Emphasize when you're giving stuff to them. Emphasize when you don't want them taking the knives that you're playing with at that particular moment, especially when there's other knives on the floor between you just itching to be ...


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When the twins are first born and their footprints are made, these are one of your best guarantees of uniqueness. These will also be a treasure for your children, so keep these and perhaps make new ones over time. It takes a moment and it's much easier than stressing over how they are dressed or otherwise decorated.


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Sibling rivalry will occur, you say, but I disagree. Our second child is nearing 2 months now and his 3yo brother has been an absolute angel about it. There has not been a single incident that looked even remotely like jealousy. But we are expecting to see some of that when the little guy starts to grab toys and move around. I'm not sure if we did ...



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