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My wife and I faced this very issue with our twin boys, now four years old. When we first brought them home from the hospital, we kept the little wristbands on them for the first few weeks, until they started to outgrow them. Then, we painted their big toe a different color so that we had a foolproof way of keeping track -- the nail polish wouldn't come ...


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Just speaking from our experiences: One step we took when our 2nd daughter was born, was to buy a present from her for her sister. I know it will be a huge time commitment raising twins, but try to make sure that your 2yo gets her one on one time. Additionally if you can get her to help in looking after the twins, simple things like getting toys for them, ...


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Here's what I saw with my fraternal twins: While learning to speak, all children develop some of their own dialect. Some words they will use incorrectly for a while. Many they can't pronounce correctly, so they say them differently. For a singleton child, this usually gets corrected pretty quickly, as everyone around them is using correct language all the ...


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Hitting and biting are natural things for toddlers to do. Part of your job is to teach them how to do something different. It's hard, and I'm sure it's harder still when there are two of them in that stage together. Some of what you can do: every time, every single time, you see any hitting or other physical interaction, you gently separate them - just out ...


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You have a rebellious 14 year old living in your house, and she is testing her limits everywhere. Several things come into my mind as I write this. Why is she living with you? Where is her mother? Is she living with you against her will? How is her relationship with her father? Why were her parents divorced? Where does she get money to buy a new phone when ...


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This is a perfect chance to teach them about variation. It's important to understand that your test scores will vary based on how you're feeling on that particular day; a 93 is only about 4% lower than a 97 and it's unlikely the test is really that sensitive. There may even be the possibility of retesting if the lower-scoring twin doesn't think they did ...


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I don't have twins myself, but a few friends of mine do. I live in Germany and I'm French, just to give you a cultural context. My observation and my experience talking to parents of twins is that there is no "good recipe" when it come to keeping twins together or separating them. There are many different dynamics in twin brothers and sisters. What I have ...


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With twins, it's going to be chaotic sometimes. Don't worry too much and go with the flow. Try and see what works (the next day it may be all different :-) It really depends on their personalities - one may be fast eater while the other is slow. One may be eager to try out new tastes, while the other reluctant (as you note in your other post). One may like ...


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I am a fraternal twin. My parents swore my sister and I had our own language. Even after we started speaking, we still talked to each other in a different language.


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I would try to get seen by a neurologist. My daughter has seizures and a lot of people, even relatively trained people like special ed teachers or school nurses, don't realize that's what they are. Seizures are basically the brain misfiring, so there isn't a consistent way they manifest. Sometimes she gets the full shaking, but often she just spaces out ...


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TL;DR: No different from single children. There ought to be ample opportunity to address twins individually. They don't (always) do their misdeeds in sync - sometimes only one of them does it, or at least one does it first and the other one follows. Also when you're feeding them, or changing them, or doing any number of similar things - you will inevitably ...


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Unasked-for advice is tricky. No one can see what you see and know the parents like you do. If you really believe the twins are delayed developmentally, I personally feel it's not only ok but ethically responsible to approach the parents, but not with just your dis-ease about the situation. I would suggest that you start by doing some solid research. Find ...


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Don't separate unless there's a good reason to. Here's my story, and the reasons behind it: I spent several years in the same class as my twin, but later (as we moved to a new country) we were put in separate classes. Much later, we were again in the same class. We were separated because my brother relied too much on me; he didn't make notes on what ...


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I actually involved my Daughter in with helping me and my son when he was born. She was always wanting to the "Big Helper". It worked for quite a while until he started to walk and she could not get away from him. After that is was teaching them to play well together.


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Developmentally they're at the age where sharing is an alien thing, so what you're seeing isn't necessarily a bellweather for problems down the road. That being said, the best luck we've had teaching our 21-month-old to share is modelling the desired behavior. When he picks up something that's interesting to him but that we'd rather he didn't play with ...


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Depending on the ages you can do different things. When my first daughter was born, her older bros were 9 and 11. That's far enough apart that I didn't have to do to much. I just told them they were getting a sister and we'd need their help with... stuff. Kids that age pretty much have a cemented personality and know their role in the parents life and here ...


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It is possible for shaking a young child (up to five years old) to cause trauma. You should take Rose to a medical professional immediately. I sincerely hope that Rose is fine and my heart goes out to you. I know that you've been trying hard with your step-daughter and I am saddened to hear that her behavior has gotten worse. Assaulting her sibling is ...


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First off, she probably is teething to some degree. Kids generally have at least mild teething from 9 months or so to 15 months, at a minimum. Not to say they're in pain, but chewing/gumming feels good to them, just like it does sometimes to adults who have mild tooth issues. Unless she's breaking the skin, I would let her do this. If it's not breaking ...


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You didn't answer our questions, so I'll give a rather general answer: For very young or premature babies, nursing can be quite exhausting. This may mean that they will actively "drink" for a short while, then take a small break ( nipple in mouth, sucking or not), then start over. Sometimes, they will even fall asleep during the meal. For breastfed babies, ...


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My daughter has developmental delays (well, more like outright stopping now) due to her cerebral palsy. Pediatricians tend to be much more relaxed than parents on the issue of developmental delays. They field several questions from overly worried mothers every day, that almost always turn out to be nothing. The kind of delays you're talking about are ...


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Even identical twins aren't exact copies of each other. There ARE differences! Look for these differences, however small, and remember that Bob is the one with the narrower toenail, and Ben was born with longer hair. Alice has a dimple on the left butt cheek, Denise has one on the right shoulder. If all else fails, you can still mark the twins as @Bill ...


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I have twins who are 2.5 years old. At 18 months consider having the kids take turns with a toy and not play with it at the same time (another form of sharing). First it's Sam's turn and then it's Alex's. You can use a timer so after 2 minutes they have to switch toys. Be very encouraging, thanking them for sharing and playing nicely together. At this ...


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I have a set of almost 2 year old twins and here is a list of what worked best for us when they were starting out. Alternate bites We mix up one bowl of the food we are going to spoon feed them and alternate bites. I had them in high chairs next to each other and sat in front of them so I could reach each one at any time. Finger foods We found that ...


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Being a twin, I've just asked my parents what they did: Use one spoon and feed both twins alternatingly, when only one parent is available. When both parets are there, feed the twins simultaneously. It worked for my parents; my sibling and I survived :-)


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I think the most important information is the age of the children. AFAIK the "hard" seats on the back are not really suitable for young toddlers, as they are "sitting" on a very thin support and if their head is not supported accordingly, it is not good for their spine. Most important features IMHO: large and soft support surfaces for the child ...


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To add to the above comments use clothing colors and patterns. The following list developed over time, often based on what colors the our boys were drawn to at a young age. Since about 3 months old Twin B always reaches towards the yellow toys and clothing. In our house it is an unwritten rule that: Twin A always wears blues, greens, browns, solid ...


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Yes, twins can develop their own language, but it's not a given. They may, or they may not. Don't worry either way. I'm convinced that it doesn't matter at all whether the twins are identical or fraternal. I'm an identical twin. I never had a baby language, but then again I grew up bilingual so there were plenty of languages in the first place.


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We have almost exactly two years between our two daughters and we did a bit before the birth (we bought books with stories about new babies) and made sure that she 'knew' (as much as she could) that there was a baby in Mummy's tummy. Then around the birth we bought her a gift from the baby - and a gift from her to the baby. So for a while after the birth ...


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Good question, and I see where you would be concerned. First, I don't think the breast milk had anything to do with it, because formula fed babies are usually fatter, and you've got the opposite going here. Instead, it seems to be more about the exercise Sneha gets that Rose doesn't. If they eat the same amount of food, but Sneha burns it all off while ...



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