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Kids like toys. My daughter plays with trucks and shovels and her toy lawn mower. My son will undoubtedly wind up playing with old toys that my daughter used to play with. This link from baby center would indicate that you, as a parent, are simply enabling your child's normal and healthy imagination and that: "playing with Barbies at age 2 or 3 isn't ...


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Playing with "girl" toys at the age of five is indeed completely normal behavior for a little boy. You are correct not to worry and to allow your son to play in the way that he enjoys. It doesn't mean that he is gay, and it certainly won't "make" him gay; his sexual orientation is likely already fixed by the age of five, although he is probably still to ...


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Your son is doing what he is doing in response to his own internal drives. His actions are nothing but a combination of genetics and life experience. Playing with dolls won't "turn him into a fag." He will eventually develop some level of attraction towards males and females that is determined by his genetics as well as prenatal testosterone exposure from ...


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Your son likes picking out his clothes. I can't see that as a gender-defining issue. One of my (now married) sons had such a great eye for arranging flowers in the most interesting and imaginative ways that I would sometimes send him to the garden with a pair of clippers and a free hand (something my other children didn't get (blush)! Playing with a wide ...


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There's nothing whatsoever wrong with your son, but there is something very very wrong with his father. The best thing you can do is try to limit your sons exposure to this person. If he has these sorts of attitudes you should be able to argue that he is a danger to your sons emotional well-being and potentially have his level of access limited to only ...


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I highly doubt there is a correlation between sexual orientation and the kind of toy one plays with at five years old. I can't imagine what would cause that, anyway; 'boy toys' and 'girl toys' are social constructs mostly unrelated to biology or sexuality, but to the expected role those children will play as adults.* There is probably a correlation, ...


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As others have mentioned, enjoying dolls isn't particularly unusual for a little boy and does NOT mean your son will grow up to be gay. The bigger problem here is your and your son's relationship with his dad. I'm a big believer that children need positive role models of both genders --but those role models don't necessarily have to be the children's ...


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I am 53, and I have been married for 24 years with 2 sons. In my childhood I spent all my time playing with the dolls people gave my sister; I also won prizes for cookery, sewing and flower arranging - my wife has several items of clothing I have sewn for her. My sister spent all our childhood playing with the toy cars and so on people gave me: she is ...


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First of all, he's just fine. Nothing to correct here. Second, I don't think sexual orientation is a choice or something you can change. You're born with it. I see it like this. If the doll represents anything, it most likely represents his mother. He lives with her, sees her living as a woman, dressing up, putting on makeup, etc... and he's emulating ...


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Welcome to parenting 101. Some kids lie still, but mine were total wiggly worms. You might be able to rig a "mobile" as we call them in the States, but your ultimate answer is that you yourself will get faster and faster and learn the tricks needed to change those nappies. Hang in there! :)


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Keep in mind, there are phases that go on for a few days/weeks/months that will come and go. In times like what you mentioned, I would do something totally NEW and different. Usually with an entertaining aspect, like making up a new song, or tapping on the walls in a fun simple rhythmic pattern. Tickling and whatnot. Then sneak another wipe in there ...


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This is quoting from http://www.ehow.com/how_10043017_flatten-warped-puzzle.html Set the warped puzzle on a tabletop or an area on the floor where it will not be disturbed. Press the puzzle pieces together so they fit well if they are loose or jutting up, due to warping. Lie a large piece of plywood on top of the puzzle if you have one. If not, ...


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I would like you to mention the following points: Whether he has any male friend(s) / siblings of his age? If "Yes", then how does he behave with them? Does he like to play with them? What personal interests does he show while he is in their company? (boys' interest/girls' interests) For a 5 year old child displaying the behaviour you mentioned, I ...


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My wife and I have two kids who both loathed changing time. I mean, seriously hated it. My current son (who is just over a year old) will sometimes even start crying as soon as he sees us walking to the changing table. Once he is on the table, it can become an irrational battle to keep him from crawling over the edge of the table. Alas, there has been a ...


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Puzzles are typically made of a cardboard-like material that is prone to warping due to the differences in moisture on one side of the puzzle piece compared to the other, just like wood warps. The printing on one side leads to an imbalance in moisture: The surface is less porous, so it absorbs less moisture, such as that from humidity. This is why your ...


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Re dealing with the Dad, maybe tell him that liking girly things could be an early sign of heterosexuality? It's a bit odd to think of an interest in the the opposite gender as a sign that he might be gay... An older boy who likes girls might ask a girl out or something, but a small boy who thinks girls are nice will not have such things on his mind and will ...


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I am glad to see this conversation and particularly to see so many advocate for a child being supported to be whoever and whatever he feels he is. When a child feels accepted, it goes a long way toward developing self-confidence. Self-confident people are better-equipped to handle life's challenges in a smart, aware way, and to use their talents to improve ...


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Lots of great answers here, but I notice one thing that is missing that you might care to think about. Perhaps more important than whether a child plays with dolls or toy soldiers, or whatever, is playing with the parent(s). At least with my kids, I pick what we play with based on my interests. That might sound unfair, but I know I'll play longer and ...


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As a newborn, she won't be interested in "playing" with toys for awhile yet. Her favorite thing to look at will be your faces. Other items that would be interesting for a very young baby are mobiles that have strong, high-contrast patterns on them, or soothers that have lights and music (non-interactive items that she can just look at). Mirrors are also ...


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Distraction helps most of the time, but not always. Turning over like this is a normal behavior and is a great sign of your baby's development. With my son there are two other important aspects. He mirrors my mood. If I am concerned, nervous, worried or frustrated going into the diaper change then it is always much worse than if I am relaxed and happy. ...


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At that age, you should still be able to change nappies one handed while using the other to hold her ankles. If you are holding her legs up she shouldn't be able to turn over.


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I have a set of distractons that I use in these situtions, depending on baby's age: Plastic stacking rings - put a couple on baby's feet, instant distraction A plastic tape measure for body/clothes measurements - baby pulls out the tape and then presses the button to spool it in again Get baby to count their toes Give baby a small board book to read


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One simple thing that may work is to use your face to distract her. Since you are standing over her, look over at her and make silly noises and faces. Talk to her. Do any goofy thing to grab her attention. You will have to look away occasionally to see what you are doing with the diaper, but then look back and get her attention again. Like anything ...


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Two short anecdotes for you: My brother loved to play with our sister's Barbie, My Little Pony and Silvanian Family toys when he was little. He isn't gay. My neighbour has a 3-year-old boy who likes to wear a Cinderella dress and pink wellington boots everywhere. Do his parents care? Not really. They obviously bought those things for him because that's ...


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I always assumed these types of preferences were purely due to social conditioning. However from my own observation of my children (a boy and a girl, not twins) there does seem to be some distinct differences in the types of toys they've always preferred. Our daughter has always shown a strong preference for soft toys, and our son has always preferred ...


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We had that problem, and I think just being super quick was the answer at that age, but as soon as the boys could stand, we just did it with them standing up which they appreciated.


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The first 'toys' you will want are not things she will play with with her hands, rather things she will look at. Infants can't see colors very well, and overall can't see anything nearly as well as older children or adults, so things with very sharp color contrast - at first, black and white only - with large, uncomplicated patterns are excellent. This can ...



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