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Kids like toys. My daughter plays with trucks and shovels and her toy lawn mower. My son will undoubtedly wind up playing with old toys that my daughter used to play with. This link from baby center would indicate that you, as a parent, are simply enabling your child's normal and healthy imagination and that: "playing with Barbies at age 2 or 3 isn't ...


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Playing with "girl" toys at the age of five is indeed completely normal behavior for a little boy. You are correct not to worry and to allow your son to play in the way that he enjoys. It doesn't mean that he is gay, and it certainly won't "make" him gay; his sexual orientation is likely already fixed by the age of five, although he is probably still to ...


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Your son is doing what he is doing in response to his own internal drives. His actions are nothing but a combination of genetics and life experience. Playing with dolls won't "turn him into a fag." He will eventually develop some level of attraction towards males and females that is determined by his genetics as well as prenatal testosterone exposure from ...


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There's nothing whatsoever wrong with your son, but there is something very very wrong with his father. The best thing you can do is try to limit your sons exposure to this person. If he has these sorts of attitudes you should be able to argue that he is a danger to your sons emotional well-being and potentially have his level of access limited to only ...


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Your son likes picking out his clothes. I can't see that as a gender-defining issue. One of my (now married) sons had such a great eye for arranging flowers in the most interesting and imaginative ways that I would sometimes send him to the garden with a pair of clippers and a free hand (something my other children didn't get (blush)! Playing with a wide ...


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I highly doubt there is a correlation between sexual orientation and the kind of toy one plays with at five years old. I can't imagine what would cause that, anyway; 'boy toys' and 'girl toys' are social constructs mostly unrelated to biology or sexuality, but to the expected role those children will play as adults.* There is probably a correlation, ...


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As others have mentioned, enjoying dolls isn't particularly unusual for a little boy and does NOT mean your son will grow up to be gay. The bigger problem here is your and your son's relationship with his dad. I'm a big believer that children need positive role models of both genders --but those role models don't necessarily have to be the children's ...


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I am 53, and I have been married for 24 years with 2 sons. In my childhood I spent all my time playing with the dolls people gave my sister; I also won prizes for cookery, sewing and flower arranging - my wife has several items of clothing I have sewn for her. My sister spent all our childhood playing with the toy cars and so on people gave me: she is ...


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First of all, he's just fine. Nothing to correct here. Second, I don't think sexual orientation is a choice or something you can change. You're born with it. I see it like this. If the doll represents anything, it most likely represents his mother. He lives with her, sees her living as a woman, dressing up, putting on makeup, etc... and he's emulating ...


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This is quoting from http://www.ehow.com/how_10043017_flatten-warped-puzzle.html Set the warped puzzle on a tabletop or an area on the floor where it will not be disturbed. Press the puzzle pieces together so they fit well if they are loose or jutting up, due to warping. Lie a large piece of plywood on top of the puzzle if you have one. If not, ...


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From toddlerhood onwards. Do it together - initially you'll be doing almost all of it and the balance should gradually shift over the years as they get older. At first, give out copious praise even for small acts of tidying up. Make it a race. Have something desirable / positive to do next, once tidying up is done. Don't let them do the fun thing until ...


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I would like you to mention the following points: Whether he has any male friend(s) / siblings of his age? If "Yes", then how does he behave with them? Does he like to play with them? What personal interests does he show while he is in their company? (boys' interest/girls' interests) For a 5 year old child displaying the behaviour you mentioned, I ...


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Re dealing with the Dad, maybe tell him that liking girly things could be an early sign of heterosexuality? It's a bit odd to think of an interest in the the opposite gender as a sign that he might be gay... An older boy who likes girls might ask a girl out or something, but a small boy who thinks girls are nice will not have such things on his mind and will ...


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Puzzles are typically made of a cardboard-like material that is prone to warping due to the differences in moisture on one side of the puzzle piece compared to the other, just like wood warps. The printing on one side leads to an imbalance in moisture: The surface is less porous, so it absorbs less moisture, such as that from humidity. This is why your ...


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As a newborn, she won't be interested in "playing" with toys for awhile yet. Her favorite thing to look at will be your faces. Other items that would be interesting for a very young baby are mobiles that have strong, high-contrast patterns on them, or soothers that have lights and music (non-interactive items that she can just look at). Mirrors are also ...


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Lots of great answers here, but I notice one thing that is missing that you might care to think about. Perhaps more important than whether a child plays with dolls or toy soldiers, or whatever, is playing with the parent(s). At least with my kids, I pick what we play with based on my interests. That might sound unfair, but I know I'll play longer and ...


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I am glad to see this conversation and particularly to see so many advocate for a child being supported to be whoever and whatever he feels he is. When a child feels accepted, it goes a long way toward developing self-confidence. Self-confident people are better-equipped to handle life's challenges in a smart, aware way, and to use their talents to improve ...


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We've found that having toys is much more of a net negative — particularly the distraction aspect. This is especially the case once the kids get a little older, and the toy of choice is more complex (e.g. Legos being assembled at the table) or expensive (e.g. a flashlight, a talking robot thing). Who wants to eat boring spaghetti when they could be literally ...


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If you have ever watched a group of children tidy up in a kindergarten then you will know that children of this age group are perfectly able to help tidy their toys if there is a clear system. The best system will take into account the child's stage of development (there is no point for example in sorting by colour before they know their colours etc). ...


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Two short anecdotes for you: My brother loved to play with our sister's Barbie, My Little Pony and Silvanian Family toys when he was little. He isn't gay. My neighbour has a 3-year-old boy who likes to wear a Cinderella dress and pink wellington boots everywhere. Do his parents care? Not really. They obviously bought those things for him because that's ...


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With a bit of luck, this may remain a hypothetical problem - the "Lego phase" might dwindle down soon or your younger one might turn out to be a child that actually doesn't "eat" every crumb he finds on the floor. (We were lucky in the latter sense.) But it's always better to be prepared. The first meassure is always to separate the toddler and the pile ...


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Yes, it's just a toy, however I also think the way the play with toys can sometimes be an indicator of how they'll play with other children or animals. We ask our children to play carefully and respectfully with their toys. With their stuffed animals, we ask them to treat them gently, as if they were real animals. I don't think there is anything wrong with ...


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I always assumed these types of preferences were purely due to social conditioning. However from my own observation of my children (a boy and a girl, not twins) there does seem to be some distinct differences in the types of toys they've always preferred. Our daughter has always shown a strong preference for soft toys, and our son has always preferred ...


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I think you have a reasonable system for a 20m old, but as they get more types of toys you might consider placing them into categories. Like mentioned in another answer, we keep all Lego and Duplo blocks separate (we don't allow Megablocks in our house! :) ), and the remaining toys fall into rough categories: Dolls, Animals, Cooking, Educational, etc. The ...


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Mostly, your system is already good. Really, your main problem is, how to get the child accustomed to cleanup - which seems like a completely different question (which I won't answer here but I encourage you to ask in a separate post) Minor fine-tuning ideas: Make sure the books are stacked verically in the box. This way, she can try and get the book ...


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I've heard it said by educational psychologists that the most educational thing about an 'educational' toy is the box it comes in. That statement also backs up my own experience and that of other children we know. As a rule of thumb, the more 'educational' a toy appears, the more it is likely to be an annoying piece of electronic garbage. Most stores are ...


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Regarding the following statement: His dad told me that he "wasn't raisin a faggot" and that he should have our son living with him so he can teach him how to be a man. I won't agree to this because he is my only child. All other issues aside, this sounds like the reason that you would not agree for the boy to live with his father is for your interests ...


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The first 'toys' you will want are not things she will play with with her hands, rather things she will look at. Infants can't see colors very well, and overall can't see anything nearly as well as older children or adults, so things with very sharp color contrast - at first, black and white only - with large, uncomplicated patterns are excellent. This can ...


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The best way to keep kids engage is by aking them to play with old fashioned toys- like blocks, and balls. Fingerpaints is another option and you can even use some shaving cream. Even you can make them to sing and dance. I use to do with my Lo. We sing together and dance. Here are few activities like contact paper crafts:If you remove the backing and tape ...



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