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When a toddler exhibits behaviour like this they are struggling to communicate, and they are struggling to regulate an emotion. It is very hard for parents, when confronted by deliberate "naughtiness" like pooping on a floor, to maintain loving calmness. As I understand it there are two aims: 1) help him develop confidence to play alone and entertain ...


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In my opinion, if you aren't willing to consider corporal punishment, you are unnecessarily restricting your options. If you don't believe in it but are willing to consider it, I will present the case for it as my experience shows it to be the most effective method for raising a happy, healthy, well-behaved child while fostering a loving relationship. In my ...


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My wife stopped breastfeeding when our daughter was 3. She did it by repeating often the whole month before she turned 3 that when she will be 3, she will be older, and that she will stop breastfeeding. Bigger childs don't drink breast milk, that's part of the growing-up process, at by the time our daughter was 3, she perfectly understood that. Actually, for ...


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Some ideas: Hunger/thirst: My cranky small humans get crankier when they're hungry or thirsty, and if I can see the clouds gathering, I can often head off the storm by offering a snack or a drink. Have you been able to see the grumpiness coming in time to head it off at all? Independent play: We've had success with helping our kids learn to play ...


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A friend of mine had a similar problem. His seven year old boy was completely out of control. His tantrums were volcanic, and completely manipulative. They were terrified to go out in public because he would throw things at random strangers and break things just to get back at them for restricting him in any way. A counselor who he went to see with his ...


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First of all, when did that start? How did it escalate? Was it gradual or just happened all of a sudden? Try to discover the source of this behavior, perhaps there is one. If you know it you may be able to handle the situation better. For me, the defecation is crossing the line. Kids fuss, go through tantrums, we have to be understanding, but there also ...


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I haven't been able to find anything remotely official (e.g. NIH study), but found this so far: John Pearce and Jane Bidder, authors of "Baby and Toddler Sleep Program: How to Get Your Child to Sleep," warn parents to wait as long as possible to introduce a pillow, preferably until a toddler reaches 18 months of age or later. (src) The main reason to ...


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I hate to break it to you, but you're probably going to have to figure it out on your own, or with the help of an occupational therapist. My daughter has cerebral palsy and often gets loud and bothersome as you describe, but the things we have learned that calm her don't work at all for my nephews with down syndrome or autism, or even other children with ...


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My 27 month old makes me think I'm losing my hearing sometimes, between his higher-pitched (and thus less easily understood) voice, and his obviously imperfect enunciation. I'm totally with you on this one. What I do is try to avoid saying "what", or other "I didn't understand you" type phrases. They are understandably frustrating. I know a family member ...


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Is there a reason you cannot combine the two approaches? It sounds like your ultimate goal is to raise a happy, well-adjusted child who can interact with many different people in different situations (to which I say YAY). In this case, especially considering you're dealing with a 2-year-old, I'd suggest trying to bridge the gap between your two scenarios. ...


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This sort of thing isn't limited to separated parents. My oldest (who's 3.5) is very similar, but with "daycare" in place of the other parent. He naps consistently every day at 12:30 on the nose for 3 hours at daycare (or until recently did; I think that time is going down a bit now that he's older). Best napper they've ever seen - and has since he was a ...


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Children like routine. A framework allows them to feels safe and then start to explore the world and their place in it. People need routine for good sleep. People who have problems with sleep need to start quite a rigid routine and stick to it. So, try that first. You and your ex should try to agree a routine that you both try to stick to. This will ...


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I lived in England when my kids were little. The sidewalks were narrow and often crowded. I had 4 kids......I used a harness because that was common there and made sense. Now that we know more about the human brain and that it isn't developed until it is at least 25 yrs old, I think making a kid wear one makes even more sense. Americans were the only ones ...


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This is common among the toddlers. Even if it is complex idea, then also they will try to communicate it with the words they know and for the first time they will express it with more patience and excitement. If we ask them to repeat it again, then they will feel like frustrated and embarrassed, so don't try to ask them twice instead give them a smile for ...


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It depends on what you mean by constantly, and the exact height, the firmness of the bed, position of the child on landing, etc. Fundamentally, the most problematic thing is happening in her head. A man falling 30 feet hitting a concrete abutment will die of internal injuries, because while the outside of his body stops suddenly, the contents of the body ...


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With our three year old son, anytime he used to hit his sibling or someone, we would demonstrate a Shakespearean style stage drama full of intense agony and pain and callout to him letting him know how much it hurts us when he hurts his sibling. Apparently toddlers care a lot about their folks and are genuinely concerned to help them put a magic bandaid ...


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My wife just started the process. We had some problem to put my son to sleep: he would fall asleep only sucking, and wake up couple of times during night for milk. One day my wife was away and I had to put him to sleep alone... Took me 1 hour, so I decided we had to stop. It's been quite easy actually: the first night it took again a good hour and he cried ...


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Dr David Ludwig and Dr Walter Willet published a 2013 opinion column in JAMA Pediatrics that questioned the value of recommending low-fat or skim milk for children. While much of the article is behind a paywall, I did find a discussion of the opinion column (and it was also discussed on Time). Ludwig and Willett argued in their paper that children who ...


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My suggestion would be to make those experiences more pleasant for him. He has probably had a bad experience (shots will do that to a kid). You can try taking him to those places and do nothing but happy things. He will start to associate those places better than he did before. It also depends on the doctor. If you have a pediatrician that is great with ...


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Since I can see it in her eyes that she wants to communicate but is not able to and I can see it bothering her a lot. One of the Amerind languages was reputed to be so hard that native children weren't fluently competent until about age 8. It is possible that if a child needs to speak 4 languages, it will take longer before they reach competency in all ...


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Sounds like my daughter at that age, who's now 5 years old. In my daughter's case, it was here moro reflex that caused her to avoid sitting. Basically, the moving backward made her feel like she was in a backward free fall. Try this: lean her back into the chair very slowly, with her head and back supported by your hand. If that doesn't work then ...


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Is this normal? Yes, it is. One of my kids is like that; everything is "red". When asked to match colors, though, she can. What I did was show her colour swatches and asked her to show me things that were the same colour. If I showed her the yellow swatch and asked her to show me something that was the same colour, she picked my yellow sweater. This ...


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Lots of good answers to the clothing part, but I would like to add some additional stuff about the 'wailing until someone does it' part. 18 months, for both my kids, were the start of their independence and really attempting to communicate. She has discovered a desire or need (to take her clothes off) and a way to communicate it (wailing). It may only ...


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Well, I am a Pakistani and I am a bilingual. My mother taught me both languages as I was a toddler, but she mostly used Urdu (which is extremely similar to Hindi) at home. She did teach me English words but those that I could relate to or those which a child finds at home. You should take it very gently, teaching her English words gradually but do not speak ...


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The obvious ones which sometimes work: books sorters puzzles counting things a bowl of water and containers (outdoors and on warm/hot days only)



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