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For a different perspective: When I was in grade school, I had a friend that didn't have any type of TV service at home (they did have dial-up internet, but certainly no Netflix). I was completely unaware of this fact for a long time, until the first time I went to his house. There was a TV in the living room, but it was only used to watch home videos, and ...


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I have 3 daughters who are 7, 5, and 3 years old. I didn't allow them to watch TV till a year ago when I was talked into babysitting a large plasma tv while the owner left the country for a few years. Then it didn't take much to hook it up. I watched it for maybe an hour in total over 6 months just to remind myself why I got rid of my own TV in the first ...


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Kids, just like adults, want to "be cool", to have fun and to have something they can share with their friends. TV, video games, pro wrestling, whatever. And the parts they want to talk about/reenact are going to be the ones that they find most fun or exciting. Think back to the last action movie you saw (for me it was probably Avengers or something ...


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No scientific, but anecdotal answer: We don't have a cable either and are in a very similar situation – IT pros with fast Internet. Our kids are 6 and 9. Both go to school / preschool and interact with other kids. While there will always be a group of kids that has seen everything that was on TV (square babysitter, you know...), others won't because their ...


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Whether children get picked on has much less to do with the thing they are picked on for and much more to do with their social skills and general social standing. If your children asks to see something specific, make it available to them if it is appropriate for them to see, but concentrate on developing their social interaction skills. As a child I had ...


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Violence and play fighting is an innate aspect of human behaviour. You can observe animals play fighting as well. Domestically, you can observe cats and dogs play fight, more commonly as juveniles. Our closest animal relative, chimps, are also known to wrestle and play chase. I don't believe the desire to play fight is mimicked from television (what ...


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The biggest problem would be, as you state, the children not understanding the language and cultural references of their peers. I've even noticed this myself. I don't watch (or have) a TV, I don't care about or follow sports and I listen to music outside the norm. When I talk to colleagues or other parents, I have effectively nothing to have small talk ...


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Think about this: Born in 1988, I grew up with very limited access to TV, but full access to a computer in a common area that I sneakily used without permission or supervision. I went to a small private school with about 100 kids per grade until I was 18. The majority of casual conversation at school revolved around what kids had watched on television. ...


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Why is kids picking up on 'inappropriate behavior' appropriate? "The social group basically polices itself and enforces the rules of social dominance, the social morays of the troupe, and monkeys who don't pay attention to those rules -who are overly aggressive in their interactions- don't last in that troupe very long. They're kicked out of the troupe. ...


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In my (admittedly anecdotal) experience our children have not experienced any harm from not watching TV, and may have benefitted from not having a TV around. When my then-girlfriend and I moved into our first apartment together we had a TV and had it plugged in - but the only 'person' who watched it was our dog, because we'd turn the TV on to keep him ...


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I don't think it's bad at all to not have cable or satellite. My wife and I deliberately raised our children (eldest is almost 14, youngest is 9) without broadcast and cable TV. We do of course have a TV and a blu-ray player, and Internet access. Why'd we do it this way? Put simply, there's too much on TV that runs counter to the values we want our children ...


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It's unlikely your child will suffer negative social consequences due to not having broadcast TV in your home. TV is on the decline. At this point in time, cable/satellite television is not as big of a social influence as it would have been in yours or your husband's time. For instance, a survey found that 1/3rd of "Millennials" don't watch broadcast TV.1 ...


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My gut feeling: three mechanisms combined. Monkey see, monkey do Children learn via observation. A lot. If this weren't true, we could never teach by example and have to explain in detail whatever we want them to do. This is true for the rules of interactive play as well. In your question you mention TV action heroes, but there are hundreds of little ...


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I have to share this story. I had my six year old niece over for an afternoon, and I decided to show her Bambi, which she had never seen. At one point, I went into the kitchen to fetch a snack, and when I came back out Bambi and the old stag were having their "you must be brave and learn to live by yourself" conversation. My niece looked up at me and ...


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The American Association of Pediatrics is currently in the process of changing their recommendation for screen time for children. The policy currently is that screen time should be avoided before age 2, but they realize that the quality of screen time varies. Pediatricians have recognized the policy as outdated, since media is changing at such a rapid pace, ...


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I understand your wife's fears, but I actually agree with you. Some time on TV or laptop is OK. I think that the most important aspects of such entertainment (tv, youtube, tablet, computer) is the quality of the experience you provide your kid with. Here are the rules we follow for Electronic Entertainment (EE) with our 2yo daughter: all EE is moderated, ...


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I think the fundamental assumption of this question is wrong, the examples given are not violent behaviour, just physical emulation. Violence is defined as: Behaviour involving physical force intended to hurt, damage, or kill someone or something. After watching Wreck It Ralph, my son (who was under 2 at the time) also starting tapping everything ...


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Because Humans have evolved to survive in a violent and dangerous environment Why do baby lions fight each other? They're practicing. They need to get good at fighting or when they are older they will die. Humans are the apex predator on this planet. We fight, we kill each other, we kill other animals in very large quantities, sometimes just for sport. ...


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This is a cultural thing. It will be differ with different country, different societies, and different families. From the moment I had moved out and lived on my own more than a quarter of a century ago, I have lived without a TV. All my children grew up without a TV, except my oldest for a while, whose mother had one for a few years while they were teens. ...


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I grew up without TV (I was born in 1978 - not just no cable, my parents did not own a TV at all). It was sometimes annoying to not have TV and know what my peers was talking about, but not a huge deal. I watched some children's shows at my grandmothers. Enough that I was aware of the main characters. Later, in my teens, I watched 90210 at my neighbors ...


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There are not necessarily any drawbacks to not having TV. All you are really giving up is programmed content. Programmed content makes for a convenient electronic babysitter, but without it, children are not really missing out on anything. All the same content is still readily available on demand online, not to mention free of commercials. Furthermore, ...


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Not necessarily backed by anything other than assumption and observation (yeah, good job keeping it scientific on SE) but I really like the idea that it's because violence is a form of agency. Children aren't allowed to control many parts of their life. A lot of the time, they don't even know what that would entail. But being violent, or forcing your ...


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Lets assume cartoon do stimulate unwanted behavior. As a child I saw Tarzan almost naked, Cinderella arrived home after midnight, Pinocchio told lies, Aladdin was a thief, Batman drove over 200 miles an hour, Snow White lived in a house with 7 men, Popeye smoked a pipe and had tattoos, Pac Man ran around to digital music while eating pills that enhanced ...


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It's sometimes hard to find common interests with your siblings. Denigrating their interests pretty much guarantees that they won't want to hang out with you. You are saying "What I want to do is important and what you want to do is not. That makes them feel like you are putting them down, and certainly isn't going to make them do what you want. If you ...


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I suspect that at least part of it is that those are the actions that generate reactions in the shows/movies. Those are often the big laugh lines or cringe moments or similar. If one is seeking to get a big affect from their own actions, copy the things that get the biggest reaction elsewhere. The reactions need not be positive to be noticeable, though in ...


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The American Association of Pediatricians recommend that children under 2 years old have zero screen time, and that children over 2 have only have 1 or 2 hours per day of quality screen time. Quality is partly subjective. Some things you may want to look out for are: 1) Positive behaviour. Children sometimes copy poor behaviour. There is lots of anecdote ...


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I am late, but I will try to tell you what you forgot in your list of perfection. You forgot feelings. You forgot to plan how to teach what love is. How changeble, irrational, even cruel it can be. And that it is the most beautiful and perfect (to use your words) thing in the world. And one of the most important things to teach the child is to teach her ...


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I love this and am 13. My 10 year old brother loves it and my 7 year old cousin! The worst words said are "ass" "crap" "bloody" that is literally it. There is slight violence but think about it, every fairy tail ever invented is pretty brutal. But it shows sword fights with princes and ogres and stuff. But u don't see anything that gory or violent. Anybody ...


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Advertisements are made to purposefully manufacture a need, and it's usually a need based on a false reality: you will be happier/have more friends/feel more loved/whatever deep needs people have. What a sad thing it is to allow a child to feel like they are less fulfilled because of a consumer product. Marketing is the same towards adults, only the message ...



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