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You cannot force your parents to stay married. But if your parents are under the illusion that "children suffer in a bad marriage" or "the kids will understand" or "it will all work out for the best", you can speak up. And now is the best time to do that. Consider telling your dad, "I love you. I love Mom. I want you to be happy together. Divorce ...


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I know you're young for this. Nobody has a life manual. But I can tell you one thing: Even if the divorce of your parents seems to be a bad thing and its gonna hurt you, EVERYTHING is for GOOD. You'll become a stronger person, you'll value the meaning of family much more than your parents did so you'll be able, in the future, to make your own family ...


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Yes you can do something. I have seen broken marriages turn around by coming to God through Jesus. If you rely on reasoning then you will only get so far and probably fail, as most of the other answers have said. However if you recognize that we are made in the image of God, and come to him, then everything can change and it does. Turn to God firstly ...


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This is a really hard thing. Maybe if you talked to your dad about how much it would hurt you if they split. Really seriously, not like hey dad pls don't get divorced I'd b sad. Ask him to really try and talk to ur mom about what's bothering him. Im sure they could work it out.


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As nearly everyone here is suggesting, there is nothing you can do. It's tough and not the answer you want to hear, but it is true. You're in that tough place in life where you recognize problems and desire to remedy them, but you lack experience to even know where to start or if you should even try. You're probably smart enough to learn what to do and even ...


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First off, thank you for caring enough to make a positive difference in your parents' life. You would not believe how helpful you are being, just by caring. Now for the hard news. It can take people decades to realize this, but you can't make anybody do anything. People will always do what they want to do. You can affect their reasoning. You can help ...


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I'd like to offer a different opinion. I don't think there's ever 'nothing' you can do. You may not be able to prevent your parents divorce, but whether they do or they don't divorce it's still a very important moment in all your lives and it's important that you understand why they want to divorce. If you don't understand the situation then it becomes ...


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Perhaps some useful things to remember: It's not your fault It takes two to Tango, but only one to stop. People change little over their lifetime (Despite their attestations to the contrary). What has the greatest impact in relationships is the unspoken stuff, particularly the stuff that leads to harbouring resentment. Hang in there. Watch and learn what ...


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Ok here are some important considerations/context we don't know: why your dad wants a divorce (or just a separation, or your mother to change something). whether your mom also wants a divorce, or is unhappy whether your dad has discussed any of this with your mother (if not, obviously he should - do not become his confidant or messenger) whether it's an ...


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Ask your parents to get help for their marriage. Try to find an organization like agme.org that helps marriages that are in trouble. Encourage them to give it a try. Talk to someone that both parents respect and will listen to - your church pastor, respected family member etc. I feel badly for you - be sure to lean on God at this time.


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I'm sorry your father burdened you with this. What can I do to prevent this divorce? Honestly? You could try to guilt them into staying together. You could try to act as a marriage counselor. You could do a number of things that might help you reach your goal of preventing a divorce. However, it's really not up to you. At best you can be one of the ...


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I'd recommend showing your Dad Can unhappy marriages become happy again? How? (which is the second chapter of a book). Here's a short excerpt: Some may be surprised to learn that many unhappy marriages recover. As one respected marriage therapist and researcher, Dr. William J. Doherty at the University 10 Chapter 2: Can Unhappy Marriages Become ...


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Your dad told you he wants a divorce, but did he say he is actually filing for one? Your mom may not know at all yet. Everyone's story is different, and actively trying to do something about it might be the very thing that guarantees it happens. So first things first, try to remain calm. Now, let me tell you a little about what I know as a parent. It might ...


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I'm sorry to hear about your parents. Unfortunately, there's nothing you can do. And, whether it helps or not, there was nothing you could have done. This is not your fault. Also, don't be angry at your parents. The situation they will be putting you in is not fair; no doubt about it. But, for your parents, it takes a lot to recognize that the ...


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What I can't seem to get across is that while she has the right to express herself she needs to care about how she looks and dress appropriately. You're basically saying that she has the right to express herself, as long as you explicitly agree with how she expresses herself. That's worse than simply saying that she doesn't have the right to ...


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Here are some tips for when you're having homework trouble. 1.Create a Homework plan Keep a notebook where you record all your homework. Keep folders in your notebook where you can make different sections for different subjects. You can also use a electronic device such as mobile phone where you can keep all the records. 2. Get Help When You Need It ...


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I'm probably of the other view that we should never pressure people into things. I remember hearing a story about a young 22 year old who felt pressured by his parents to get a job, Later on his dad found out he took his own life, that's very sad and he blames himself every day as he admits that he may of been part of the problem on putting pressure on his ...


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Update about the laughter, after some Google magic: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nervous_laughter Disclaimer: I'm Autistic and this is from personal experience. When I'm in a stressful situation or when I get nervous, my face will get extremely red and I will often start to laugh uncontrollably; it has costed me many friendships and it caused even more ...


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Demonstrate to your parents that you are behaving responsibly. Do this by creating a reasonable timetable. The time table includes all your lessons; it includes the work you do at home; it includes the time you spend doing chores (and now might be a good time to start doing those if you haven't done so already!); and it includes your relaxation time. You ...


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I am 18 and had and been to parties and I would say the best thing to do is have all the alcohol put on to one table to you are able to monitor it, I did this for my 18th, it was the only way my mum would allow the party, but it works there was little trouble and friends monitored the drink as well. It does all depend on the age, if the are young maybe you ...


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As a Scout Leader, I've seen this a lot of times. Typically the parent of a boy of about 13/14 years old expresses astonishment (and sometimes embarrassment) at the amount their son will suddenly eat, if given the opportunity. I don't want to be sexist here, obviously in many families it is the father who does the cooking, but in my experience it's always ...


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Find out what worries your parents: If they refuse to give you another sandwich, they must have a reason. Could be money, health concerns, fear of you becoming overweight, some philosophical concerns, etc. You can much more effectively communicate and find a solution if you know what specifically is bugging them in the first place. For example: it if's ...


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It may help if you approach it more scientifically than simply "need more food!" Discuss calories with them. For example, the USDA Daily Food Plan website says a moderately active 16-year-old male needs 3200 calories a day. This is nearly twice what I'm supposed to eat a day as an adult woman, so at first glance it's almost absurd -- but when I pause and ...



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