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While I agree that you are giving very few details, from my point of view, there is a clear cut answer. No, it's not fair. Detention is a punishment in itself, given by the school. Ergo, you are punishing him for being punished, and that's absolutely not fair in my book. If your child has trouble at school, then you should try to help him overcome this ...


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Does he even deserve an email from her saying that they've grown apart as friends before she blocks him? I don't think it's the right question to ask in this circumstance. People's decisions of what to give to others aren't supposed to be based on rational considerations of what the recipients "deserve". And I don't think a "termination of relations" ...


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This guy's bad news. The idea "to block his number, email address and social media profiles" is absolutely the right thing to do. "Considerate" is a good attribute to have, but not at all times and all places. You and your daughter are being very generous to send the young man one last email, and give him one last chance. The odds that he'll take it appear ...


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First, it's important that you and your husband come to an understanding about this first. That's more important than your daughter, who is not mature enought yet to understand everything. You and your husband must be a united front. If the two of you are at odds about what's happening, your daughter will surely be confused as well. When you start a ...


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my son is the same, brilliant, plays most musical instruments, but has horrible social anxiety and severe depression.You must push gently or he will feel overwhelmed, most real life responsibilities already overwhelm them much more than someone who is not sick. keep feeding him and taking care of him, encourage him to do chores for money, slowly work into a ...


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My teenager is unfortunately much less interested in Mama's opinions about such things than yours is! So, since I don't get to give much advice at home to anyone, here goes! It can be hurtful to cut someone off completely without any warning. This could be especially painful and awkward given the proximity of your houses. If your daughter hasn't already ...


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When you travel by plane, they always tell you to put your own oxygen mask on first and THEN help your child put on her mask. You can't be a good parent feeling the way you do about your job. One of the most important things a parent can do to educate her child and prepare her for her adult life is to model healthy behavior and self-advocacy.


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I am was born and raised in Asia and spent some time in the US for school and work. I can say that I have seen both Western and Eastern ideologies from both family and friends. In the Western world, it is more about chasing your dream while the Eastern, it is more about taking care of the family and name no matter how bad it gets. What you are experiencing ...


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A young teenager in any society is likely ill-equipped to make wise decisions for adults. I understand that you love her and you want her to be happy. To that end, as a parent you owe her love, shelter, food, stability, some amenities and guidance. It sounds like you've given her that and more. Now, maybe you can teach her the importance and rewards of ...


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We can't possibly comment on the boy's mental fitness. We don't know him; you do. I don't think you need to concentrate on his diagnosis or speculate about what psychoactive substances he may be using; you don't need help to label his behavior (which is at least insensitive and in one case crass); you only need to decide how you want to proceed. Plenty of ...


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Perhaps explaining to your daughter that entrepreneurial efforts in many ways are more work than just accepting someone else's job. It's always been my opinion that conventional employment is not worth the praise it is given. To be sure, many conventional jobs are noble ones. I respect a road worker job far more than criminal defense lawyer and I think the ...


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I say speak to his parents and wash your hands of it. If this is atypical behavior something maybe wrong. Someone said the only predictable thing about addicts is they're unpredictable. If he's mental or on drugs his parents can probably help. He's not your responsibility. He upset your daughter and she can stop talking to someone who keeps hurting her. It ...


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Be honest about why you are leaving. It sounds like a really terrible job that is giving you nothing but a paycheck, and you don't necessarily need the paycheck. That's a wonderful reason to leave. "This is making me very unhappy, I want to follow my dream, and here is my plan for enacting my dream." Focus on the positives. You aren't very specific about ...


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This is a difficult situation and a lot of what you do depends on what you're willing to put up with. I'm going to assume the yelling and fighting is really negatively affecting your life in an unacceptable manner. It would mine. My personal belief is that you should never give your child anything because they frighten you into it or will make you miserable ...


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It's all about control. He yells because it works, or at least because there are no consequences. It's your house. He's a guest, albeit an important one. You make the rules. He follows them or leaves. You may not be able to physically control him but that's not the kind of control you want anyway. So here's my advice... If he yells, tell him in a ...


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Maybe you should encourage him to go to music school. I didn't exactly fail classes, but I did just enough to pass and didn't care for schooling at all. Maybe your son, like me, is just bored of it and didn't see how the standard educational system would benefit his goals. In the end, my skipping class almost every day to pursue my interests landed me a job ...


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The difference is consent. If you don't think the girl is consenting, she likely isn't. It can be emotionally abusive even if there are no bruises.


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Often, people are quite good at understanding the difference between playful behaviour and someone feeling genuinely threatened or hurt. If you can see from her body-language that she is not enjoying herself, if you can hear from her voice that's she's actually distressed, then this is absolutely abuse. Abuse is not about how much someone hurts you, or how ...


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Teenagers want to forge their own path It's entirely normal for teenagers to become disinterested in what their parents have to say and to strike out on their own path. Consider for a moment how you, as an adult would feel if someone kept on telling you what to do. A new phase in the relationship There comes a point where you need to stop relating to ...


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Yarbro, us random internet people with no personal knowledge of the situation, we're not the best people to make that judgement, I'm afraid. You're actually there on the scene and - from what you've written in your post - you clearly think that the situation is borderline-abusive / possibly-abusive. And you're worried - rightly IMO - that if that's what ...


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Abuse normally covers significant risk of harm and can be either physical, sexual, emotional abuse, or neglect. This behaviour is, from your description, unpleasant and unacceptable, but I'm not sure if it meets a threshold for abuse. Is she being harmed by it? It'd be great if everywhere had a "report early report often" approach to child protection. ...



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