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Okay. Same situation. Smart child with straight "A" Grades. TV set is put in.his room. The child is overjoyed. Child: I wanna watch some more Tv. Mum : No dear. You wont be able to wake up and will feel sleepy in.school. Child : okay but I want to still watch tv. Mum: Ok.. Then goodnite and try to sleep early Child : Yeah... ( but watches till 2 in the ...


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I agree with the answers already posted, but let me add a few thoughts. I recall seeing a TV program not long ago where the narrator said that parents shouldn't dictate sexual morality to their teenage children, but should let them make these decisions for themselves because "then they will own the decision". And I thought, Yes, great, except the ...


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The 11 year old wants a drink because the 17 year old got one. Not because he wants a drink, or because of a wish for fairness, but because she got one. Fairness is all nice. But "if she gets something, he gets the same thing automatically" is not fairness. "She got something that she wanted, and one day you will get something you want" is fairness. Let's ...


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I think you are missing something important. The negative consequences must be both relatively swift and have to be actually considered negative by the child! This particular scenario of yours is very real, but I think is a very bad example of letting children experience the effects of their decisions. Look at it from the child's perspective: he got to ...


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I think it's a great idea to let kids make decisions when they can. However, to let a child decide on important things without realizing that in many instances the child will pick what brings him instant gratification isn't really teaching him well. Better to let kids take increased responsibility as they are able to appreciate long-term consequences. In ...


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Most parents try to do it that way when they can. The main thing you're missing is that children live in the moment, to a much larger degree than most adults realize until they have kids of their own. The further removed the consequence is from the decision, the less influence it has on their next decision. For your bedtime example, it would take a ...



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