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Your best approach may be to try to get her to imagine what this other girl is feeling. Ask her to think about when she first got interested in boys (I'm assuming she is). Make sure she recognizes that she didn't chose to start feeling those feelings, it just happened. Now, tell her that a lesbian feels the same way, but about girls instead of boys. How ...


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It sounds like a deal needs to be worked out with the father, not the kids, since the father is causing the problem. However, you will probably have to look at it from his perspective. He is probably spending money on his daughters to compensate for not actually being there in person. He feels like he is being shut out from their lives and the only way ...


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I don't think your desire for time with your step daughter is wrong. It's a good desire. It sounds like you get her for the weekends a lot more during the school year than during the summer, though, and it also sounds like she has a wonderful support system between you, her mom, and her maternal grandparents. First, you don't need to worry too much about ...


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As detailed as your question was, quite a few pertinent facts were not mentioned, but I'll do my best with what I have here. This is also long, and I hope I can help. I can tell you from experience that legally speaking, perhaps depending upon the state in which you live, your legal rights are quite limited until you are actually married, and even then they ...


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My daughter refers to all the women who are friends to me and who play with her and care about her simply as "her friends". Doesn't matter to her that some are 20 years older.


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I agree, it's noone's business. "No, this is Ema" is a perfectly reasonable answer. Or, she can say, No, this is my dad's girlfriend, Ema. No, my mom is in Cinncinatti. This is Ema. No, this is not my mom. No, this is my future step-mother, Ema. or, simply, Yes. (Who cares if the stranger is told something that's not correct? Sometimes it's easier to ...


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I am not sure what the issue is, whether it's that her kids are sleeping where you two sleep, or that she just goes to bed right away once they're asleep, or something else. Editing your question to make that clearer would help. However, I recommend you stop trying to get her to agree to something in general (especially after she has refused) and instead ...


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// , The first thing you can do is decide your boundaries, that is, what you do and do not see as a violation of trust. Right or wrong, she is her own person. So are you, Jon. People who take responsibility for themselves decide what sort of relationship they want, and act carefully on their decisions. Decide whether you want it 4 days per week, or per ...


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Same struggles here. What all bad (or not good) behavior boils down to is parent consistency. Somehow, as parents, we forget to be consistent. When our kids were infants, we were really good about following a schedule and consistently correcting not good behavior (such as night wakings, throwing things, etc.), but as soon as they got "older", our rules ...


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This question is interesting because from the child's point of view the problem is almost identical to adoption. But that is an advantage, because as others have pointed out, there are mountains of resources for parents wondering how to broach the subject of adoption with their children. I very much agree that you need to separate the 'where do I come from' ...



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