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I work in a school and the way we deal with this type of behaviour is to remind the child that they must use "kind hands" when playing with their friends. We set clear rules that if "kind hands" aren't used the child will then be removed from playing with their friend for 5 minutes and have to sit in silence away from everyone. Then they are introduced back ...


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I'd suggest arranging some more structured activities for him to do with his friends. This won't take away the necessity for him to learn how to do free-form play, but it might make play-dates with him more fun for the other kids (and for you). Arrange a craft activity or a board game, take them bowling, anything where the nature of the activity is such ...


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My nine year old has had similar difficulties, although he does not yet have an official diagnosis. These are some things we found to help: First of all, consider that he doesn't need a lot of friends, he just needs one good one. It can take a while to find one, but there is someone out there who is the right mix of tolerance and kindness and quirkiness ...


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First of all, I'm glad you've had him seen by a medical professional, because usually that is my first piece of advice. If your gut doesn't tell you that what the doctor diagnosed him with is true, then I highly suggest a second opinion. Like you, I think I'd be a bit hesitant to blindly accept the diagnosis of my child based on watching a video interaction....


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You have my deep sympathy. As a desperate measure, perhaps you could set up a counseling meeting with a priest / other religious leader your mother trusts and whose views she appreciates more than some anonymous counselors. Fighting fire with fire, so to speak. That's obviously not necessarily someone you trust, but chances are that he/she is not as ill as ...


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Speaking as a Christian parent, whose deepest hope is that my children will gain their own relationship with God, here are some arguments I would personally respond to: Everyone needs to personally come to their own relationship with God, it can't be forced on someone. She's poisoning your relationship with the church, and driving you further from ...


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Unfortunately the heart of this issue is religion, which is going to make this situation either really difficult, or (depending on her relationship with Christ) really easy. If your Mom has a relationship with Christ, giving her examples of Christ's love and how Christ did act in certain situations throughout the four books of The Gospel, and then giving ...


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Do you mind if I try to talk this through from a parent's perspective for a minute? I don't do this to justify your mother in this situation, but to provide a different perspective. I have five kids. They are all younger than you. I am a religious person, and am trying to raise children who are also religious, because I value my personal relationship with ...


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Too me, this honestly feels psychopathic and like a form of manipulation I am afraid this is the heart of the matter. This is difficult to judge from the outside (or even from the inside), but from your description it looks like your mother is manipulating you to conform to her beliefs. This is abusive behavior that must stop. Coping with this type of ...



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