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Read a bedtime story. A bedtime story winds him down and can be useful for talking through some special good or bad events/behaviours of the day. Our toddler would just rip the pages out if we tried now :-) but soon we want to begin this. I'd place it after the bathroom, just before lights out. I think I'd prefer to put him in his bed after reading, to ...


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11 to 9:30 is ten and a half hours, which is plenty of sleep. My kids are up at 6:30, and go to sleep at about 8:30. I think that if you want to adjust her schedule, I would start by waking her up earlier.


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Same time every day. Whatever ritual the parents choose, it should start at the same time every day. It might take longer to complete on some days, but a fixed starting time helps create a solid routine. This starting time should be respected whenever possible, also on evenings when special events are happening (parties, guests visit, etc.).


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Putting toys away. This is one neat thing we've built into our bedtime routine. Even at 12 months of age, our child already knew that the toys are meant to be put away at the end of the day. The toys sleep in bins at night, and the bins have their own place as well. By starting this particular habit very early, we've managed to get a very tidy living room ...


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I was a foster parent for a year. I met parents who were unequivocally abusive. One thing I took from that experience is that the term "abusive" is applied way too frequently to normal parents who at worst are making honest mistakes and at best just have a different parenting style. It dilutes the impact of the word, and in my opinion dishonors truly ...


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Establish a routine Yes, it's a Supernanny favourite, but we've found that a consistent routine (even printed out and stuck to the wall in vibrant colours) helps children to understand the wake-play-eat-play-bedtime-sleep cycle. The biggest challenge to introducing a routine is when the children rail against it. This requires a lot of patience and ...


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Yes you can wait. Unless you can't be interrupted (like when you're driving), you should change the diaper "reasonably fast," meaning within ten minutes or so during the daytime. That's a very rough guideline though. Here are some considerations: It varies how well children handle nighttime diaper changes. If you can change during the night, do it. ...


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Talk about the day One part of our evening routine is talk about our days: We started with that habit at the earliest days. We told our baby than what he did all day long. Later we could ask specifically for some events that he remembered. (E.g. "Who did we visit today?" — "Grandma." — "Yes right...".) By now we established a routine that he and I take ...


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You didn't specify how you put him to bed, so here are a few suggestions. I think the infant will feel abandoned if you just put him down without a word, and then simply remove your hands, and then leave the room. I don't imply that you do, but it's a contrast. Have you tried to: Make soothing sounds ("sssshhhhh...") before, while, and after you put him ...


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The short answer to "is there any scientific evidence in favor of co-sleeping?" appears to be "yes". TLDR version: There are studies, particularly by Professor James McKenna, that show that there are strong correlations between co-sleeping and improved breast feeding. These same studies suggest that co-sleeping mothers get at least as much sleep as mothers ...


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Give The Child A Bath Bath time prior to bedtime is an important part of the ritual, ensuring your child can feel clean and comfortable as they settle down to sleep. If they play in the bath, that's OK as they'll get rid of any excess energy before the next part of the bedtime ritual. If the bath calms them down, that's OK too (since the whole point of ...


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Brushing Teeth If you want your toddler to grow up having good dental hygiene, its best to cement the habit now. Therefore, as soon as they have teeth to brush, you should include brushing teeth in the bedtime routine. What works for us best is after bath, but before books. Every family will have to determine where teeth brushing fits into their evening ...


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As long as he is getting enough in each 24-hour cycle, and he remains on-course on his weight chart, and if he can sleep 4-5 hours between feedings, then go with that and don't wake him up. I would only wake him if there's reason to be concerned.


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My wife and I never worried a whole lot about whether our daughter actually SLEPT after bedtime. Our rule was that after bedtime, she had to be quiet, leave us alone, and stay in her room. We enforced that rule just like any other, and allowed nature to manage her sleeping. We modeled the same behavior ... after bedtime the lights were lowered and the house ...


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You might try a little "cry it out". At about nine months, we figured it was time for baby to learn how to sleep through the night. So rather than rushing in to comfort baby immediately, we'd wait 5 minutes after our baby began crying, then go in and comfort baby and let baby know Mom and Dad are there, then leave. Next time it happens, wait 10 minutes, ...


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Same order every day. This should really be a no-brainer. The steps that the bedtime ritual consists of should be done in the same order every day.


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No bottles in bed. We have had a firm rule in our house that bottles and sippy cups are NEVER allowed in their cribs. I know too many kids who have to have a bottle of milk in order to fall asleep at night.


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A quick search will yield many articles and studies that show infants benefit from touch. With co-sleeping, infants are touched while falling asleep and often all through the night. Among other things, touch helps to increase the parent-child bond. Parents get much better sleep because they don't usually have to get up and fully wake if the baby wakes ...


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This is definitely primarily about you and your wife communicating, and (hopefully) compromising. However, since you asked about what a "normal" evening is like, I'll speak to that first. I'll start by saying I don't think there is a "normal". Evening routing depends on so many factors, I can't imagine that you could single out any one and say that it is ...


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According to the US. Department of Health & Human Services brochure on sleep positioning for infants: Studies show that, during early infancy, it is unusual for a baby who is placed in the back sleep position to roll onto his or her stomach.20 However, once infants are more developmentally advanced, they often roll over on their own. In this ...


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My Indian parents had my sister and myself in a makeshift hammock-like swing called jhoola, that hung from the ceiling. The problem, of course, is safety. However, the benefits are that it provides a womb-like experience (very snuggly, adapts to baby's shape) and baby can be rocked in its bed. I always understood the existence of cribs as a safety reason ...


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There are several potential advantages: Literacy: Being functionally literate is practically a requirement for modern life, and the greater your comfort with the written word, the easier it is to acquire knowledge. Reading to your child encourages them to think of books as "normal" things, and starts this process early. Entertainment: One of the key things ...


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Our daughter used exactly the same tactic (altough it was only in early morning) Do not give in on letting her into your bed. I think this is a thing to be consequent about. You will have to be strict and clear: calling you out of bed to go to potty is ok, doing this to get into your bed is not. Under no circumstances she should be allowed to use this as a ...


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Avoid Stimulai When Kids Are In Bed This may sound like a no brainer, but when you tuck your kids in and turn out the light try to avoid any kind of stimulai thereafter, such as singing lullabies, touching them, talking to them, etc. This will only prolong the sleep process. When my children would have trouble going down, or call out to us in the middle ...


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I find that my 4-week-old will calm down differently for me vs my wife. My theory is that my wife smells like milk, so if he's hungry, nothing but mom will do. Other times, he can get agitated if mom is holding him but not feeding him - but he has no expectation of food from me, so he'll be calm for me. His older brother, now two years old, used to calm ...


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Move her into her own room. At 8 months of age, our daughter was in our room and still breastfeeding. She would wake up 2-3 times a night, from what we could tell was hunger. (She'd eat and then go back to sleep.) We are fairly quiet sleepers and don't really move around our bed so much, so it wasn't like we were making noises which would wake her up. I ...


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I'm not a doctor too, just an engineer, but: 60 dB can not damage your hearing. 85 dB for 8 hours a day is a safe limit for adults, and 60 dB is very very far from that. If you use the white noise for couple of tens of minutes, it is hard to believe it will cause any stress or psychological damage. I think any continuous noise is bad, if it is too loud ...


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When I was baby, my the official recommendation was to sleep babies on their stomach. I don't know the scientific/medical reason for that decade (1980's). According to research, sleeping babies on their back greatly reduces SIDS probability, and that is the main reason for recommending sleeping on back. According to this article, Since "Back to Sleep" ...


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I've been there before. My son was over a year old before he started sleeping through the night. Here are my suggestions: Put him to bed earlier - like 7pm. It sounds counterintuitive, but sleep quality goes down when you're overtired, leaving you prone to waking more (and the same is true for children). As the saying goes "sleep begets sleep." Do not stop ...


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The love of a parent is infinite, but the time is not. In my humble opinion, you should be thankful for every moment where he does not crave your undivided attention. If you're lucky, he will learn that it's okay to be awake and still remain calm and quiet - I wish my kids knew that. As long as you have plenty of activities with him during the day, don't ...



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