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Establish a routine Yes, it's a Supernanny favourite, but we've found that a consistent routine (even printed out and stuck to the wall in vibrant colours) helps children to understand the wake-play-eat-play-bedtime-sleep cycle. The biggest challenge to introducing a routine is when the children rail against it. This requires a lot of patience and ...


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Yes you can wait. Unless you can't be interrupted (like when you're driving), you should change the diaper "reasonably fast," meaning within ten minutes or so during the daytime. That's a very rough guideline though. Here are some considerations: It varies how well children handle nighttime diaper changes. If you can change during the night, do it. ...


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I was a foster parent for a year. I met parents who were unequivocally abusive. One thing I took from that experience is that the term "abusive" is applied way too frequently to normal parents who at worst are making honest mistakes and at best just have a different parenting style. It dilutes the impact of the word, and in my opinion dishonors truly ...


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You didn't specify how you put him to bed, so here are a few suggestions. I think the infant will feel abandoned if you just put him down without a word, and then simply remove your hands, and then leave the room. I don't imply that you do, but it's a contrast. Have you tried to: Make soothing sounds ("sssshhhhh...") before, while, and after you put him ...


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You might try a little "cry it out". At about nine months, we figured it was time for baby to learn how to sleep through the night. So rather than rushing in to comfort baby immediately, we'd wait 5 minutes after our baby began crying, then go in and comfort baby and let baby know Mom and Dad are there, then leave. Next time it happens, wait 10 minutes, ...


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The short answer to "is there any scientific evidence in favor of co-sleeping?" appears to be "yes". TLDR version: There are studies, particularly by Professor James McKenna, that show that there are strong correlations between co-sleeping and improved breast feeding. These same studies suggest that co-sleeping mothers get at least as much sleep as mothers ...


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A quick search will yield many articles and studies that show infants benefit from touch. With co-sleeping, infants are touched while falling asleep and often all through the night. Among other things, touch helps to increase the parent-child bond. Parents get much better sleep because they don't usually have to get up and fully wake if the baby wakes ...


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My Indian parents had my sister and myself in a makeshift hammock-like swing called jhoola, that hung from the ceiling. The problem, of course, is safety. However, the benefits are that it provides a womb-like experience (very snuggly, adapts to baby's shape) and baby can be rocked in its bed. I always understood the existence of cribs as a safety reason ...


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My wife and I never worried a whole lot about whether our daughter actually SLEPT after bedtime. Our rule was that after bedtime, she had to be quiet, leave us alone, and stay in her room. We enforced that rule just like any other, and allowed nature to manage her sleeping. We modeled the same behavior ... after bedtime the lights were lowered and the house ...


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This is definitely primarily about you and your wife communicating, and (hopefully) compromising. However, since you asked about what a "normal" evening is like, I'll speak to that first. I'll start by saying I don't think there is a "normal". Evening routing depends on so many factors, I can't imagine that you could single out any one and say that it is ...


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There are several potential advantages: Literacy: Being functionally literate is practically a requirement for modern life, and the greater your comfort with the written word, the easier it is to acquire knowledge. Reading to your child encourages them to think of books as "normal" things, and starts this process early. Entertainment: One of the key things ...


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I find that my 4-week-old will calm down differently for me vs my wife. My theory is that my wife smells like milk, so if he's hungry, nothing but mom will do. Other times, he can get agitated if mom is holding him but not feeding him - but he has no expectation of food from me, so he'll be calm for me. His older brother, now two years old, used to calm ...


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Our daughter used exactly the same tactic (altough it was only in early morning) Do not give in on letting her into your bed. I think this is a thing to be consequent about. You will have to be strict and clear: calling you out of bed to go to potty is ok, doing this to get into your bed is not. Under no circumstances she should be allowed to use this as a ...


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Move her into her own room. At 8 months of age, our daughter was in our room and still breastfeeding. She would wake up 2-3 times a night, from what we could tell was hunger. (She'd eat and then go back to sleep.) We are fairly quiet sleepers and don't really move around our bed so much, so it wasn't like we were making noises which would wake her up. I ...


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The love of a parent is infinite, but the time is not. In my humble opinion, you should be thankful for every moment where he does not crave your undivided attention. If you're lucky, he will learn that it's okay to be awake and still remain calm and quiet - I wish my kids knew that. As long as you have plenty of activities with him during the day, don't ...


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I think that's good advice. Try to ignore light fussing. Wait and see if it develops into something more. We were told the same by the midwife, and at least for us it was good. Most of the time, our son stopped fussing again on his own. If he didn't, we'd sometimes tuck him in a little and that would be enough. Sometimes it was the beginning of some real ...


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I'm not a doctor too, just an engineer, but: 60 dB can not damage your hearing. 85 dB for 8 hours a day is a safe limit for adults, and 60 dB is very very far from that. If you use the white noise for couple of tens of minutes, it is hard to believe it will cause any stress or psychological damage. I think any continuous noise is bad, if it is too loud ...


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When I was baby, my the official recommendation was to sleep babies on their stomach. I don't know the scientific/medical reason for that decade (1980's). According to research, sleeping babies on their back greatly reduces SIDS probability, and that is the main reason for recommending sleeping on back. According to this article, Since "Back to Sleep" ...


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As a kid, I slept with the blanket pulled over my head for as long as I can remember. I remember my parents shared concerns similar to yours, but I simply could not sleep without my head being completely covered. I'm not sure I know why I did this. Perhaps it was fear of monsters, and the child-logic of "if they can't see me, they can't get me". Perhaps ...


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This is not as dangerous as you think. Make sure your child is sleeping on a relatively firm surface, without squishy bumpers on the sides, and the baby will be fine. But still, when you put your child to sleep, start with the the back. Yes SIDS is a real danger, and there are indeed studies that show the risk increases when the baby sleeps on his stomach. ...


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Our kids were "night trained" by the time they were about 4. If you can figure out when they are having their accidents, it makes it easier to help them. Here are my recommendations: First, get a plastic sheet; there are going to be accidents. Second, don't use pull-ups. Help her feel like a big girl so the accidents matter. Then, make the last drink at ...


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It's counter-productive to put a standard age on this - it's hugely dependent on your child and to a certain extent your home environment. My son slept through from 4 months or so, a good friends child still doesn't sleep reliably at 6 years old. However, reducing the number of naps during the day would probably help. It he's not tired, he's not going to ...


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Duct Tape (aka Duck Tape). We actually had to do that a couple times. Of course be sure you check on your son frequently, because he may have an aversion to having the stinky diaper on - he may be developing a diaper rash. Also be sure the tape doesn't get on his skin as it will probably irritate his skin. Our son got through it after a while and we didn't ...


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We just went through this with our 13 month old. He went from waking up at 6am to waking up at 4:45am, just like your son. This occurred over a period of about 2 weeks, with him waking up progressively earlier and earlier each morning (by about 10-20 minutes each time). After consulting a pediatrician, the solution we used was the same as what we used to ...


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I've been there before. My son was over a year old before he started sleeping through the night. Here are my suggestions: Put him to bed earlier - like 7pm. It sounds counterintuitive, but sleep quality goes down when you're overtired, leaving you prone to waking more (and the same is true for children). As the saying goes "sleep begets sleep." Do not stop ...


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I don't think there's anything traumatic about the way you're handling the situation. You're not locking him in his room for hours on end and ignoring him, you're removing yourself from a situation so as not to prolong it. When my son was 2 we had a similar situation of him getting out of bed multiple times before falling asleep. The Supernanny technique ...


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This is definitely a parental issue in that you and your wife are definitely NOT on the same page about this. Just based upon your comment that you are a stay-at-home/work-at-home dad, I can only make the guess that your wife probably works outside the home (I might be wrong...). If this is the case, I'm wagering your wife is suffering from some mommy ...


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According to the US. Department of Health & Human Services brochure on sleep positioning for infants: Studies show that, during early infancy, it is unusual for a baby who is placed in the back sleep position to roll onto his or her stomach.20 However, once infants are more developmentally advanced, they often roll over on their own. In this ...


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It's usually best to go with the flow, rather than trying to be strategic to make what doesn't come natural when it comes to these things. If I was in your shoes, I'd let him keep sleeping. If I was sick and you woke me up for no good reason, I wouldn't be particularly happy--would you? I hope he feels better soon!


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Swaddle him as long as he will allow it - probably less than half a year in all, but of course that varies wildly. Then "upgrade" to a sleep sack and use that as long as possible - perhaps until 2 or 3 years old. We tried swaddling and our son never liked it, so we never actually started. But he moves a lot at night (almost 2yo) and always did, so a blanket ...



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