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As hurtful as it might seem, this is perfectly normal behavior. The mum needs to just ignore it. Coming from a 4 yo, this doesn't mean anything. It's just words. Parents need to just accept that their little ones love them and need them, regardless of what they might say.


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Kids are just too funny. Say you love them. And show them the dickens film Oliver Twist. By no means show them the film with that rabid dog which gets shot at the end.


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This is late- but if anyone is still reading- My husband and daughter are only children. My observation is only children don't learn to be naturally mean- it puzzles them. I'm one of 7- we learned to be mean fron an early age- we never got along. My siblings are marginally employed, my husband and daughter are educated and hold very high level leadership ...


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Definitely don't write off the fact that a stay-at-home mom is taken for granted automatically by their children for being present most of the time (even if they don't think they get enough attention), and you are fascinating and "scarce" (economically speaking) simply by working and not being home all of the time. The stay-at-home mom is more constantly ...


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While it's not 100% relevant to you (unless you have more kids :) ) - one bit of advice I think makes sense is to not relate too many changes to the newborn in a way that makes the existing kids feel less of a priority. An example: friends of ours had two boys, each with their own bedroom. Their plan was to move the boys into bunkbeds in their own room when ...


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I sometimes tell my children I do not like them right now (when they have done something wrong) but that I will always love them with all my heart. That it is OK to be angry at someone (me at them, or them at me) but one must never, ever forget that we are a family and love is always there. I found that it helped them a lot to make the distinction between ...


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At once I read this, I feel what I felt inside so long. And I want to explain you about that according to your post. I am also a daughter of my mom (who is angry almost everytime). I loved her so much. When I feel good things, I also want her to feel. When I eat good food, I want her to taste it too.. Now.. she started to refuse it, talking against every ...


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I also have a four-year-old daughter, and she is very socially adept. She uses different techniques to get things she wants from different people, and she can be very dramatic for effect. If your daughter is at all like mine, she probably just enjoys the impact that her words are having on her mother, especially if her mom responds by trying extra hard to ...


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In addition to the previous answers, which are good, it's also important to understand that small children live in a different world than adults (one full of mysteries) and that many words have different meaning to them. When you think of your daughter's love for her mother you probably think of the kind of relation that would leave a huge sore wound if her ...


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There are a couple of things going on here, and both will probably be due to attention. You said that mum finds it difficult. That means that she probably reacts slightly. This means that your daughter knows that she can say something that: Gets noticed. Gets a reaction. Brings attention. All attention, positive or negative is attention to a child. If ...


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I think your instincts of jealousy are spot-on. My daughter did this starting when her little brother arrived home from the hospital, and every time she felt like he was getting more of Mama's attention, out came the verbal knives. Our fix was to schedule special one-on-one time with her when we could. And when things were just too crazy to carve very ...


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Karl's statement about the difference between having a favourite, and engaging in favouritism, is the beginning but not the end of the issue. In fact, the issue is whether any child feels that he is getting less attention than the other children, and no matter how well the parent spreads his time out, children will feel that their siblings are getting more ...


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The most effective solution I've tried has also typically taken the longest to implement. For that reason I don't really feel like it's the answer I'm seeking, but for completeness I want to submit it for review. Part of the criteria for them getting my attention, or assistance for conflict resolution is to prove to me that they took appropriate steps on ...


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I've never punished my kids for not getting along but I have gotten angry with one or another for improper behavior (e.g. over-reacting, escalating too far, endless teasing just for the fun the torture, etc.). I just explain, though, in a calm and normal voice why the behavior is incorrect. In general, I only break in if one is obviously hurt or really ...



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