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There are 2 (possible) issues here. Age You could be concerned about the age. This does raise a few concerns: What happens if they break up? Will she be able to cope? A number of people around my age have been in serious committed, sexual relationships and haven't worked out - for a number of reasons. It often seems to be that those boys who will enter ...


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First of all, the "how should I handle this" depends a lot on what your own concerns are. Is your concern the "cousin" part? or the "two 14 year olds" part? If the latter, is it specific aspect (are they mature enough to consistently use birth control?) or just general age-readiness for sex as a concept? Once you sort out your concerns, the main and best ...


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she thinks that he is cool because he makes a lot of money off it Most likely, he's spinning yarns about the money in drug dealing and she's falling for it because she watches too much TV. Studies indicate that low-level drug dealers make $20k-$30k per year. While that's a lot for a 17-year-old, it is not very much money at all by adult standards; ...


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There isn't much you can do to force a change in their relationship. You can establish curfews, household rules, and so on, but unless you plan to watch her every minute of every day, she'll find a way to break a rule that you put in place. While she is certainly not an adult yet, your daughter's old enough to make some decisions on her own. The best way ...


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Is there anything you can do? Not really. I'd say talk to your daughter and make it clear that you know what she's doing, you're not happy about it then go onto making sure she stays protected while having sex. It's probable this will just end in time and then you'll be there to console your daughter however, you could talk to her and suggest that she ...


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You could tell her that she thinks her boyfriend is cool, but he really is not because he ruins lives. That might stop her. You could additionally forbid her to see him, but I'm not sure that will stop her. Basically go over to your daughter and tell her that he boyfriend is a bad person. Or go over to him and say: You're a mean person


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My view will likely be somewhat controversial, but I thought I'd share it anyway since I don't think they're THAT unreasonable. Personally, I think there are 3 things to consider: Is the act of incest illegal in your jurisdiction? Do you personally think incest is not right? Is there a strong taboo on incest in your surroundings? If incest is illegal in ...


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Once the internet appeared there was no way to put that particular cat back in the bag. Anybody who gets on the internet is going to be exposed to porn. My husband and I have come to the conclusion that the only way to deal with porn is to pull its teeth as best we can. When my son has questions about things he sees on the computer, we just react with a ...


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It seems like stepping backwards through time, but most pediatricians and many psychologists recommend against kids having computers or televisions in their rooms. With the advent of hand held devices and lap tops used for school work, this seems like a thing of the past, but it doesn't need to be, although a parent would need an iron will to enforce this ...


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My son did this as well. We proceeded with education as DA01 described above. My husband is more of a doer and I am more of a talker so the kids often turn to me to understand things. We explained our position as well, that it wasn't acceptable. The worst I found after that was a Victoria's Secret catalog in his room. I am big on listening to my kids point ...


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There's no universal answer to this question. It's going to vary heavily depending on all sorts of factors. I can merely offer my own POV. I'd start by considering that you can't rid the world of porn. If your child is looking for it, they will find it no matter. So I'd accept the fact that they will be looking at it. As such, I think--as with many ...


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Try to keep the door open no matter what. While you teach him correct principles, make it clear that nothing he does will lessen your love for him. If he simply starts hiding his actions better, you'll be much worse off as a family. Remember that the awkwardness of such conversations can be even more repulsive to a teen than any condemnation they may feel. ...



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