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I'm tempted to answer "Yes.", but that would be totally misleading. So the long answer, because we need to examine the mechanisms that are at work in such cases: When we think abuse, we often imagine the mysterious stranger that snags little boys and girls and does unmentionable cruel things to them. And yes, these cases happen. But: The majority of ...


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I was raised in a house where nudity was never an issue and yes, there were a few times I saw my parents having sex. I do not think it was intentional or an "in your face" kind of a thing. it was more of a "I got home early", or woke up to get water and saw something I shouldn't have. As strange as this sounds, I don't see a problem with it. It wasn't ...


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When I was 10-12 years old, I often ended up in the situation of being awake in a hotel room with my parents when they were having sex. Aside from having to lie very still for a long while when I urgently needed to get up to use the toilet, it didn't hurt me. I was mostly concerned that my parents not know that I was lying there awake and listening (it was ...


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Yes, it is possible that an 8 year old does not have enough emotional maturity to understand what is really going on. Talking to a professional (doctor) is a good first step, your family will certainly need the support of people who have experience with this kind of situation.


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Physically - Yes. Mentally - No! In my experience (foster parent - seen this way too much, unfortunately), kids this age know that this isn't right. Physically, they might enjoy the stimulation - it's a natural response - but that actually tends to make the experience worse emotionally and mentally for the child. People who do this to kids typically go ...


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This is a good starting point for acting as a role model for teaching limits and boundaries. This is how we handled it. Our children have "golden time", a time and space for them to do what they want, how they want, limited to an hour maximum. Subsequently, when we (the parents) want to have sex during the day we tell the children, who are 10 & 7, it's ...


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I have one question...who's supposed to be watching them when this happens? This is not an accusatory question or in any way meant to point a finger, however, it is the standard question I have when ANY child of ANY age does something inappropriate. The fact is, as a rule of thumb, it only takes anyone 2 minutes to get into trouble...even adults. This ...


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Although the question stands at 7 months old now, I would like to shed some light on this as a 16 year old guy myself. My girlfriend is 15, fully a year younger. We have been in a relationship since she was 13 and I was 14. We had sex for the first time at 14/15 and we are still together, with no children and both happy, while still practicing regular sex. ...



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