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"Porn" runs a wide gamut of idealized or fantasy scenarios. Many, if not most, of pornographic materials, portray intimate relations in a way that is not typical. I would imagine a pornographic movie that depicts the awkward "getting to know each other" phase, dating, and the social and emotional intimacy that most parents would hope their children would ...


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While each child is unique, there are some commonly observed sexual behaviors typical for a 5 year old child (so called Normative Behavior) and some behavior that is of a concern (Symptomatic Behavior). The following wikipedia article describes some of these behaviors: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Child_sexuality#Normative_and_non-normative_behaviors The ...


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What I deem most important for my daughters to understand (and my son for that matter) is how their own actions affect the opposite sex and if that is really the effect they desire. On average, sexual attraction is much more disconnected from emotional attraction for boys compared to girls. The boy who doesn't wantonly stare may actually have a deeper ...


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It depends on the kid actually. Many kids will "play" even as toddlers and in elementary school and just experiment with the different sensations that happen in that area of the body. However, most kids hit puberty and start masturbating with an actual result sometime during the Middle-School years or between 11 and 15. Of course there are exceptions that ...


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I'd let him bring it up. I walked in on my parents in flagrante delicto when I was 8, and RAN out of the room and hid in the office for a while. My dad, bless his heart, came to find me and assure me everything was fine. "I know what you guys were doing, Daddy! I'm not scared, just freaked out! Leave me alone!" He left, and I vowed then and there to ...


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I think it depends more on the attitude of the parents and the child's disposition and age than on the actual witnessing (and maybe, how kinky things were when the viewing took place). I didn't find any online aricles with a scientific study on the matter or anything (how would you even go about a study like that really?) but I did find This article which ...


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Porn is, even to adults, the junk food of sex; it is a complete fantasy, and while some of it may be plausible, the primary reason to watch porn is to see something you're not getting in your everyday life. While a certain amount of such escapism is normal and even healthy, it depicts activities that are typically more fun to do than to watch. A few genres ...


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To add to Dave's excellent answer I also recommend trying to let go of any inhibitions you might have in regards to when and where you have sex. In my book the living room on a Saturday afternoon is a perfectly acceptable place & time to get jiggy with it. As long as the children are asleep of course. Oh, and you might want to lock the front door if you ...


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Hopefully you've already had the 'big talk' if your son is already a teenager. If not, now is the perfect time to bring up the topic and get talking. If you already had the talk, then he's likely as embarrassed as you are and perhaps the conversation has to be less about sex and more about how to knock on doors before entering.


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This varies dramatically from kid to kid. Some discover it as toddlers and never forget, others not until well into their teens. Because the libido spikes around puberty, this is the most common time to start regular masturbation (usually as a tween), especially for boys. A lot of young women don't start masturbating regularly until a bit later due to a ...


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Teenagers? I've masturbated for as long as I can remember, probably since age 3 even though I didn't know what it was - it just felt good. As the years passed I learned what it was and just kept on going. Always in private, but at some point my awkward mom asked me to not stain the bedding. I complied and there hasn't been a word since.


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It is funny that you've posted this because my seven year old daughter freaks when her dad takes of his shirt or she sees men shirtless even though we have always had a very open policy about nudity in our house. I don't know that this answer will work for you and we are only just beginning to think about these types of questions at our house, but we've ...


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I started "pullin it" just to see what it would feel like at 11. At about 12 and a half, I started doing it until ejaculation, and doing it a lot. Don't talk to him about it. I'm 13 and thank god my parents haven't found out/talked to me about it. Just let him google stuff when he has a problem. It's worked for me. Source I'm 13 years old


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Based on my comment on Beofett's post, some would say "well, look at you just defending porn." Yeah? So? Porn -- like sex, drugs, and rock n roll -- is a subject to be discussed with your kids. It's not to be taken lightly or assumed that it'll take care of itself in due course... that's honestly how babies get made. I grew up in suburbia and started ...


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Ask the child to excuse your for a minute. Then, dress up quickly and attend to the child's needs, if any. If he/she brings up the topic, then you might have to discuss about sex. If he did not see much, you could probably pass it off as cuddling. If he saw too much, then you will have to explain everything to him, obviously in a way that he can understand. ...


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I winced before clicking and was extremely relieved to learn that the problem is sartorial, not sexual. You need to let your son know that it's none of his darn business what clothes his sister wears. Call him on his hypocrisy and emphasize that he doesn't get to control his sister. Different households have different standards of modesty. If your son was ...


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What an awesome question! People always talk about "The Talk" but talking to kids about sexually related topics is something that happens over and over again throughout a child's upbringing if a child is being brought up in a frank atmosphere. There is the, "where do babies come from" as well as the, "why can't I come into your room when-ever I want" and ...


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No amount of fore-thinking is too much thinking when it comes to knowing what's coming down the pike for your kids. Just want to straighten that out. I have 5 and I've been thru that quite a bit, with a lot more coming. Any conversation similar to "why is that kid staring", we've had with our child in question well ahead of the time that they might ask. I'd ...


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This is a procedure we apply (works also for activities other than sex): Make sure toddler is asleep Turn on your wireless baby monitor Do whatever you need in any room (except bedroom), break and check when you hear some noise from monitor.


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Of course you can just have sex in front of a toddler. If he/she is busy playing or reading or whatever, he wont notice. And if he sees you, you show him a smile to show him, that everything is ok (because it could of course irritate him if he sees you during this event for the very first time). After that smile you just go on. The problem with this method ...



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