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First of all, the "how should I handle this" depends a lot on what your own concerns are. Is your concern the "cousin" part? or the "two 14 year olds" part? If the latter, is it specific aspect (are they mature enough to consistently use birth control?) or just general age-readiness for sex as a concept? Once you sort out your concerns, the main and best ...


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There isn't much you can do to force a change in their relationship. You can establish curfews, household rules, and so on, but unless you plan to watch her every minute of every day, she'll find a way to break a rule that you put in place. While she is certainly not an adult yet, your daughter's old enough to make some decisions on her own. The best way ...


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I'm tempted to answer "Yes.", but that would be totally misleading. So the long answer, because we need to examine the mechanisms that are at work in such cases: When we think abuse, we often imagine the mysterious stranger that snags little boys and girls and does unmentionable cruel things to them. And yes, these cases happen. But: The majority of ...


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I was raised in a house where nudity was never an issue and yes, there were a few times I saw my parents having sex. I do not think it was intentional or an "in your face" kind of a thing. it was more of a "I got home early", or woke up to get water and saw something I shouldn't have. As strange as this sounds, I don't see a problem with it. It wasn't ...


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Is there anything you can do? Not really. I'd say talk to your daughter and make it clear that you know what she's doing, you're not happy about it then go onto making sure she stays protected while having sex. It's probable this will just end in time and then you'll be there to console your daughter however, you could talk to her and suggest that she ...


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There are 2 (possible) issues here. Age You could be concerned about the age. This does raise a few concerns: What happens if they break up? Will she be able to cope? A number of people around my age have been in serious committed, sexual relationships and haven't worked out - for a number of reasons. It often seems to be that those boys who will enter ...


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she thinks that he is cool because he makes a lot of money off it Most likely, he's spinning yarns about the money in drug dealing and she's falling for it because she watches too much TV. Studies indicate that low-level drug dealers make $20k-$30k per year. While that's a lot for a 17-year-old, it is not very much money at all by adult standards; ...


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Yes, it is possible that an 8 year old does not have enough emotional maturity to understand what is really going on. Talking to a professional (doctor) is a good first step, your family will certainly need the support of people who have experience with this kind of situation.


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When I was 10-12 years old, I often ended up in the situation of being awake in a hotel room with my parents when they were having sex. Aside from having to lie very still for a long while when I urgently needed to get up to use the toilet, it didn't hurt me. I was mostly concerned that my parents not know that I was lying there awake and listening (it was ...


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This is a good starting point for acting as a role model for teaching limits and boundaries. This is how we handled it. Our children have "golden time", a time and space for them to do what they want, how they want, limited to an hour maximum. Subsequently, when we (the parents) want to have sex during the day we tell the children, who are 10 & 7, it's ...


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Physically - Yes. Mentally - No! In my experience (foster parent - seen this way too much, unfortunately), kids this age know that this isn't right. Physically, they might enjoy the stimulation - it's a natural response - but that actually tends to make the experience worse emotionally and mentally for the child. People who do this to kids typically go ...


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Although the question stands at 7 months old now, I would like to shed some light on this as a 16 year old guy myself. My girlfriend is 15, fully a year younger. We have been in a relationship since she was 13 and I was 14. We had sex for the first time at 14/15 and we are still together, with no children and both happy, while still practicing regular sex. ...


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My view will likely be somewhat controversial, but I thought I'd share it anyway since I don't think they're THAT unreasonable. Personally, I think there are 3 things to consider: Is the act of incest illegal in your jurisdiction? Do you personally think incest is not right? Is there a strong taboo on incest in your surroundings? If incest is illegal in ...



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