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Too Long; Didn't read: Emphasize similarities, not differences Teach them to avoid expectations of being rejected merely for being from poor background Immunize them (teach to ignore) disdain from some jerks who will reject them - don't let bad attitude discourage them, EVER. But important part is to not treat everyone in advance as if you expect them to ...


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One answer would be: "I have just lost my job. That was a shock for me, but I'm getting over it and I will find a new job. However, having my son, who is close to an adult, come to me with that kind of stupidity isn't helping. I have to worry about money, I have to worry about finding a new job, don't add to my worries right now. You are old enough to be ...


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Turn the question around. Why should I study so hard when you hold a college degree, work hard all your life and see what happened to you? "What did happen to me, exactly? I lost that job, sure. But look around you, see this house? If I hadn't gone to college, I would have never had that job in the first place. I'd be an assistant manager at a fast ...


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Losing a job is gaining life. Even if you are a college degree holder, worked hard forever, and raised your kids to believe that college is the way to go, a loss of a job just means a chance to move onto something fresh. Possibly better, depending on the perspective. Plus, how much worse would things have been had he never got a degree and got the job he ...


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Daring to kick father XXX in the pants in an attempt to try to assist in rising above the humiliation: Is father XXX now forever crippled and broken, never again to dare reach for greatness? Or is father XXX just currently jobless and humiliated for a spell while busily learning from this lesson how to become a stronger better person, and then forging a ...


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"If I were not educated, we would not have all the things we currently have. Sure, today I don't have a job - but if I had not had a job for the last X years can you imagine where we would be and what kind of life we would be living?" "This joblessness is a bump in the road. Lots of people don't have jobs. Half of them don't have degrees - but I do. ...


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The son could be helped with examining whether he actually thinks that it's true that higher education is useless, or just that this argument happens to fit with his current desire to not do the work. The way you do that depends on the child's age. If he is indeed interested in whether education makes a difference, perhaps show/discuss some data (if he's ...


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There are a lot of answers already. Most (all?) of them are good. But there's one important piece of this that none of them address: how do you feel about your situation? It sounds to me from the wording of your question like you have some lingering doubts about your own life choices. You need to sort that out or you will lack credibility when attempting to ...


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The way I handled this situation worked really well for me, perhaps it would for you... I explained that a job is just a job, and sometimes jobs suck, sometimes they are great, and sometimes both for different people. But in job loss, there is a great deal that is NOT lost. You lose your particular income arrangement and role in whatever operation you ...


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The son is not asking a "rational" question. This is his feelings talking. Feelings need to be understood, and feelings need help to be converted to words. This is not a question to be answerd with logic. The son is saying "I have a bunch of weird feeling going on, I don't know how to express myself! Help!". Try to understand him, empathise with him and ...


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First and foremost, that logic is not sound. The argument boils down to "bad things happen no matter what, so why should I try?" To give an analogous example, I can take meticulous care of my car and it could run for 10+ years. But all that care will not put a magic ward around my car to protect it from a storm causing a flood or knocking a tree on to ...


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Why not advise your son to learn a trade? Tell him that once you have a trade, no one can take that away from you. You will always be able to work.


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It is unlikely the son concluded this after a calm and rational examination of his options, but rather was reacting in the heat of the moment. Establish in subsequent discussions that the son's logic isn't particularly sound. Advanced education provides a lot of opportunities. It does not guarantee permanent success (as the father has found), but it opens ...


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Could tell him it is the difference between having a chance and having no chance. People can work hard and do all the right things and still end up unemployed with a low standard of life, but on the whole it happens a lot less to educated hard working people than uneducated layabouts. Also there is more to education than just getting a job, it is far easier ...


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I suggest either professional advice or at least professional information on the topic. People here may or may not be professionals, but there is no guarantee of it. A good first step is having a conference with the school guidance counselor. They are trained and can recommend books or other resources you can use. I don't fully disagree with Karl, but ...


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Give it some time. It's very natural for a child to test boundaries in a new environment, and his teachers are still in the "honeymoon period," when they tend to cut kids a little too much slack because the kids are new. Some kids can't handle slack very well. I would wait a month or two before worrying about him being a permanent delinquent :-) These ...


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I don't believe in changing or removing clothes in front of others, with a few exceptions. This caused me problems in high school, because my physical education (gym) classes required a specific PE uniform (school branded shorts and T-shirt, not just a dress code). I refused to undress in order to change clothes, and there were no private places to change ...


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It's unclear to me based on the question whether this is a defined religious belief (as would be explicitly protected by the first amendment and federal law), or if this is a belief that is not so protected. Jurisdiction (including country of course) would have a lot to say exactly where the line there is. If this is based on a religious belief, or ...


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Your question sounds like you want to find a way to help the teenager accomplish the goal of privacy. Editing my wording to better reflect my intent and meaning: Go and talk to the teacher in charge in a 1 on 1 meeting. This will show them that it is important to you. Express your viewpoint about nudity and how you'd like their help in the matter. Ask ...


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I have two children with special needs and both have speech and Language difficulties. We moved from the UK to abroad and our children not only picked up the language but one of them retained their English so is bilingual. The other one is actually able to understand English just prefers to speak in the other language which he of course hears all day every ...



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