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To me, this sounds like much ado about nothing. Your son needs to learn how to socialize and how to make friends; sounds like he's done that already, so that's not your problem. So what is your problem? The fact that some kids aren't coming to a birthday party? Sounds like a good opportunity for a conversation with your son about the real world. ...


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If you DO make an issue out of it, what will be the result? Will the other 10 families start to consider everyone else in their priorities and scheduling, or will they apologize and keep right on with what they're doing? It's apparent they feel that having their children participate in soccer is a higher priority than having their children participate in ...


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There we agreed to make sure that everybody prioritized class events in order to do our best to get a good class. No, you didn't agree. It is possible that no one spoke out against this suggestion when it was made, but that is probably mostly due to an intense social pressure in the situation. Can you imagine someone in the situation saying: "I don't ...


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An obvious solution is to move the date or time of the party to not conflict with an event that is very important to a large portion of invitees (and which they do NOT have the option to reschedule). If you don't want to change the party time, then perhaps you should consider whether it's a priority for your son's party guest list to exactly coincide with ...


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I would think it much better to plan for a birthday party on a weekend when there isn't a big tournament to play in or watch. Does it really matter if the birthday is celebrated on the exact day? Give the kid a choice. Perhaps he would rather have four of his closest friends and some family at a time when it is good for all than be responsible for ...


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Which notice came first? Did parents know about the tournament before the birthday party or vice-versa? If the tournament was known about first, it should have priority. If the opposite, then it's iffy. If you do make a big deal about it and the kids are, in a sense, forced to give up watching soccer, a sport they enjoy, they may end up resenting your son. ...


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One thing to consider, in addition to the other points of view here, is that children do perform better if they're older relative to other children in their grade, on average. The UK for example did a study on students' attainment of key goals by birth month, and found that at age 5, there was a 2.6% gap between fall-born children and summer-born children ...



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