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Children need to be taught, "not now." And to defer their desires until "later." Tell your daughter that you will allow her to sing "after dinner" at a time and location more to your liking. But tell her that she cannot sing "right now" because you and she are at the dinner table. And tell her that if she continues to sing "right now," you will not allow ...


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spare the rod and spoil the 8 year old child. If you beat her occasionally, it will make her stop her "kiddishness"


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Let me relate a story just happened last night: My son (12 yrs old) was playing the piano, after that he was quite pleased and happy with his own play, and thereafter clapped for himself, and most important he was doing it happily....not in anyway of disturbing others. But this clap posed too "noisy" for my wife, who equally make lots of noises but ...


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Humans communicate very ambiguously, requiring a lot of cultural experience to be able to discern our full meaning. Eight-year-olds are right in the sweet spot, where it seems like they should know your full meaning, but they often don't. For example, if my eight-year-old is doing something like singing at an inappropriate time, and I ask him to "please be ...


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I've found that even though I'm speaking the same language they know, they sometimes don't fully hear or understand, and even when they do they believe that if they change their activity slightly then the problem will be resolved without having to cease it entirely. So before I assume ill intent, I first assess whether they understand what I'm asking. Then ...


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I've read that children often overhear the "not" part of a request -- Instead of saying "don't do X" they hear "do X". Instead of telling what not to do, tell them what you want them to do. Instead of saying "don't sing at the dinner table", say "dinner time is only for talking." In your example, she seems to have an urge to sing - because she can't stop, ...


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Children, but adults also, tend to accept request better if you motivate it. I know it can be hard sometimes, but that also forces you to think about WHY you're exactly asking that and eventually not even ask. Please stop singing cause mommy is tired and would appreciate a little silence. Please put your jacket cause it's raining outside and if you're wet ...


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I think you should ignore her and try not to get attached to the outcome of such behaviours. Because, may be she likes singing and probably thinks why are you having trouble with her singing. If it annoys you may be try to engage her by giving her some job or start asking questions about her friends, schools, home work and listen to her and keep the ...



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