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While you should not lie, you can tell half truths. So rather than telling them about your lack of religious belief, you could instead tell them you were raised Jewish just like them. I would however suggest that you talk to your sister about it, tell her that you don't want to lie but want to respect her wishes, so if they do ask, how does she want you to ...


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Live and let live. While you will obviously want to go along with the show at the bar mitzvah, if the nephews ever ask about your beliefs, I see no reason to lie, even by omission. If your sister's feelings are hurt because you tell your nephews that you do not believe in God, then quite frankly that's your sister's problem, not yours. Also, I'll disagree ...


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Too me, this honestly feels psychopathic and like a form of manipulation I am afraid this is the heart of the matter. This is difficult to judge from the outside (or even from the inside), but from your description it looks like your mother is manipulating you to conform to her beliefs. This is abusive behavior that must stop. Coping with this type of ...


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At the moment its just a ritual like saying "please" or brushing hair; she is too young to understand the theology. Later you can discuss your beliefs (or lack of them) and the extent to which she should continue respecting her grandparents beliefs. If she notices that you don't follow this ritual then thats probably a good time to start explaining that you ...


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Do you mind if I try to talk this through from a parent's perspective for a minute? I don't do this to justify your mother in this situation, but to provide a different perspective. I have five kids. They are all younger than you. I am a religious person, and am trying to raise children who are also religious, because I value my personal relationship with ...


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Speaking as a Christian parent, whose deepest hope is that my children will gain their own relationship with God, here are some arguments I would personally respond to: Everyone needs to personally come to their own relationship with God, it can't be forced on someone. She's poisoning your relationship with the church, and driving you further from ...


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This problem seems to come up a lot, and I think it comes for a large part from what stuffe mentioned in his answer. People put religion on a special pedestal, like it's a more important/valid/respectable/believable thing than any other opinion people hold. This causes the situation to be approached very differently from most other discussions, because both ...


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If you are mainly concerned about your child learning about religion, there is no need to baptize them for that purpose. You can not only teach them all you want them to learn about religion at home, you can also go to church with them without having made the promise of raising them Catholic (which is what a baptism is). Nobody will stop you from telling ...


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Baptism is not an inculcation, but an expression of a commitment. If your child has not had their skills of knowledge between right and wrong developed, how can they commit (Hebrews 5:14)? More so, how can they follow the instruction to love with all their heart and soul (Deuteronomy 6:5)? If you must force your child to believe through any means, then ...


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You have my deep sympathy. As a desperate measure, perhaps you could set up a counseling meeting with a priest / other religious leader your mother trusts and whose views she appreciates more than some anonymous counselors. Fighting fire with fire, so to speak. That's obviously not necessarily someone you trust, but chances are that he/she is not as ill as ...


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Unfortunately the heart of this issue is religion, which is going to make this situation either really difficult, or (depending on her relationship with Christ) really easy. If your Mom has a relationship with Christ, giving her examples of Christ's love and how Christ did act in certain situations throughout the four books of The Gospel, and then giving ...


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Explain it to him as it is, in such abusive environment where they rip the childhood out of the children you have no choice but to be honest as the damage has already been done. You should explain to him that he might get executed and those whom he love might get hanged, if he is smart enough to ask questions about Allah then he is smart enough to figure ...


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You don't mention the ages of your children, but from my (extremely limited) understanding of Catholicism, I presume you are referring to baptism while they are still very young. My wife is christian. I am not (I'm not really religious at all, and have both specific and general concerns about most organized religions). My son was baptized as an infant. ...


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First, it's extremely unlikely that a 2 year old really understands the issues and the logical, scientific, and historical arguments for and against any given religion or non-religion. I wouldn't try to burden her with difficult subjects beyond her understanding. Second, you have to consider just how far you want to go with this, considering that it will ...


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I know many people who were raised religious and are atheists, and many others who grew up atheist and are religious. I'm personally religious despite grown up in a fairly skeptical household, and judging by your question, you are agnostic despite having been raised religious. Given that your child (and mine) will grow up in a world with both religious ...


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Treat it like any other rule where you and society disagree on how to raise your child. Imagine if you said "I don't want my child to drink soda until she is 20", and go from there. Setting the rule Obviously in your own home, explain the rule and don't break it yourself (this should be fairly easy) For people your child is around a lot and who might ...



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