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She is only 10 years old. There is nothing "only" about being 10. It wasn't when we were that age, and it certainly isn't today when kids get into "that age" sooner than they ever did. Besides, "10" is just a number anyway -- my own girl, at 10, is basically at the same stage physically that her mother was at the age of 14, and that is not ...


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Since you are obviously concerned about your daughter the first thing you need to do before deciding any actions to take is find out a little more about the boy. This might be tricky because if she feels you violated her privacy in any way you will be very unlikely to get any cooperation, same for if she feels you are pressing her too hard. Talk to her ...


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I hope you did not give her the impression that her diary was private because if you did, then you will do real damage to her trust in you if you let her know that you read her diary. This is the most important thing to take away from this situation in my opinion. Trust is easily lost and regained with great difficulty. She might even start thinking its okay ...


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Well think back to when you had your first love. I hardly think discipline is the correct form of action, it sends the signal that love is a bad thing and I'm pretty sure that's not what you want to do. I understand that you as a parent want to protect your child however too much protection isn't really helping as it shelters your child from what the ...


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Best way is to tell the truth, but in a way that she can listen to a story, where someone else learns to love or falls in love.


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Why are people going bonkers about a parent reading a TEN YEAR OLDS DIARY. Privacy? No honey, A ten year old doesn't have privacy at least not in the absolute sense. That will come when she's sixteen or so. Of course maybe she's super-mature and has the mental age of a 21 year old. In that case the dairy is likely just bait or a false lead to see if ...


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You have to deal with it smartly and make it a win-win situation. First of all don't feel bad about people telling you that reading that diary without her "permission" was wrong. Parents have super-admin rights and whatever they do they do with the good-will of their children in mind. Just as a super-admin does everything in the interest of the system. At ...


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How do I deal with the situation? How do I discipline her? I think a lot of people are equating "discipline" to "punishment", when that isn't necessarily the case. Unfortunately your question doesn't tell us much about your values or parenting style, so I can only provide a few comments and possible directions you might go in. Summary She doesn't ...


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Getting a crush on a boy at ten years old is really normal and reasonable and nothing to worry about. I had my first crush (on my big sister's boyfriend, I might add!), when I was only six years old! At that age, it is kind-of hero-worship and it is really good for kids to "practise" emotional attachments and social interactions. I think it is unlikely that ...


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I just found out that my daughter wrote in her diary... How did you find that out? Did she tell you it was written in there? Did you read it when she expects it to not be read? If you allow your child to have a diary and tell her that these are her private thoughts, and then you invade her private thoughts without telling her, you are giving her the ...


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There is not very much detail here and so it makes it difficult to know exactly why you're worried about this situation. In general, I would not worry. [If it turns out that the boy in question is (a) significantly older or (b) pressuring/forcing her into the idea of being in love, then do be concerned (but don't blame her).] My daughter (also 10) has had ...


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Let's start with: how do i discipline her You don't. What would you be disciplining her for? Because she said she loves a boy? That's perfectly normal for a child her age to have a crush, and while children that age don't understand romantic love enough to know the difference between a crush and love, that's not a reason to seek to discipline them. ...


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I am 32 years old and i have witnessed my parents and might i add they had the choice to stop and didn't. Damaging - i dunno but i sure wish i don't gave that memory. I like to think its trauma. Im sorry i didn't check other responses if they were similar. I believe it is damaging and i think no pre pubescent child should be a witness- for me preferably ...


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Demonstrate to your parents that you are behaving responsibly. Do this by creating a reasonable timetable. The time table includes all your lessons; it includes the work you do at home; it includes the time you spend doing chores (and now might be a good time to start doing those if you haven't done so already!); and it includes your relaxation time. You ...


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Couple of things. You said my parents want to control my every move my relationship; they will not let me go out unless I ask them for permission, I have a certain time I have to be home, they are constantly checking up on me, and because of this, now it has been almost a week that I have been unable to see my boyfriend. First of all, as someone who ...


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When I lived at home, my parents asked three questions whenever I went out: where was I going, who would I be with, when would I be back? If they were uncomfortable with one of the answers, we would negotiate. If the plans changed, I was supposed to call. I hated those rules, until my parents pointed out one thing: they voluntarily gave that information ...


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You can get them something like this. They will know where you are without knowing what you do. It's a WIN-WIN solution. If they see you are with your boyfriend or somewhere in a safe place, it will give them peace of mind. This is what I'm planning to do with my daughters. I don't care what they do when they are adults as long as they are in a safe ...



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