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Try roleplaying with a toy or a doll. Play nursery, have a doll be her, one for the caregiver, a few "friends"... and then suddenly one friend is angry! Oh no, what happens? Kids often don't (want to) tell things, but when playing, use a mix of both fantasy and their own experiences to create situations. Ask follow up questions: why did the doll do that? ...


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I don't have a wholesale solution but two thoughts I would like to contribute: a) Friedrich Wilhelm August Fröbel, who was a student of Pestalozzi said »education is example and love – that's it« (»Erziehung ist Beispiel und Liebe – sonst nichts.«). I try to put this before all rules and consequences and keep asking myself: do I show enough love and do I ...


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Well, you have your house rules, and Grandma has her house rules, and they're not the same. You can't expect your boys to obey the rules of one house while they are in another. Your big mistake is, you shouldn't be teaching the boys house rules at all. You should be teaching them life rules. Eight and nine year old boys should not be polite to adults, ...


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If she really doesn't want any physical contact, I wouldn't force it. I would try to keep a smile and just look at her and tell her that you still love her and you will be there for her when she is ready. I had two different step-mothers growing up. My experience with the first one was horrible, so I projected this experience onto my expectations for my ...


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Try focusing a conversation or two around making her relaxed about the subject. She might be worried about the social consequences of "telling", backlash, maybe she actually likes the child who did it and they made up, who knows. You'll have to not just tell her it will be ok, but make her feel safe to tell you what she's worried about. This has to be ...


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Many videos/cartoons made for kids are unbelievably scary. Not only can they plant seeds of terror of monsters and demons of various types, but they can transplant a full grown terror plant. Monitor what they watch, both at home and elsewhere.


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For a 4 year old, I think it may be best to simply explain that a magnet will stick to an object if the object is made from steel. The child can go about the house identifying which things are made from steel, and which are not, by checking to see what the magnet will stick to. Children have a lot of fun doing this, and soon they will learn to identify which ...


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My daughter went through this, and it took a few years until she was old enough to articulate what made her sad about the old photos and stories. While we were all reminiscing and fawning over her cutest, most-precious photos and the priceless moments of days gone by, what she was hearing was that she was no longer so "baby cute" and how we missed having ...


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My dad died 3 years ago from cancer, I was 24 at the time. Let me first say that it sucks, and I feel for you, but you don't need to be told that! I was lucky in a sense, because my mother-in-law (I got married a week after he passed away; it was a busy time in my life!) also lost her dad early in life, and she helped me figure out what I needed to do. ...



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