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Different kids are motivated by different things. You say he is not motivated by rewards, well what have you tried? You have certain things that you need him to do. My eldest really likes money. My middle child: iPad time and stickers. My youngest: sweets on Friday. There are lots of different reward schemes you might try. I know someone who has a monkey ...


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Feedback loops can be external (a coach of some activity offers praise, your contribution is appreciated by others) or they can be intrinsic to the activity (solving a puzzle, leveling up in a game). You have to choose your activity based on your goals (is it skill competence you are after or social confidence?). Some activities might lend to both. Some ...


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When I was in college, I had a girlfriend who suffered from night terrors. It sounds to me like your son isn't have "night terrors", but having extremely bad dreams. I don't want to correct you on this and I'm willing to take downvotes for this answer (first one on THIS exchange). Night Terrors are very common and seem to be hereditary. The person who is ...


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Our approach has been to put on our daughter's plate what we expect to count as supper. Then it's up to her whether or not she wants to eat it, but if she does not she cannot move on to any snacking/desert or anything like that. Then we don't have to fight with her about it though. The rule is that she cannot have a snack later if she doesn't eat her meal ...


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If what you're making is nutritionally on-target and there are no allergy issues, continue serving only what everyone else is eating. You'd be surprised how un-picky kids become when they realize they're not going to get their way.


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A friend of mine had a son who was terrified of being in his room alone, and was constantly having nightmares. For his birthday (with his mother's approval) I gave him a gun that made a sound and lit up when the trigger was pressed. I told him it was a super-anti-monster gun and that all monsters were afraid of it because if you shot them with it they ...


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Here's what you do For the little guy. For his night terrors give him 1 to 2 small square of dark chocolate candy 2 to 3 hours before bedtime every night. Believe me this works it's stops the trigger of any night terrors from happening. Now remember it must be dark chocolate candy Of high grade percentage. His fears will stop once his night terrors are ...


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It seems like he just doesn't understand what is socially excepted when it comes to small talk (I know many adults with the same problem), he just needs some practice. This may not be the absolute best place but if he likes it it would be a great advantage to him as a skill. There is a group called Toast Masters that helps their members perfect their ...


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I notice this is an old post but maybe this will get through. Children are and will be very open to the elements of spirit. If they want to know or are talking about spirit visitation tell them the truth. They see and here more than you will ever know. Let them talk to you about it and gently ask details of their experience, assure them it is not something ...


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What steps can I take to help her make new friends once we move? Try to register her at a sports club and/or music school (something like that).This helps deflecting the old friends (as a 6 year) and then she should find new friends (mostly) at her age, very soon...


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--- Disclaimer: Some might feel this answer to be hard to digest. --- Have you ever thought about what is happening in your kid's brains while they are watching TV? I mean, from a neuroscientistic perspective? Basically a fireworks of impressions without any chance to influence what is happening. A child in front of TV will absorb a flood of pictures, ...


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Reading this, I could almost imagine my own father writing this for me. Now a disclaimer that I'm not a dr, and your son is probably nothing like me, but when I was in elementary school I too struggled with social anxieties (ok so I still do but I'm able to get around them more). I never felt comfortable in my own skin as it were. There were situations where ...


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Ericka, thanks for your question. I am a father of four, with three boys: 7, 12, 15 years old. I definitely see this separation anxiety as a real problem. While "normal" can be hard to define, if my 7 year old did this to me, I would certainly want counsel myself. What kind of relationship does he have with his Dad? Was there recently a traumatic event ...


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Music lessons and children often don't seem to mix, especially when it's practice time. It's really the same as anything else in family life, really. Children follow parental examples, and it's no different in music or any other art form requiring years of cultivation. Parents who wish for their children to become athletes are usually sports enthusiasts ...


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My son does this when he is busy doing something else and does not want to stop what ever he is enjoying to go to the bathroom. Like, watching a movie, playing a game, or outside playing. He does not do it at school or at one of his grandma's house. She makes him clean his pants in the toliet and clean himself up! So, I know he can control it! I have ...


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My approach in a similar situation: There is an appropriate "costume" or dresscode for every occasion, not only for formal events. Shoveling snow? Business meeting? Scuba diving? Your wedding? None of them exactly a jeans-and-t-shirt day, right? So make clear that every member of the family dresses appropriately for the day, depending on what's scheduled. ...



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