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Is this a problem? My personal feeling is that, yes it is. The issue here is one potentially of child abuse -- not your children, but of M. I would question whether M has been subjected to inappropriate requests, or even subject to CSE. It could actually be nothing, but if M is being abused at home or elsewhere it could save M years of hurt if things were ...


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It's possible that she is just being dramatic and doesn't actually intend to hurt herself. If so, great, but there's likely still some truth to what she said: she feels like she isn't getting attention, and/or she feels like she isn't valued and loved. The fact that she's been increasingly sensitive to criticism indicates this if nothing else. However, it's ...


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Aliel, this is obviously very painful for you and for your son, but I think you might be over-reacting to the situation. From what you've written above, these are some of the assumptions you seem to be making, which I think may not be justified: That your 5-year-old son's perception that his teacher is victimising him means that the teacher actually is ...


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I was a depressed child. I didn't like myself much until I was in college. Childhood depression is often ignored and marginalized but it is still real depression (people often minimize it- suggesting that children never have anything to feel depressed about as they have few responsibilities and are given a lot of indulgences). What I would do if I were in ...


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You are not going to get an accurate report on the day's activities in the classroom from a five year old. In fact most 13 year olds don't report accurately on what's going on. I arranged to spend two full days in my child's classroom. I sat at the back, and had a laptop, and tried to work, although I actually found the noise and chaos made working ...


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It sounds like you might be leaning toward homeschooling. If that's the case, bear in mind that you don't have wait for the end of the year. For our son, we didn't even wait out the week, let alone the semester. We had been pondering homeschooling for a while, but one Wednesday he had a particularly bad day with a substitute teacher, and that Friday was ...


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my approach to this would be to talk to her every day. Ask her about her day, classmates and friends, problems in kindergarden etc. and take her seriously. It doesn't necessarily have to be about problems. Maybe you could recreated the day with her dolls, so it is more a game than a serious conversation. Over time this could be a way to help her to express ...


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One thing I know with my kids and I've taken professional advice on this is that you have to get down to their level. Standing up and raising your voice is quite intimidating and distancing, however if you get on their level and get in their world (in a nice way!) you will find they are much more amenable to not only listening to you at that point but at ...


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Please allow me to offer a few points of information. Your child may be phonetically inclined, and it seems he may be having trouble separating words from their sounds. He may be also having trouble separating words from other words. What is his awareness to the situation and is has he been socially affected by it? Does he feel he has a problem or shows ...


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One thing that struck me when reading your question is whether or not the bad teacher knows that your son has a speech impediment? My younger brother has some minor physical and perception-related handicaps that are not immediately visible, and people often react with anger because he's clumsy and seems to never notice other people around him, crashing into ...


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It's hard to answer without having a lot of detailed knowledge of the classes that really even you probably don't have, but I doubt it would be a net negative to enroll him in a pre-school, as long as it's with some age-equivalent children. You don't say enough detail about that; is it mixed 3.5-5.5 year olds? Or is it all 3 year olds? Even if he is ...


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Ask her why she said that. I agree with (and upvoted) all of Erica's thoughts as good advice generally in this situation, but I think the first thing to do is ask her why she said those things. I like Erica's advice in how to do it, too, but make sure you stick with it and make her feel safe about answering the question. My daughter did something similar ...


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Suicidal thoughts and suicidal comments are always a significant sign for concern. In England: make an appointment with your GP. Ask for an appointment with your local CYPS (Children and Young People's) mental health services. (Or they might be CAMHS - Child & Adolescent MH Services). Your child is six, and so they are unlikely to know what suicide ...


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Bothersome But Normal OK, the good news first - this is totally normal. I've seen this in my kids and I've seen this in other people's kids. Lots. If this is the only indication of possible ADD/ADHD then I don't think you have anything to worry about (particularly as the doctor says they're ok). You're In Control So the first thing is to realise that you ...


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I'm not sure this should be an answer instead of a comment on Christine Gordon's answer, but alas I have only 26 reputation at this point. I have an 8 year old daughter who is extremely motivated to her own agenda, and a 5 year old son that struggles with getting mad quite often. I've found timeouts, lectures, (most) rewards, and punishments to be ...


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First of, I feel bad for your son going through all this at such a young age. I agree with CreationEdge regarding your first question. "look into the school district's complaint policy. It's time to go over the teacher's head" but you should first make sure(I think you really are) that your teacher actually having mean behaviour towards your son and that ...



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