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This sounds like a cry for love and attention to me. First, you admit that no one really pays attention to your sister or spends time with her. All kids need attention and love. And your sister isn't getting it from you and your family. Her resistance is a way she can get that attention, even if it is negative attention. Second, you say she listens to ...


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note: read entire post before jumping to an aggressive standpoint conclusion, this means well. how is this arrogance? is it fair to label her as such because you're perplexed as to why she doesn't eagerly leap into mathematics? from what you say, it sounds like she's on vacation. you're trying to force (your word, force) an 11 year old to study math on ...


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Listen to hu45, What a wonderful opportunity to make a difference in a child's life. What you make of it is up to you. But as someone that has been in that position before, I suggest you act boldly, in the girls best interest, being open to the realization that her interest are your interest. Your young and at the perfect age to start a family, do it. ...


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As you describe the situation, I would consider Angela as possibly a traumatized child in a troubled home situation, until you learn otherwise. This is not to say that her guardians have intent to neglect Angela, but according to Angela they're old and sick and perhaps unprepared (as you wisely observe that you are not fully confident) to raise her and deal ...


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This is actually pretty common. First, lets get some things out on the table. Your talking to her. That makes you her friend, at least a little. Don't think that because you're older you can't "be friends". There need to be boundaries, obviously. But to someone that age "friend" can be anyone that listens. There are structured groups (Boys and Girls Club, ...


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First of all, if you have a problem for which professional help is available, of which this is one, then you should seek professional help. (Reference: MBA program). Consider finding out what resources are available in the community for this girl and try to put her in touch with them. Second, but this is absolutely critical, the chief job of a teenager is ...


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The girl is clearly not happy at home, and her guardians dont seem too interested in looking after her. Those psychological issues could be multiple personality disorder -- and some victims of traumatic abuse will do exactly what you are describing in the hope of adopting a new family. I make no assumptions about the possible perpetrator: she could have ...


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That is a hard situation since you also have your own personal priorities. The child needs psychiatric help, perhaps you can extend a bit more to look for someone who can offer such help? It would make a big difference if you can ask for help for her.


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Boundaries, Expectations and Communication Your first step is to communicate with the grand parents. If they are unaware of your relationship with their grand daughter and discover she is entering your home without their knowledge they may have a negative reaction. Shore up that relationship first and assess their capacity to communicate, understand and ...


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I want to offer a quick couple of points for you. Step 1 - tell her everything you wrote in your last paragraph to us. Kids are not dumb and she will most likely understand. Step 2 - don't feel bad when you tell her you cannot spend time with her. I suspect you feel bad or guilty for doing this. Telling her no is perfectly ok and after you explain step ...


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You can't make anything clear to someone who doesn't respect your opinion. Explanations only matter if the person you're explaining to has kind of the same world view as you do. This is where boundaries come in. Clearly things are not ideal for this girl, and it's natural to want to be helpful, but in this situation, true helpfulness is often more than what ...



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