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You have my sympathy. Having one child with encopresis is awful. I can't really imagine accurately what it's like to have two children with this problem. Parents of children with idiopathic constipation often blame themselves and their toilet training problems (which were often present). First a quick reassurance: a rectal examination finding stool in the ...


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At some point, children start doing everything they can come up with in order to stay out of bed the longest they can. Drink, eat, hug, pee, poo, light, change diaper - that was our daughter's list. She requested all those things in random order every evening; sometimes we complied, sometimes not - until we said enough. There is only one thing to do: you ...


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I don't have any experience with potty training a special needs child, but I have potty trained three boys, and even though they are normal (developmentally anyway) it was very frustrating at times, and we had our brushes with total madness as well. So, in that respect, it appears potty training is progressing normally for you. Hang in there, your child ...


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I was very daunted by potty training. When my son was 2 1/2 he started peeing outside in the summer on the grass so I thought maybe he was ready. When I put him in underwear he cried and complained and peed in them. Not until recently he is 3 yrs. and 4 months did he tell me straight away that he didn't want to wear diapers anymore. We came home one day and ...


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If your toddler is not producing enough urine to show up in the toilet, it probably isn't going to make much difference in terms of making sure their bladder is empty before a car trip or bed time. If you are concerned about rewarding the child for peeing in the potty, I suggest you trust them if they say they've gone (unless they have a pattern of not ...


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Daycare usually have scheduled bathroom times and will encourage all children to try at those times. This could be why he is not having accidents at daycare. I would go back to taking him into the bathroom at regular intervals when he is home with you. He may simply be too involved in his play to be paying attention to his body until it is too late.


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This is called a 'potty pause' and is extremely common. First of all, you need to rule out physical causes. Is she constipated? Could she have cystitis or a urinary tract infection? If it hurts her to poo or pee she will resist doing so until she can't keep it in any longer. (Constipation can cause pee accidents as well, as the backed-up poo in the rectum ...


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My daughter seems to like shoving her hand down her diapers. She is a scratch fan so she just tears up her skin unless we block her with a onesie. They make them for larger kids too: www.special-need-products.com They look like normal shirts so he shouldn't appear strangely to anyone. Just that when he does decide to give the toilet a try he will need extra ...


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Use your gamma-ray vision goggles and check their bladder fill level. If somebody lifted the set that came in your parenting handbook (quite common considering their value on the black market) you're just going to have to wing it. Use your intuition. You probably know your child's mannerisms better than they do, so use your best judgment. But also expect to ...


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First, don't punish him! I highly doubt he is intentionally deciding not to use the restrooms because he just feels like being naughty, these are accidents that he is unable to avoid. I'm sure the embarrassment of them is more then enough punishment to make him want to stop them, further punishment will not help. Worse, punishing him for accidents he ...


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We have a child who is mildly Asperger's, and our story mirrors yours in many ways. He was six before he was dry through the night. We tried many things over a few years, but victory came with a concerted effort, following a plan from a physiotherapist who specialises in this. The plan is: use a bed wetting alarm (ours is similar to this). The child ...


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The childcare has a responsibility to treat your child appropriately and according to your wishes. That said, there may be practical reasons why they need to put him in nappies (hygiene and having to wash the carpets). I've had exactly the same experience with my daughter. Every 30 minutes seems far too often, and could easily be off-putting to a small ...


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Why are you insisting on forcing potty training? This is a classic example of a battle where your child holds all the cards. That means she can 'win' if she wants to: and it sounds like she does. She sounds like she has good control and understanding of her internal systems, she just doesn't feel like cooperating. If it were up to me, I would go back to ...


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At 6 months they pee every 20 - 30min, almost always after eating / nursing / drinking or after waking up and they usually have to poo after eating / nursing because the new food puts pressure on the intestines. If you start holding them and not sitting them down, the additional pressure of bend knees makes it easier to relax. However, this is for the young ...


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We had similar issues for a while with our daughter and eventually got past them with a few methods, which among other things involved talking about others using the toilet, praise for when she used it and creating a little reward system. Firstly, we use a child toilet seat that slots on top of any toilet so we can take it anywhere. Something like this: ...


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The only thing I want to add here (and I would have made it a comment, but I really want to draw more attention to it's importance) relates to this, which you have stated you are doing: talk openly about changes to house and routine and how it's a hard transition. let her know she can feel sad, mad, scared and she is always safe with mom or dad and we ...


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Depending on the child and their ability to verbalize, she may very well know what she's afraid of but cannot put it into words. Instead of asking her why, give her scenarios. "Are you afraid the water will hit your bottom and get it wet? Are you worried about what happens to the poo/pee when you flush?" (That's what my daughter's issue was.) No matter ...


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It's all in what the kid is capable of doing. Your daughter sounds like she's just too young. She doesn't have the muscle control or the understanding of how and why she is producing the pee. Relax! She'll get it.


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Does he only do this when you are there to witness it, or does he do it at daycare and at home when you are out of the room too? I'm asking because it could be attention getting behaviour. Naturally, when he begins this inappropriate peeing, you react. You could try simply not reacting at all, walking away when he begins, then later coming back in to clean ...


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Let her wet herself a few times. Take lots of spare panties and trousers with you, and a bag for putting wet ones in. It takes a while, and she'll understand that when she wets herself it's no fun for anyone, and will gradually learn to control it and tell you when she needs to go to the toilet. Fair warning from my experience, for the first couple of ...


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I have always just waited til they are 3 yrs old. I have 4 kids, & that seems to work MUCH better than trying to train a 2-yr old. Cognitively, I just think they're better equipped. And mine are extremely smart (so it's not that they can't), their brains are just more well-developed by then. They understand more not only about their bodies (& its ...


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My daughter is 2 years and 4 months and completely dry even at night. Couple of things we did Lots of praise when she uses the potty. Ensure she's comfortable whenever she's going to the potty. We found this really really important. For example we sometimes left the room, talk to her about other things or got her a small book. Don't dwell on the ...


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I think any potty would be safe, as long as you supervise and support your child when on the potty.


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One thing my wife and I did when we were at this stage was to set an alarm (on a phone or otherwise) that goes off every hour or so as a cue to go try. It worked pretty well for us, but of course not all children are the same.


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I've raised three children of my own, and for many years worked in a daycare center. The truth is, that children often behave differently at daycare than at home. There is so much going on at daycare, with all the children and toys, that it's no wonder a child doesn't want to stop to go to the potty every 30 minutes. Daycare do have regularly scheduled ...


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We used an variety of techniques, but I know many people have had success with other techniques. The most important is to be patient, recognize if your child is developmentally and/or physically ready to recognize body cues. My tips: have a plan and discuss with all caretakers so your son will have consistent help and support. no yelling/shaming for ...


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We did the 20 minutes sit on toilet with our first son and, to be honest, it became a management problem since we were forcing him to do it on our terms rather than on his own. We did not use any diapers (or barely any) and stressed him to use the toilet/potty and we had messes more often than not. With our second son, we decided we would let him tell us ...


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My son was a good bit older. He would be almost potty trained and he would get a nasty sinus infection. The antibiotics and the resulting loose stools set us back a few months each time. Don't sweat it, don't compare yourself to other kids, and treasure the little ones as long as you can.


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One likely issue: she's probably afraid of failure. Or, perhaps more accurately, she's not afraid but nervous or stressed. Pooping in the potty is a stressful experience at first - both because you and she have expectations of success and yet it doesn't come easily, and because undoubtedly it's stressful to you (as a parent) that it's still going on - ...



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