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First the orange is dirty. You solve that, and only then the orange has pesticides. You solve that, and only then does the orange cause allergies. You can bet that if you proved that oranges are hypoallergenic, there would have been another objection. Your wife does not have a problem with the orange. Something else is going on.


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You should buy an organic orange - many citrus fruit are treated with fungicudes etc. to prevent mold in stores and during transport (we consumers benefit only by accident). There is a question over at Seasoned Advice that discusses whether they may be washed off. That said, if you give your child a washed organic orange - under supervision, of course - I ...


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If you ask me, except if taken out of the dustbin, or if it rolled on a dirty floor, or if you are travelling in a country with different bacteria, oranges are ok to play with and even touch with mouth. If there is a little doubt or objection from the mother, rinsing it should be enough. Also, there is an elephant in the room here, or two. Firstly, you ...


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First off, relax. You sound like you're doing the New Parent Thing and assuming that every potential mistake is a potential disaster! If you're sensible and careful, things will be fine. Putting a child in a playpen doesn't mean that you're neglecting them. It doesn't mean that they're isolated. It doesn't mean that they don't have access to toys. ...


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Hide the snacks and limit what's available. Ask them why they like playing at yours. It could be that they aren't being fed properly at home, or a tough situation is going on at home etc. Ultimately it's your house. You can timebox their visits. It's easy as all you have to do is make clear what the times are and stick to them. You can say no. It isn't ...


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Nice question. I think the fear of an allergic reaction is unwarranted, unless you have seen symptoms indicating that your daughter might be allergic to something. If you fear she might be allergic to oranges and therefore don't want her to lick them, you would have to keep her from everything else, too, because people can have strong and dangerous allergic ...


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No, you should not trust any dog's instinct nor should you trust any strangers on the Internet like me. You are the responsible party and you need to do your own homework. You certainly should apply good parenting strategies: observe the kids when they are playing together, set clear rules of what's okay and what isn't, and follow through consistently when ...


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Citrus fruit are commonly waxed in order to extend their transport and shelf life. For baking recipes calling for orange peels or grated lemon skin, you need to specifically buy unwaxed fruit. So that's the most likely agent to get into your baby's mouth. Of course, they cannot really use known poisons here, and the wax tends to be bitter and will stop ...


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If all you ever did was leave the child in a playpen you might have a point. But when used as a place to keep the child safe when you can't give it your full attention, they are invaluable. Youngster is taking a nap and by golly you need one too? Put em in and lay yourself down. If it wakes before you - it's in a safe place. Need to answer the door / fold ...


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Just do a risk-reward analysis. What is the risk of your daughter playing with one orange once and what is the added benefit of fun and learning with playing with an orange? Many people are ignorant of the chemicals (scary) that are used as pesticides. Even if they are toxic or carcinogenic, they often degrade very quickly, and don't forget the dose makes ...


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Talk to the neighbors. You don't have to be confrontational, just mention to the parents that their kids seem to be snacking a lot at your house, and you want to be sure they're not eating something they shouldn't be, or spoiling their appetite for dinner. Also find out if your kids are spending time at their house as well. It's possible your children are ...


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This situation sounds as if she is not actively playing with the toy, but was just the first to get it. Kid do exchange/swap in this manner without any issues: She seems to have socially mature for her age and have nice manners. If she has her toys taken away when she is engaged with playing with them, she might react differently! She is also surely aware ...


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You might be thinking of something like the old experiments showing the self-destructive behavior of animals restrained to fairly small areas with no mental stimulation. Here's a relevant TED talk. See especially the section around 3:25: You get a rat and you put it in a cage, and you give it two water bottles: One is just water, and the other is water ...


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Your wife is correct to be concerned about the pesticides and other filth on the skins of oranges. Sadly, most food these days is produced on large corporate-industrial plantations that use enormous amounts of chemicals and store/transport foods in rat-infested, disgusting conditions. You should validate her concerns about health, instead of telling her that ...


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It is a very common problem. I've been to plenty of houses that looked like the way you described yours. But I think the problem has several causes: 1) Too many accessible toys. The bulk of the toys needs to be in an area or closet where kids cannot get to. Kids love unpacking so they'd unpack whatever they can put their hands on. If the toys are out of ...


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It is exhausting when you first must get used to having a child around all the time. For someone who is used to having a substantial amount of "down-time", it can be devastating. There are some people who get uplifted from being with all children, and some who get uplifted from being only with their own children, and others for whom being with any children ...


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This is actually an area where kndergartens/nurseries come into their own - they tend to be very experienced at organising structured and unstructured time, including play and learning together, and this really gives you as parents some time to be by yourselves, whether that is for working, chores, or just to relax. If you don't use that sort of facility, ...



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