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This is a tough situation and as mentioned in comments definitely needs more context for better answers but I will say that the talking barrier is massive because ultimately the main thing right now is not just they need to understand you, its you need to understand them, Why are they so afraid of you spending time away Why have they become more ...


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Q1: I can't help but wonder, how else, besides the strong example we have set in our home, can we teach him the value and seriousness of making good relationship choices? Leading by example is usually the best way to get a point across. If your current marriage is as wonderful as you make it out to be, your son will notice that long-term monogamous ...


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If his father is in his life, your 10 year old son can't be shielded from his choices. Though there's a cardinal rule about not speaking ill of your ex to your son, that doesn't mean you can't discuss your own views respectfully and honestly, especially when he asks. Speak frankly about what the foundations should be for good relationships whenever he asks ...


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One reason may be that they are conscious of the fact that too much close contact may (and is likely, at least in popular perception) to lead your significant other to be resentful. "Mama's boy" and all that. As such, they may be consciously letting you set the pace of interactions to what would cause the least amount of strain between you and your gf. ...


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Ultimately if you teach her to stay away from boys then that will probably end up with her either hating them or completely rebelling against you. I think what you want to achieve is better done by giving her the linguistic tools to say what needs to be said and to whom it needs to be said. If she doesn't like the way someone touches her, her body is ...


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I suppose you refer to the situation India, which has even hit inernational press lately? (No bashing intended, I commend your awareness and foresight!) Please consider what you want to achieve: You want her to realize that there are some bad men that can do horrible things. That means, not all men are bad and a general "stay away from boys" would be too ...


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It's not uncommon for people to develop a stormy relationship with one or the other parent during adolescence, even under the best of circumstances --one might even argue it's part of nature's plan. Personally, I had a good relationship with my parents, and I still elected to go live with my grandparents during the last years of high school. I wouldn't ...


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I am at the parent end of a similar situation - 23 year old son who lives at home "part time" and with his girlfriend the rest of the time (20 miles up the road, closer to their respective colleges). I decided that being welcoming to him and his girlfriend (both well into adulthood, and in a long term stable relationship) should take priority over my ...


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With grown siblings, the dynamics of "who calls who" and similar are often very opaque and confusing. They are usually, however, not for a conscious reason but are simply trained behavior on autopilot. I have a similar situation. My parents divorced when my sister and I were in high school. My dad remarried and got three younger stepchildren, and we lived ...


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I can understand why you feel sad about this but I would suggest that perhaps there could be a more positive reason why you are having this experience rather than that your parents are upset with you or don't want to see you. It sounds like you are very mature and independent, particularly in comparison to your brothers. The situation with your handicapped ...


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Both my parents and my in-laws had similar issues when I first got married, so I think it's not that uncommon. I would try not to read anything bad into it. It's just a period of adjustment. First of all, consider that people naturally spend most of their leisure time with the people they live with. Think of when you were still living with your parents. ...


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It's important for a young adult to establish him or herself as an independent individual with his or her own life. Whether consciously or subconsciously, your parents are perhaps trying to help you with that process. Especially now you are to be married, your spouse needs to become the new most important person in your life. In addition, with two ...


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First, please let me express my sympathy, both for the loss of your brother, and now for the isolation from them that you feel. I don't know what's going on in the minds of your family members. Before you moved out, were they happy in your choice of a girlfriend/fiancee? Were they disappointed when you moved out? Did they help you move? Did they rely on you ...


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Let's start with the basic misassumption that plagues this kind of argument. There is NO conflict between love and strict discipline. Parents who impose strict rules love their children and want them to do well. They just want different things. How you approach Parenting is based on what you want for your child. If you want your child to be obedient and ...


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When they finally reach the point of frustration and start to get angry, she threatens them by saying "if you don't stop trying to make me do that chore, then I'm going to call the police". That's what kids do. They will pick the most embarrassing time to throw a tantrum whether it's in a restaurant, in a store, or in a crowded public place. This is ...


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I take it you have a cell-phone with recording capabilities? Maybe your parents do as well? Start using them. When you have caught enough of her threats on film, let her go ahead and call the police. They will tell her if she doesn't stop calling for such nonsense, they will write out a ticket or might even haul her in to show her what calling the police for ...


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I'm not married but my daughter is almost 2 and I am in a similar situation. My ex is moving out this weekend in fact. It's taken us over a year to come to the decision that it's for the best as we are both unhappy in the current situation and as much as we try not to, we still argue a lot. Even though I am not my ex's biggest fan (but by no means do I ...



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