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You can try looking at amazon.com for the audiobooks you have and checking the categories they are under adult children teens and then checking out any reviews, as coarse vocabulary is usually mentioned here if it was a surprise.


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Sounds like a nursing strike. Your baby will be ok, really. Likely his mouth hurts from teething right now, which has made him bite and he'll be back to normal soon. One idea is to try offering when he's sleepy/asleep, since then he's more likely to follow his natural instincts to nurse. KellyMom, a great resource for breastfeeding advice, has a whole ...


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Let me expand on my pithy comment above. It sounds like your son has taken an active interest in programming. I too spent "hours and hours" doing exactly the same sorts of things that it sounds like your son is doing (though I didn't have the luxury of the internet back then!). Rather than this work being a waste of time, it's actually building the ...


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I would take it as good advice from someone who loves you and wants what is best for you, and also has more life experience than you. IMO, she has a point, particularly since you say this is something of an impulse purchase. Say, "You know, Mom, you have a good point. I am going to take one month [or whatever amount of time you are comfortable with] to ...


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Communicating with and retaining a good relationship with your mother is important to you, so it's important that when a disagreement comes up, you might consider the possibilities behind your mother's objections when addressing them. My parents grew up during the Great Depression, so that was the background for many of their attitudes towards money; since ...


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One more thing to keep in mind, and perhaps remind her of: Your car is running fine now, but how much longer will it do that? NOW you (hopefully) have the resource and, above all, TIME to carefully consider which new car to buy: You can look for just the right deal. What if your car breaks down in half a year? Then you will be FORCED to get a new one ...


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I would say to first pretend she is not your mother, but rather a friend who has 20-30 more years experience in life. Think about what she is saying and run the numbers. Are you going to have to get a loan for the car? How much money would you waste in interest by getting a loan? How much would you save by waiting a few years, saving up what the monthly ...


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There is something called "non violent communication" (not sure about the translation). IF the other person is disposed to hear what you have to say, it's really useful as it prevent anger to set in. Basically, you talk about how you feel and not about what the person in front of you do "wrong". "I would prefer it if you stopped smoking inside." Is better ...


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You have my deep sympathy. As a desperate measure, perhaps you could set up a counseling meeting with a priest / other religious leader your mother trusts and whose views she appreciates more than some anonymous counselors. Fighting fire with fire, so to speak. That's obviously not necessarily someone you trust, but chances are that he/she is not as ill as ...


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Speaking as a Christian parent, whose deepest hope is that my children will gain their own relationship with God, here are some arguments I would personally respond to: Everyone needs to personally come to their own relationship with God, it can't be forced on someone. She's poisoning your relationship with the church, and driving you further from ...


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Unfortunately the heart of this issue is religion, which is going to make this situation either really difficult, or (depending on her relationship with Christ) really easy. If your Mom has a relationship with Christ, giving her examples of Christ's love and how Christ did act in certain situations throughout the four books of The Gospel, and then giving ...


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Do you mind if I try to talk this through from a parent's perspective for a minute? I don't do this to justify your mother in this situation, but to provide a different perspective. I have five kids. They are all younger than you. I am a religious person, and am trying to raise children who are also religious, because I value my personal relationship with ...


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Too me, this honestly feels psychopathic and like a form of manipulation I am afraid this is the heart of the matter. This is difficult to judge from the outside (or even from the inside), but from your description it looks like your mother is manipulating you to conform to her beliefs. This is abusive behavior that must stop. Coping with this type of ...



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