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I'm not speaking from either personal experience (my children were all spaced farther apart) or from academic research in this answer. That being said: I think that "hiding" the breastfeeding will eventually end up making the toddler feel more isolated and excluded by her younger sibling. It will require specifically removing one sibling from another's ...


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I initially tried to copy everything my wife did to sooth and bond with our son, but the singing and other tricks really didn't work for me. Eventually, I found my own tricks and have trained my boy to enjoy them (or his trained me). It took time and I only felt confident after my wife would leave the house, and I was forced to hone my skills. I started by ...


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It's not possible to say whether you will be a lighter sleeper after your child is born; that's entirely up to your brain chemistry and lots of other variables. I also don't think that there is one 'generally' here. I became a harder sleeper, my wife became a lighter sleeper, for example. Anecdotally, most of the new mothers I've known became lighter ...


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It's not feasible to try to prevent the child from seeing the new baby nursing. It probably will be hard for her, as will lots of things now, but she will learn to adjust. You'll both just need to be extra mindful to give the other children lots of hugs, and lots of attention, whenever you can.


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To remove the stuff from baby's nose you can use special suction tools designed for children. One of them is NoseFrida - there may be other with other names available in different countries, ask in your pharmacy and describe what you need. It looks more or less like this: There are different versions of those - most of them you use with your mouth, some ...


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First: don't worry! The fact that he chokes is scary, but it also shows that his body reacts to speed of the milk. My daughter had a similar issue (the milk came to fast for her to handle properly). We used the following tricks to great effect: Breastfeeding: use a Nipple shield. This enabled her to latch on and drink comfortably. Bottle: we switched to ...


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If you have any concerns you should speak to your midwife or health visitor or doctor straight away. You should especially talk to them if you notice any bleeding, or any discharge, or if the area is hot and red and inflamed. The umbilical cord and surrounding area needs to be monitored and cared for. It's a possible source of complications. Luckily most ...


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If I can summarize first, it seems the real question is this: The primary issue I have while driving with him like that is that I end up distracted... Half the time there's only one driver, so the other one of us can't distract/soothe him. The difficulty seems to be fully focus on driving, despite your crying infant. As I've driven van-fulls of ...


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Timing. A hungry, cranky or tired baby won't like bathtime - because it will hate almost everything besides what fulfills his current needs and desires. You need to catch the rare awake and alert window. Temperature. It's not only the temperature of the water (and some babies have their individual preferences, one of mine liked it warmer, one cooler), but ...


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"How to help get a baby to sleep" has already been answered extensively here, so please read the posts on that topic. As regards improving your relationship with baby, this isn't a father or mother thing as such - it is mostly around maximising interaction with your baby: touch, talking, cuddling, singing etc. So try to do as much of this as you can.


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Everything is new for a small baby and everything is stimulating as they discover the environment around them. Change in lighting, a new sound or a colorful object can evoke a response. What cause it doesn't matter as it's all new. Once they can hold their head up consider getting a chair so they can watch you. Move the chair around the house following you. ...


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As a newborn, she won't be interested in "playing" with toys for awhile yet. Her favorite thing to look at will be your faces. Other items that would be interesting for a very young baby are mobiles that have strong, high-contrast patterns on them, or soothers that have lights and music (non-interactive items that she can just look at). Mirrors are also ...


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We've dealt with this often with our newest little guy, and follow the advice given to us by his pediatrician and our oldest's from when he was a baby. We use a simple saline solution, with a container designed for use on infants/children. They're usually in small metal containers with a press-to-release, funnel-shaped nozzle. The kinds for adults generally ...


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Some cultures practice infant ear piercing. It's common to pierce the ears of infants in the Latino community for example. But this would be both ears, and it's usually just girls. Hindus pierce a single ear, and they pierce the ears of both boys and girls. This can be performed as early as the 10th or 12th day after birth, but is often delayed until the ...


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After a bit of Googling I found this Ask Dr. Sears article which talks about many studies that have been done related to the effects of crying on infants. I'll just try to sum it up here. Possible effects include: Chemical and hormonal imbalances in the brain - growth hormone problems, changes in the brain similar to people with depression, possible ADHD,...


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No one can diagnose your baby over the internet, especially when no details are given (is the baby sick? Do you live in a hot climate? How long has the rash been there? Is it spreading? Does it seem to be causing any discomfort? Etc., etc.) There are many questions to ask, and a physical exam to perform, to answer this kind of query. Rashes in newborns are ...


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I can only give you an advice based on experience: The baby at such young age doesn't recognize you or anybody else. He only recognize his mom from her voice, smell and touch. Maybe your voice isn't nice but that's not the reason, simply you are a stranger to him/her just like anybody else but his/her mother. So the advice is: give it few months


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Perhaps this is just a difficult time and she is getting used to be separate from her mother (after all she has been with you her whole life) now she must learn to be separate. I think babies learn very quickly that if they cry they get comfort, and so if she is crying at night repeatedly then perhaps she has already learned this ;) I don't think crying ...


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Smart bands or smart watches as mentioned in the comments are an excellent method (as they can vibrate you awake). Another option is to add white noise to the room to help keep the sound from bothering your newborn. A fan, for example, or a white noise generator (some alarm clocks serve this dual purpose!). This would make it more likely that the newborn ...


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I am not a doctor, but my understanding is that reflux does resolve itself over time. The problem is often that the valve between the esophagus and stomach is underdeveloped, and can't keep the stomach acid out of the esophagus. Once the child matures and that valve has a chance to fully develop, the problem often resolves itself. In the meantime, though, ...


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I agree with Eric's comment above - the concern is probably that they will fall off the ceiling or wall off and get into the crib. There's also a chance, if the decal is meant to be semi-permanent, that a child could scratch at the decal and peel it off the wall if its in reach. If you sealed the decal to the wall (glue, or a clear coat over top) you ...


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-Saline Spray and Nose Frida works the best for my infant and toddler! -Have her sit with you in a hot shower(obviously, not under the shower!) so that steam may loosen that phlegm. -run a cool mist humidifier in her room.


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The answer varies depending on the child and his or her environment and interactions with parent(s). In general, it is around 6 months of age. Both my daughter and my son started reacting to their names right around then. Whether they understood that it was their name is another matter. :)


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Studies show that newborns are discriminating. They can tell the difference between the sounds of • their own cries • the cries of other newborns, and • the cries of older babies And newborns are more likely to cry only if they hear the cries of other newborns. Source here (See the section titled "Newborn babies show empathy...and a ...


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In truth no one knows and there is no such thing as a correct answer, nor can there be. It is all subjective to the entire environment of the child. For example, if the child hears the kissing sound In Utero, and gets the endorphin bump from the mom, and then is born and then gets the visual connection of the sound and the warmth of the "closeness" of the ...


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No one has said this exactly, so I'll throw this out in hopes of it helping. We are, as parents, hard-wired neurologically to respond to our infant's cry with a fight-or-flight response; there is nothing you can do about that except to read about it and accept that this isn't a true emotion per se but a neurological response that evolved to assure parental ...


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One thing I've found works is simply have the baby around when you're doing things, and explain what you're doing. They don't really understand at that age, but you can simply explain as if they did. So if you're cooking dinner: "Now, seesee jr, we're going to add some paprika. Daddy likes a bit more paprika than most people, so we're going to add a bit ...


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Personal experience, single data point only: Our son was a big fan of breastfeeding and the milk and the comfort of being on mom. He was weaned while we were expecting his little sister. (He was close to 2 years old.) I expected trouble when the newborn started nursing. (But I never imagined trying to keep it secret/separate.) He complained/screamed and ...


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My daughter had extremely bad reflux as an infant, and eventually had to go on medication. Before we moved to that step, our doctor had us try several things to help her: Smaller, more frequent feedings. Less volume in the stomach, less likely to overflow and force stomach acid back up the esophagus. Feed in an upright position. Burp more frequently ...


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The most important thing is to be aware of the signs of depression in general, and to seek professional help even for apparently minor issues. You've already got that covered because of the preexisting condition, which is good -- keep it up. Post-partum depression is often not just due to hormones, but also the stress and sleeplessness of being a new parent....



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