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Your child will learn the language from you, so if you are only somewhat capable in a language, your child will also become only somewhat capable. Since your are living in an English speaking country, I would suggest you teach her English as a mother tongue as she will not be able to become fluent in your own mother tongue without an outside tutor. And such ...


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One of the main reasons a newborn (particularly such a new newborn!) dislikes diaper changes is the fact that they're cold. Really cold. Normally they have this nice warm layer on them that keeps them warm and cozy, and you're ripping that off of them with nary a care for their ... well, I'm sure that's what the newborn thinks, anyway. To avoid this, you ...


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a woman should biologically feel some form of affection towards these small humans No. That's a social rule, not a biological one. You're not alone. Some women adore all babies and children. My kid's teacher wholeheartedly enjoys spending her days surrounded by dozens of young children. Some women are pretty into their own kids, but find other (or ...


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I agree with Erik's answer but I'd like to add a few things. Since you seem to speak your mother tongue with your parents, they are probably fluent in it? Have them speak your mother tongue with your child, only translating into English if the child doesn't seem to understand. I know a few people who's grown up learning a second language by speaking it ...


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I initially tried to copy everything my wife did to sooth and bond with our son, but the singing and other tricks really didn't work for me. Eventually, I found my own tricks and have trained my boy to enjoy them (or his trained me). It took time and I only felt confident after my wife would leave the house, and I was forced to hone my skills. I started by ...


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As a woman who studied science and is now in a male-dominated industry, I will try to give my perspective. Complements are freely given, and just like you wouldn't ask for a different kind of gift, you probably shouldn't ask for a different type of complement. Taking that into consideration, I would recommend the following: 1) With strangers or ...


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I'm not sure of the answer exactly, but I sometimes hold her and kiss on the cheek together with a soft hug. However, I have the feeling that such action does not have any effect on her... If you look at mammals in general, facial licking is practiced as a means of communication by (those without hands) from soon after birth onwards. It is likely that ...


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Warning - this may seem mean I'm glad you stood up to say this. I'm a dad and not quite the same scenario, but even after having 2 daughters who are not quite out of the crying phase I can tell you the sound of crying is just about the most annoying thing you can hear. Part of me thinks it's supposed to be though. I have found ways to deflect my kids from ...


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The current scientific consensus is: No. It is not necessary to sterilize bottles, not even for newborns. The only exception are bottle teats made of rubber - the rubber can become porous over time, so occasional sterilization is recommended. However, most bottle teats are made of silicone, which is not affected. The primary safety measure to take with ...


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It's not possible to say whether you will be a lighter sleeper after your child is born; that's entirely up to your brain chemistry and lots of other variables. I also don't think that there is one 'generally' here. I became a harder sleeper, my wife became a lighter sleeper, for example. Anecdotally, most of the new mothers I've known became lighter ...


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Ask your doctor. When babies are very young, they might not wake up when they need to to feed, and fasting through the night could be dangerous.


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Some ideas you may not have tried for the baby: Maybe he's getting too much air, or too little. Check to make sure sun isn't getting in his eyes. Try running your errands at different times of the day. Try vibrating the car seat with your hand. Try having the non-driving adult sit in the back next to him. For the distracted driving part, the best thing ...


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Get some books to build up your confidence. The "What to expect..." books are too built up and drawn out. Too much of everything. Simple, cool books are attractive reads and hold adequate amount of content. I liked "Eat Sleep Poop". These books will not give you as much "what to do" advice, but what you should not freak out about. This is important. ...


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First and foremost, a 2 month old should not be losing weight, speak to a healthcare professional (midwife, doctor or both). To answer your question, properly formulated stage 1 formula milk is suitable from birth, but it's best to discuss this with your doctor or midwife as there might be other things you want to try. And something else to think about, ...


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Your question covers a few points, which is usually discouraged here but as you are a new parent and new to this site I'll let it slip. A few suggestions: If your baby always cries when in a horizontal position, I suggest talking to your healthcare provider. Some babies have reflux problems (similar to heartburn in adults), which can be really painful. ...


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Based on commentary from friends of ours who are midwives and community nurses, there are two key information points here: To answer your specific question: No, those caps are just to keep the baby's head warm. They do not offer significant pressure to reshape the skull Trying to do this is unneeded, aside from exceptional cases that the hospital would ...


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We were in the same boat with our son; he would only settle down when we sped up on the highway, leading to his nickname of Ricky Bobby. We found that, weather permitting, cracking the back windows to allow a bit of white noise from the wind would help a bit. For myself, however, I had to do a LOT of self-talk to keep my mind on driving and not on his ...


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If you stated you really wanted to be a mom, but were repulsed by babies, this answer would be different. But I don't hear that. So this is a lot about not wanting children, which should be the first step in decision-making. Many people ignore that having a baby is a crisis situation (albeit a normal crisis): you are suddenly called upon to take on a ...


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By making himself sick do you mean he's spitting up? That's fairly common among newborns, for a variety of reasons. I'll mention a few here, although it's definitely something worth talking about with your pediatrician at your next check-up to make sure there's no acid reflux or other reason he might be spitting up more than normal, and to make sure he's ...


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First: don't worry! The fact that he chokes is scary, but it also shows that his body reacts to speed of the milk. My daughter had a similar issue (the milk came to fast for her to handle properly). We used the following tricks to great effect: Breastfeeding: use a Nipple shield. This enabled her to latch on and drink comfortably. Bottle: we switched to ...


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The frequency of bowel movements covers a wide range - and is about as widely discussed. My sources (in German, so no use posting a link here) say everything from multiple times a day to once a week is normal. With three days, you should be fine, as confirmed by your pediatrician. Unless your baby appears to be unwell or experience pain when passing stool I ...


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If I can summarize first, it seems the real question is this: The primary issue I have while driving with him like that is that I end up distracted... Half the time there's only one driver, so the other one of us can't distract/soothe him. The difficulty seems to be fully focus on driving, despite your crying infant. As I've driven van-fulls of ...


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Timing. A hungry, cranky or tired baby won't like bathtime - because it will hate almost everything besides what fulfills his current needs and desires. You need to catch the rare awake and alert window. Temperature. It's not only the temperature of the water (and some babies have their individual preferences, one of mine liked it warmer, one cooler), but ...


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Florida screens for all 31 disorders recommended by the United States Department of Health and Human Services Recommended Uniform Screening Panel and an additional 22 secondary disorders, unless a parent objects in writing. Before leaving the hospital, a few drops of blood are taken from the heel of the baby and the ears are also tested for hearing. ...


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I decided to throw this answer in here for completeness, to be a little more general. It depends. My first was 4 weeks early, and we calculated based on his actual birthday. This was based on advice from our pediatrician. (and he did, and he caught up on height/weight by 6 months) However, 4 weeks is not that early (given that in the US, 3 weeks early ...


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This answer might be a bit might "longish" because this question can't be answered with a simple date... On SIDS in general: First things first: SIDS has been a subject of extensive research, but there is still no "final" answer what causes it. Statisticians have gone wild on potential risk factors, determining an entire list of what increases the risk of ...


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To remove the stuff from baby's nose you can use special suction tools designed for children. One of them is NoseFrida - there may be other with other names available in different countries, ask in your pharmacy and describe what you need. It looks more or less like this: There are different versions of those - most of them you use with your mouth, some ...


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"How to help get a baby to sleep" has already been answered extensively here, so please read the posts on that topic. As regards improving your relationship with baby, this isn't a father or mother thing as such - it is mostly around maximising interaction with your baby: touch, talking, cuddling, singing etc. So try to do as much of this as you can.


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Personally I have grown up bilingually and on top of that went to an English level school and having read in the past through research regarding bilingualism in children I think it's fair to say that it's a huge advantage in many different ways: not only does it open up more paths later on in life, but purely from a cognitive point of view it helps a lot as ...


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As a newborn, she won't be interested in "playing" with toys for awhile yet. Her favorite thing to look at will be your faces. Other items that would be interesting for a very young baby are mobiles that have strong, high-contrast patterns on them, or soothers that have lights and music (non-interactive items that she can just look at). Mirrors are also ...



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