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I'm not speaking from either personal experience (my children were all spaced farther apart) or from academic research in this answer. That being said: I think that "hiding" the breastfeeding will eventually end up making the toddler feel more isolated and excluded by her younger sibling. It will require specifically removing one sibling from another's ...


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Your child will learn the language from you, so if you are only somewhat capable in a language, your child will also become only somewhat capable. Since your are living in an English speaking country, I would suggest you teach her English as a mother tongue as she will not be able to become fluent in your own mother tongue without an outside tutor. And such ...


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I agree with Erik's answer but I'd like to add a few things. Since you seem to speak your mother tongue with your parents, they are probably fluent in it? Have them speak your mother tongue with your child, only translating into English if the child doesn't seem to understand. I know a few people who's grown up learning a second language by speaking it ...


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As a woman who studied science and is now in a male-dominated industry, I will try to give my perspective. Complements are freely given, and just like you wouldn't ask for a different kind of gift, you probably shouldn't ask for a different type of complement. Taking that into consideration, I would recommend the following: 1) With strangers or ...


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I initially tried to copy everything my wife did to sooth and bond with our son, but the singing and other tricks really didn't work for me. Eventually, I found my own tricks and have trained my boy to enjoy them (or his trained me). It took time and I only felt confident after my wife would leave the house, and I was forced to hone my skills. I started by ...


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I'm not sure of the answer exactly, but I sometimes hold her and kiss on the cheek together with a soft hug. However, I have the feeling that such action does not have any effect on her... If you look at mammals in general, facial licking is practiced as a means of communication by (those without hands) from soon after birth onwards. It is likely that ...


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It's not possible to say whether you will be a lighter sleeper after your child is born; that's entirely up to your brain chemistry and lots of other variables. I also don't think that there is one 'generally' here. I became a harder sleeper, my wife became a lighter sleeper, for example. Anecdotally, most of the new mothers I've known became lighter ...


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It's not feasible to try to prevent the child from seeing the new baby nursing. It probably will be hard for her, as will lots of things now, but she will learn to adjust. You'll both just need to be extra mindful to give the other children lots of hugs, and lots of attention, whenever you can.


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Ask your doctor. When babies are very young, they might not wake up when they need to to feed, and fasting through the night could be dangerous.


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Some ideas you may not have tried for the baby: Maybe he's getting too much air, or too little. Check to make sure sun isn't getting in his eyes. Try running your errands at different times of the day. Try vibrating the car seat with your hand. Try having the non-driving adult sit in the back next to him. For the distracted driving part, the best thing ...


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Your question covers a few points, which is usually discouraged here but as you are a new parent and new to this site I'll let it slip. A few suggestions: If your baby always cries when in a horizontal position, I suggest talking to your healthcare provider. Some babies have reflux problems (similar to heartburn in adults), which can be really painful. ...


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Based on commentary from friends of ours who are midwives and community nurses, there are two key information points here: To answer your specific question: No, those caps are just to keep the baby's head warm. They do not offer significant pressure to reshape the skull Trying to do this is unneeded, aside from exceptional cases that the hospital would ...


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We were in the same boat with our son; he would only settle down when we sped up on the highway, leading to his nickname of Ricky Bobby. We found that, weather permitting, cracking the back windows to allow a bit of white noise from the wind would help a bit. For myself, however, I had to do a LOT of self-talk to keep my mind on driving and not on his ...


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First: don't worry! The fact that he chokes is scary, but it also shows that his body reacts to speed of the milk. My daughter had a similar issue (the milk came to fast for her to handle properly). We used the following tricks to great effect: Breastfeeding: use a Nipple shield. This enabled her to latch on and drink comfortably. Bottle: we switched to ...


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The frequency of bowel movements covers a wide range - and is about as widely discussed. My sources (in German, so no use posting a link here) say everything from multiple times a day to once a week is normal. With three days, you should be fine, as confirmed by your pediatrician. Unless your baby appears to be unwell or experience pain when passing stool I ...


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If I can summarize first, it seems the real question is this: The primary issue I have while driving with him like that is that I end up distracted... Half the time there's only one driver, so the other one of us can't distract/soothe him. The difficulty seems to be fully focus on driving, despite your crying infant. As I've driven van-fulls of ...


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Timing. A hungry, cranky or tired baby won't like bathtime - because it will hate almost everything besides what fulfills his current needs and desires. You need to catch the rare awake and alert window. Temperature. It's not only the temperature of the water (and some babies have their individual preferences, one of mine liked it warmer, one cooler), but ...


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To remove the stuff from baby's nose you can use special suction tools designed for children. One of them is NoseFrida - there may be other with other names available in different countries, ask in your pharmacy and describe what you need. It looks more or less like this: There are different versions of those - most of them you use with your mouth, some ...


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"How to help get a baby to sleep" has already been answered extensively here, so please read the posts on that topic. As regards improving your relationship with baby, this isn't a father or mother thing as such - it is mostly around maximising interaction with your baby: touch, talking, cuddling, singing etc. So try to do as much of this as you can.


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Personally I have grown up bilingually and on top of that went to an English level school and having read in the past through research regarding bilingualism in children I think it's fair to say that it's a huge advantage in many different ways: not only does it open up more paths later on in life, but purely from a cognitive point of view it helps a lot as ...


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As a newborn, she won't be interested in "playing" with toys for awhile yet. Her favorite thing to look at will be your faces. Other items that would be interesting for a very young baby are mobiles that have strong, high-contrast patterns on them, or soothers that have lights and music (non-interactive items that she can just look at). Mirrors are also ...


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After a bit of Googling I found this Ask Dr. Sears article which talks about many studies that have been done related to the effects of crying on infants. I'll just try to sum it up here. Possible effects include: Chemical and hormonal imbalances in the brain - growth hormone problems, changes in the brain similar to people with depression, possible ...


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Some cultures practice infant ear piercing. It's common to pierce the ears of infants in the Latino community for example. But this would be both ears, and it's usually just girls. Hindus pierce a single ear, and they pierce the ears of both boys and girls. This can be performed as early as the 10th or 12th day after birth, but is often delayed until the ...


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We've dealt with this often with our newest little guy, and follow the advice given to us by his pediatrician and our oldest's from when he was a baby. We use a simple saline solution, with a container designed for use on infants/children. They're usually in small metal containers with a press-to-release, funnel-shaped nozzle. The kinds for adults generally ...


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If you have any concerns you should speak to your midwife or health visitor or doctor straight away. You should especially talk to them if you notice any bleeding, or any discharge, or if the area is hot and red and inflamed. The umbilical cord and surrounding area needs to be monitored and cared for. It's a possible source of complications. Luckily most ...


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No one can diagnose your baby over the internet, especially when no details are given (is the baby sick? Do you live in a hot climate? How long has the rash been there? Is it spreading? Does it seem to be causing any discomfort? Etc., etc.) There are many questions to ask, and a physical exam to perform, to answer this kind of query. Rashes in newborns are ...


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I can only give you an advice based on experience: The baby at such young age doesn't recognize you or anybody else. He only recognize his mom from her voice, smell and touch. Maybe your voice isn't nice but that's not the reason, simply you are a stranger to him/her just like anybody else but his/her mother. So the advice is: give it few months


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Perhaps this is just a difficult time and she is getting used to be separate from her mother (after all she has been with you her whole life) now she must learn to be separate. I think babies learn very quickly that if they cry they get comfort, and so if she is crying at night repeatedly then perhaps she has already learned this ;) I don't think crying ...


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I am not a doctor, but my understanding is that reflux does resolve itself over time. The problem is often that the valve between the esophagus and stomach is underdeveloped, and can't keep the stomach acid out of the esophagus. Once the child matures and that valve has a chance to fully develop, the problem often resolves itself. In the meantime, though, ...


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This might sound odd, but get your son a doll (girl preferably - to mirror the baby sister), and encourage him to take care of it. This is better done before the sister arrives, but it will still have a lot of benefits, and can give him something to do in parallel while you give attention to the baby. We have a baby (we think its a girl) on the way, and ...



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