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From my own experience moving 6 times as a child, and talking to others about their childhood moves, I would say the earlier you relocate, the better. Socially, in general other children are less accepting of outsiders the older they get. This is especially true if you're moving somewhere with a visibly different culture or accent. My wife moved from ...


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(by popular request) Look for English-speaking ex-pats in the area you're moving back to, especially ones with small children...


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I cannot offer research-based hard facts, but I can offer you my personal experience: I've moved 16 times in my life, between 5 countries, at varying ages. (My father was a valued specialist at the time.) My bullet #2 would be most appropriate to you, but I'll list other ages for reference. In summary, I would recommend that you move sooner rather than ...


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Moving to a new house and changing the daycare are big changes, a new bed is a small change. Potty training can be either, as is so often the case, it depends... I see three separate issues here: Can you separate the daycare switch from the moving? If you can, you definitely should consider making them two distinct events, IMO Moving means a new room and ...


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It seems you need to find and talk to someone that meets the following criteria. Someone very familiar with the area you're considering moving to (current and long-time resident perhaps). Someone who shares your values. Someone who understands your needs and desires. With our recent move, we also needed to make some important decisions. We happen to be ...


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I think you should let them watch some english Children's TV programs with CLOSE CAPTIONS turned on, and talk English a little bit at home with them, so they know "English is a fun game we play with mom and dad" as well, that German is their primary language. As a person who grew up in an all English household, and who learned German in high-school, but ...


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Children at that age love to play, and they will play together even if the don't speak the same language. Where I live the community here is so mixed that most children are English as a second language. Just focus on teaching her the ABCs and 123s in German. In kindergarten they focus mostly on the foundations of reading and counting. If she learns that ...


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Babies have been doing this since the beginning of time. They are flexible little beings, and any discomfort will likely be minor and short-lived. But if you are concerned, keep a burp cloth (cloth diaper or nappy) over your shoulder whenever you hold him. It protects your clothes as well!!


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Doing everything at once gets it over with in one go, but at the risk that it won't go very well. I would changing one element at a time. Toddlers are a bit like people with autism; they like fixed patterns and repetition, any change can be upsetting. Especially when you're facing big changes, tread lightly. I can't really say "do one change every two ...


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I agree with Matthew...integrate the German into her life as much as you can. Once you get settled, then perhaps you can find a part-time daycare-type situation that will expose her to native speakers. Here in the US, we have mothers-day-out programs in a lot of areas which are only a couple of days a week in most cases for maybe 4 hours each day. The ...


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I second the other answers suggestion of looking for expats. A few notes: Your kids will forget a second (even first language) if it is not reinforced. They learn language (and other behaviours) to talk to their peers even more than their parents. This means that there is very little you can do directly but also that you can be very effective by ...


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Of course, as already said, the earlier the better. Later on, it would be wise to coordinate that with the moment that the child would change school anyway (like going from elementary to middle school, or from middle to high school).


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Two things: Ask your colleagues, neighbours, or people on local forums about schools; Go to school, talk to teachers,to a director, look around inside.


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Another option is online communities. There are many parental/school-related local communities on FaceBook/G+ etc... (I know our locality - which is a small town - has a couple, some very specifically centered around specific shared-value communities). You can try searching community names for "locale+school" or "locale+parents" or "locale+families" Find ...


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Check out age appropriate language courses, here is one example I found in my hometown Hamburg. Only one hour per week should be plenty to keep your child from forgetting what it has already learned. Just be careful to avoid groups that try to hammer as much knowledge into your child's brain while it is still too young to defend itself, they seem to be very ...


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Your preschooler will probably have very little problem with the move in comparison with the adjustment to the new baby. Be sure her room is the first you unpack so her bed and the like are set up for her on the first night. Take a tour of the house when you first arrive, talking about all the great things she will be doing in each room. Make a REALLY big ...


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First of all, I love the fact that I get to tell one of the forum mods "YOR DOIN IT RONG!!!11" IMO wait till the move. If it's planned and it's in the pretty near future (couple months), there's no reason not to wait. Every routine you have is going to be restarted anyway, and you'll even have to start some new ones. Regardless of how you try to plan it, ...


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I live in Georgia right now. We've been here for about 1 year. The native language is Georgian and most people (adults at least) also speak Russian. Our youngest child (age 2) understands as much Russian and Georgian as she does English (mostly due to baby sitters and playgroups), and she hasn't taken classes in any language. I've been studying Georgian for ...


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We moved with 3 kids age 0.5, 2.5 & 3.5 to a different country and it was no problem whatsoever. We were lucky enough to find a pre-school that was specifically designed for non-native speakers and worked quite well. Within 6 month or so the two older ones could communicate effortlessly and within a year there were indistinguishable from native speakers. ...


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I think you will find the month by month outline on American Pregnancy Helpful because it goes over the major developments you can expect in a very clear and precise way for the first year. The list includes motor skills as well as others (such as social) but since the most noticeable and "measured" developments that occur during the first year are ...


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Have you considered co sleeping? This way you dont have to worry about A hurting your younger baby B. Once your younger kid attains 3 years of age, you can shift him.in the same bedroom of A. So this way, they will have a playroom and a bedroom.


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A lot of parenting at this age comes from just making your best call and teaching the child the "way it is" for them. If you look around the world, kids just learn to adapt to whatever, from the richest mansion to the poorest village -- what they are given is what is normal. It is your job to choose what is best for them. I wouldn't worry about it. ...


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Given the new information you've offered, it takes a while for the oldest to fully grasp how fragile baby really is, as well as the ramifications of new baby, accept those and grow into being the trusted and helpful older sibling (in my case, I went back and forth between my "evil side" and my "good side" right up until I left for college). All joking ...


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The more she's exposed to the language and it's nuances, the better off she'll be. Enroll her in pre-school or some care setting where she can be exposed to some of her peers and the culture. Definitely begin to introduce German books and programs to her so she can start to get an 'ear' for the language. Because both you and your wife are 'fair' at ...


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I've not been brave enough to try to teach my son German, my best non-native language, but our son is growing up as a bilingual Japanese-speaking child in the US. In our case, we have the advantage that mom is a native speaker of Japanese, but we've observed that this is not enough; several parents we know have children 3-10 years old that simply refuse to ...


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I think it depends on the child. Being the new kid is always hard, and there are a number of movies that depict this in detail (can't cite any now!) However, inevitably, it all depends on the child and their ability to manage themselves socially. When I was in grade school, there were new kids that were extremely well received, and new kids that were just ...


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Although I have had no personal experience to share, here are three sites that include research as well as helpful information on moving and it's impact on children. http://www.ourtownamerica.com/press_room/pdf/Background-Movpsy.pdf http://www.nytimes.com/2010/07/11/fashion/11StudiedMoving.html ...


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If you are considering moving you may want to talk to a real estate agent. A good real estate agent should be able to tell you which town is best for what you want and which area of town and maybe even which school.


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Researching schools in my own City I used the State department of education website to view relative school rankings by percentage. In my city we had a school ranking 99% statewide. That data meshed with the subjective data we had collected talking with people and made it easy to decide to move within that school district.



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