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If he brings in studies, you can always do the same... but they should be balanced ones, that nevertheless support your point: that yes, compared to most legal drugs, it may be harmless: in moderation and for an adult! An added benefit would be that you can teach him how to actually read and evaluate studies. Make him aware of interaction between drugs as ...


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Is this okay? She has been telling me that it's not "normal" or "legit" for her to pay for all of her own clothes... From what you have written, it sounds as though the only major expense you're not assuming is that of clothing. What you are providing is fine, and what you're requiring her to pay for is also fine, I think, though I was a bit more lenient. ...


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As the father in this situation, the first thing I would do is thoroughly examine my life to find why I think that remaining idle after retirement is a bad idea. Having developed philosophically sound reasons for continuing to work hard even when it is not necessary, I would then expound these to my son and try to bring him around to my viewpoint. It's all ...


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The answer to getting someone off of drugs or to focus attention elsewhere isn't to tell them not to do them because they are bad. Most people who use, know the downside they cause. Very often, they choose to ignore the facts our of ignorance or care. If you want someone to stop using, the best thing you can do is help them find what they are passionate ...


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What are the best ways to get a kid to put drugs in their past and move on? You're doing it now, pretty much. You can't change your child's thinking any more than he can change yours. But you can exert the control you have over his behavior by limiting your support of him financially. This is perfectly legit, unless mental illness is involved. As you ...


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Communicating with and retaining a good relationship with your mother is important to you, so it's important that when a disagreement comes up, you might consider the possibilities behind your mother's objections when addressing them. My parents grew up during the Great Depression, so that was the background for many of their attitudes towards money; since ...


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I would say to first pretend she is not your mother, but rather a friend who has 20-30 more years experience in life. Think about what she is saying and run the numbers. Are you going to have to get a loan for the car? How much money would you waste in interest by getting a loan? How much would you save by waiting a few years, saving up what the monthly ...


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Most children who are older and have bad feeling towards their parents have it due to malformed boundaries. It's likely that the issues with finance and moving house etc are actually surface symptoms. The real issues are more likely to be around the personal relationship he has with his family, since I know that if I have a close and positive relationship ...


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I would take it as good advice from someone who loves you and wants what is best for you, and also has more life experience than you. IMO, she has a point, particularly since you say this is something of an impulse purchase. Say, "You know, Mom, you have a good point. I am going to take one month [or whatever amount of time you are comfortable with] to ...


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I was that kid. I did it out of boredom and exploration of the mind. Many other kids did drugs to fill a void in their souls or to numb a part of themselves that they don't know how to live with. Others still are just entitled and sheltered and have this sunconcious need to modify, harm or hurt themselves in a way that life is naturally supposed to beat ...


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I am the youngest of four children. I found, especially when I was younger, that it was not an issue when I got hand me downs. The issues arise when I got older and started, not only being self-conscious and wanting to develop my own style, but by my growing awareness of things. I didn't mind clothes being handed down if they were in nice condition because ...


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Don't be secretive about money Many parents treat money as a secret, and attempt to shield their children, and even their partners from it as though it is something dirty. Money is an important part of our lives. Be open about it. Be open about what it costs you personally in terms of time away from the family, effort and sweat to get money. Many young ...


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I would recommend looking into your local museums and municipal recreation departments. Many have programs designed for children and families that are free or low cost. MacaroniKid.com and RedTricycle.com both have a weekly digest that details regional weekend events. Meetup.com has a ton of groups devoted to family outings. Once you start finding these ...


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Our son had grommets, they were needed since his adenoids blocked his Eustachian tubes. He would get frequent infections that totally blocked his tubes, leading his inner ear to fill with liquid. This reduced his hearing significantly. Children's Eustachian tubes often are not fully developed until the age of 8. There is a simple check that a doctor can do ...


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With my four year old, who was constantly asking for things, I started carrying a small notebook in my purse. When she found something else she had to have, I would make a deal of writing it down on her list. Amazingly, the majority of the time, hearing that we aren't shopping for that right now, but I will write it down on your list, actually satisfied ...


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Now that it's been done, I can say we have our answer. We were told that after the first few days of the procedure, clean water wasn't a concern. Bath water and treated pool water are fine, and we don't need to make preparations for those. For swimming in lakes/streams/etc., we were told to use custom fitted earplugs from an audiologist. Swim caps weren't ...


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Even a 2 year old is capable of learning about budgeting. While she probably doesn't really comprehend "saving" yet, it is something you can work on simply by giving her some money, and talking about choices. Talking about the difference between buying a small, cheap toy now, versus saving some money until she can afford a larger, more interesting toy, ...


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For me personally with my daughter (3years) it is always a situation based decision with the fine grain of balance of spoiling. Generally I ask why exactly she wants to have it. Maybe she can borrow it from a friend. Maybe it is something she can play with when the friend is over. Its amazing how often this is satisfying. If the wish is too big for "ok hop ...


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Your child is an adult, and as somebody else said, it's almost certainly too late to significantly change their view of drugs. I would recommend side-stepping the issue, and just declaring that your continued support of his college expenses is dependent on his hitting academic milestones (i.e., challenging classes, good grades, progress toward a diploma). ...


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The main things to take into consideration: Some banks offer actual savings accounts in the child's name, while some require them to be custodial accounts (where the parent must sign off on withdrawals). Those may be called UTMA, UGMA, Custodial, or ITF accounts. Each have benefits and drawbacks depending on how you want your child to be able to interact ...


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A lot of this is obviously opinion based; although he has done much, he should not forget that without them he would not be here in the first place. They have been there for 3 months, what is that in a life time? Yes, it is inconvenient that he has to help them, and it is hard. But now that they may have found another place he doesn't want to move them? ...



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