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Here is another option: use a 'run bike' to help your child learn balance. This makes it easier to know when they are ready. A run bike (aka 'balance bike') is essentially a bicycle with no pedals. There is a good New York Times article about balance bikes. Unlike a tricycle, a balance bike teaches balance, which is really the limiting factor for children ...


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My opinion is to wait for the child to ask for it. Fear of pain shouldn't be a motivation to decide it for them. Yes, it hurts a little but you can explain that to them. In the end they have to make the decision. This subject touches on the human right to bodily integrity. I don't want to sound "heavy" and I understand that an earring is relatively harmless ...


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I think this is something that is done gradually. Thinking back to when I was a kid (my daughter is still too young for public transit), my dad used to take me with him ever weekend into town on the underground. He taught me how to read the maps, and understand changing trains. At some point he started letting me plan the route to our destination and say ...


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Turn the roles around: let the child lead you through the train system. You can intervene if needed, otherwise just enjoy the ride. After a few of these, are you convinced? If yes, fine. If no, repeat. :-) Test periodically to make sure no bad habits are sneaking in.


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My opinion is to wait until the child itself expresses a desire for this. I'm surprised to see infants with piercings because I feel that the parents make a cosmetic choice that does nothing for the child, but you propose a reason why they might do that (too young to fear the pain) that is new to me. Whether that is valid is for each parent to decide. I ...


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I doubt there is any definitive literature out there on this, so answers will be somewhat subjective. I think the maturity of the child is the primary factor in this kind of decision. Barring laws against it and extreme weather of any kind: Within reach (as in, you prop open the door and sit within a few feet while they finish a nap or pretend to drive the ...


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My theory is, when a kid needs it, they will get one. What does needing a cell phone entail? They must be in some kind of a situation that requires it. This can include driving, frequent after school activities, school projects, etc. But if they pretty much just go to school and family activities, then there isn't as much of a need.


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Ideally, when they are old enough to raise enough money, on their own, for buying the phone and paying of the monthly plans. This will change with the child's lifestyle and community though. A cellphone is a useful way to keep track of where your kids are, and is incredibly useful in emergencies. If you're living in a highly urban area and your children ...


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"How old" can't be said in a numerical answer, but rather in terms of maturity. Above all though, if there's no real need for a phone, the child shouldn't have one. Parents must decide case-by-case, depending on how they thnk the kids will use the newfangled technology. Is the child mature enough to use it in time of need, and not just to gossip with ...


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Our own thoughts regarding this: when our son is old enough to go to and from school on his own, at which point we'd want him to have one. We've tentatively put this at 12 (but we've reserved the right to push that out further :). He is 8 at the moment and has been asking for a cellphone for about a year.


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1) the other kid. Talk to your son. Make sure you listen to what he says, and acknowledge it. His feelings of hurt ad anger and confusion are real. The aim here is to allow tour son to come to the realisation that he doesn't want to spend time with this other boy because the other boy causes upset. 2) removing an iPad for 25 minutes is just as effective ...


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In my opinion (and I work in a school) bullying is the 'go to' word today. Any thing and Every thing is considered bullying. Disciplining your child and correcting the behavior is not bullying. How to discipline appropriately is probably a separate question.


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Our 19 year old daughter's ears were pierced when she was an infant, and Grandma gave her a nice pair of earrings. Then there were pictures taken with my wife, her mother, her grandmother, and her daughter all similarly dressed with the similar earrings. I guess I am a human rights violator. I will book flights to the Hague for my wife and I. Beyond ...


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We did not pierce our baby girl's ears. Human rights debates aside, there are some hygiene issues that I think deserve consideration. I was allergic to nickel. Still am to an extent. But when I got my ears pierced at the age of 7, it was because I really wanted them to be pierced. That's why I was willing to put up with itching, weeping, swollen, hot, ...


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I really wanted my ears pierced, but my parents said I had to wait until I was 10 years old. Their reasoning was that I had to be sure I wanted it done and mature enough to keep them clean. On my tenth birthday my parents took me to the salon and I got my hair and nails done and then went to get my ears pierced. They made a big deal about how grown up I ...


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I agree with Remko that piercing an infant's ears violates their right to their own body since they cannot consent. And I would discourage others from making any sort of body modification to their child without his or her consent unless there is a medical necessity. My own opinion is that a child should not be permitted to modify his or her own body until ...


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In the UK the laws don't really specify, but there is a great deal of emphasis on the child's capability. For example, we let our 10 and 12 year old cycle to the shop by themselves (about a mile away) but we wouldn't leave them alone in a car for that length of time or at that distance - the risk profile is different. When they were babies, if they fell ...


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Punishment I agree with the school that he has had enough punishment and it should be time to move on at least in regard to punishing consequences - If he describes his experience with this at the school as an "ordeal" then, the interviews with the police, psychologist etc. were dramatic and disturbing to him and he has definitely got the message that ...


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There's nothing special about a car. Alone at home, alone in a car, alone in the mall - they're all the same from a legal standpoint. Back when I was babysitting age, 12 was the magic age. At 12 you could babysit a sibling or a stranger, or you could be left alone. That was also the age the airlines used to define unaccompanied minor. The law where you ...


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I think your first course of action would be to ask the teachrer what areas of development are a concern. Is he "immature" in physcial, social, cognitive, or language development? Once she gives you a little better understanding of what behaviors she is seeing, then you will be able to look at options with more confidence that something should or could be ...


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I agree .. there is no need to be alarmed. But the situation should motivate you to increase your efforts to help the child mature. I think the question was how to do this. My advice ... Speak in the mother-tongue at home, not in the adopted tongue. I presume that the schooling is "immersion", meaning that the adopted language is primary. So there is ...


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Second grade. In our house it was second grade before we were allowed to get our ears pierced. My parents felt that by that age we were responsible enough to care for them ourselves. There was also a rule that if we didn't care for them and they got infected the earrings would be taken out and the holes allowed to grow closed again. Also, we were not ...



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