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Yes, I think that children's online activities should be monitored but I don't think it's feasible in practice except for very young children. Older kids will always find a way to circumvent your control – but the good news is that they get more computer-literate in the process :-) To me it's the same as having someone supervise small children at the ...


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Do you monitor the books they read from the library? Do you monitor the music they listen to on the radio? Do you monitor the TV and Movies they watch? Do you monitor what they say and hear from their friends? If so, then I'd say yes... it's just yet another stream of content. Honestly, the easiest way to monitor, is to put the computer in a communal space ...


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"Porn" runs a wide gamut of idealized or fantasy scenarios. Many, if not most, of pornographic materials, portray intimate relations in a way that is not typical. I would imagine a pornographic movie that depicts the awkward "getting to know each other" phase, dating, and the social and emotional intimacy that most parents would hope their children would ...


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One of our jobs as parents is teaching; using the internet to help with this task is fine, but before you do, teach them how to be safe when they're online. Teach your kids about online safety (posting/chatting in threads or forums, responding to contact requests, how to safely use passwords, keeping personal information safe and secure). It's never too ...


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Before the days of the internet, parents tended to have a kind of God-like image in their child's mind and would be trusted to provide the right answers on a range of random topics that the child would be curious about. I often wonder how this works now with answers and information that is so easily accessible to everyone. I think part of the answer to ...


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Wish I could comment on some of the other answers, but I'm a noob, so I can't... Anyway, there's absolutely nothing wrong with posting your pictures, your names, all of it. Continuing to promote "stranger danger" and god-forbid-someone-gets-teased and god-forbid-someone-finds-out-about-our-mistakes philosophies is really just silly. Let's get over all that ...


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My son is 8, and I haven't taught him to use google yet, despite him having his own computer, but I have shown him many times. My main reason is that getting a good result on a general search engine is a relatively difficult skill. Getting a result on an appropriate level for an 8 year-old is even more difficult, especially on topics that schools typically ...


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In answer to my own question, this is one approach I've thought about, and it would be age dependent, so something like: 0-7 years, no unsupervised access. 8-13, unsupervised access allowed to a white list of sites, everything else blocked. 14-16, no blocking, but everything logged, so I can keep an eye on them. 16+, no blocking, no logging. (Presumably I ...


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At sixteen years, the influence you have on the personality of your son is so minor as to be nonexistent. If you haven't managed to teach your son how to live well by now, you won't be able to overcome the influence of his friends and the current (internet active) culture. In my opinion it is best to stop controlling your son and to begin trusting him. If ...


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As an elementary school librarian, I was responsible for talking with students and parents about computer use. We focused a great deal about the very scary presence of predators on the internet. We encouraged parents to constantly talk with their children about what they are doing on the internet, who they are talking to, what sites they are visiting. I ...


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Not everyone is familiar enough with social media to make the best educated decisions. It may very well be that the friend's mother wants to add her daughter's friends as a way of keeping tabs on her daughter's online social activities. I don't think this an unreasonable approach, although it doesn't guarantee that she'll be able to see any inappropriate ...


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I've always been the computer geek of my family and it was probably easier in the days when we only had one computer per household (I have three of my own now. And spares!). I've not been a parent, but from a kid's perspective... Engage don't spy. Talk to your kid about what he's doing. Computer programming is a very useful life skill in this day and age. ...


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For website templates I'd like to suggest asking on the excellent Wordpress SE site. But that's not really your point. A decade ago it seemed common to create photo websites about their offspring. Back then, a website for Junior looked like a cool and sweet thing to do. Several of my fellow geeks did this. None of their sites are still online. With all of ...


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There are a few obstacles: Ability to read, write, and spell. Even a first- or second-grade student who's pretty good at reading and writing may struggle to input an unfamiliar word or spelling. Search engines can guess did you mean [word]?, which may or may not be what they were actually trying to learn about. Search engines often now can use voice input ...


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Step 1: talk to him about this. He's 16, which means he's fairly close to being an adult and probably at least somewhat responsible. Let him know what you think is acceptable and what is not, and make some rules about computers in the house. Make sure to explain why you want to monitor his activities and block access to certain sites. This could include ...


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First of all, Gmail will allow you to 'delegate' email to another address. my 10 yo daughter has an email address that i delegated to my main gmail address. Dropdown at my name on the screen and i can open her mailbox. I do it regularly. Secondly, if you notified those services, they would delete or block the accounts. Not personally sure that would be my ...


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I would focus on the lying and sneaking around. As you have mentioned, you feel there is no way around the use of the programs. I, personally would talk to her about Facebook and have her account frozen - the user agreement on Facebook states that users must be 13. I would proceed with talks about trust. I think I would make her re-earn the right to use all ...


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My policy is, you can post pictures without a name, or a name without a picture, but never together. Why? Because nothing can ever be removed from the Internet ever. It bugs me when people tag pictures of me with my name, or mention my kids online (but not enough to nag them about it). Information about me is mine to disclose or not, and I resent the fact ...


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I exposed myself to a lot of terrible things whilst growing up and spending a lot of time on the Internet - things that I feel still affect me today. I had absolutely no supervision on Internet access from the age of about 8, although I greatly wish I did so I might not have seen and done what I have. I believe the best solution is in putting the computer ...


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Porn is, even to adults, the junk food of sex; it is a complete fantasy, and while some of it may be plausible, the primary reason to watch porn is to see something you're not getting in your everyday life. While a certain amount of such escapism is normal and even healthy, it depicts activities that are typically more fun to do than to watch. A few genres ...


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Here are some of my thoughts on the topic: What are the risks? Some freaks collect pictures for their own weird purposes. That's despicable but at least the real-life risk to your kids is so small as to be nonexistent. A bigger concern is, as has been said, schoolmates that use the pics for taunting and harassment. This can be really problematic and is ...


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While I personally only friend teens who I'm relatively close to (or would like to be closer), like my nieces and nephews, and would not encourage a teen to accept a stranger's friend request, I don't see a problem with accepting an adult acquaintance's friend request. I think our society has suffered somewhat by keeping children mostly segregated in their ...


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We set up an email account for my daughter at age 9 and a blog for her. We also invested a lot of effort educating her about anonymity and trust. Neither email nor blog use her personal name or give away any details other than the city she lives in. She actually chose to use a pseudonym. She has been taught to never post photos, never give away personal ...


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It really depends on the parent, and her relationship with her kid's friends. I don't have a teenager, yet, but I worked for 6 years as a middle and high school music instructor, and have had students add me over the course of those years (I had created an alternate account for this, to provide separation from my "professional" life activity and personal ...


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I strongly Agree with Vaylkyrie's answer that you need to teach online safety above all. But as an addition: teach them by showing them! They ask something you don't know right off your head? Take them along on the way to figure it out. Also, don't limit that to online search. If you have a book that may cover the topic, go find the book, and see if the ...


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There are 3 things to be concerned about when thinking about teaching your children about how to use search engines: Safety Self-sufficiency Effects on memory One - Safety I'll start this with an anecdote. Back in approximately 2000-2001 was when I first started using the Internet, because we finally had a home computer with Internet access. Back then,...


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It is certainly a threat, however numbers are very tricky to get hold of. Having worked in the field of information security, privacy and forensics for the last 17 years or so, this is a question that gets asked of me a lot. I tend to lecture on the dangers of the internet, and then point out to the audience that I still bank online, and I use Facebook, as ...


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One thing that is possible, and happens often enough to be disturbing, is that someone may take your pictures and use them in marketing materials without your approval.


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Unfortunately a lot of the Internet is a 'Wild West' environment - you cannot completely prevent cyber bullying. That said, there are a number of options which can help. I'm guessing you are not a parent, but this topic is likely to be of interest to parents and children alike. Facebook has a specific anti-cyber-bullying team that you can report incidents ...


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You use the same approach you would use for just about any other "how to protect my children" question. Step 1: educate yourself. The first thing you have to do is educate yourself. What does your child do online, and where are the risks they're going to face? If you have a good relationship with your child, you can ask them about it directly. You can ...



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