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This is something I needed to deal with. If they are starting to ask why they can't babysit, I would say something like this: As you know, we disagree on a few things that would be relevant while you were babysitting, like what kinds of food are ok or how quickly a crying baby needs to be picked up. I know that you think these differences are no big ...


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Dropping things over and over again is a known phase. It's a great learning opportunity. You can choose what message to send your toddler and what you want to teach. For example, you might take them out of the highchair the minute they drop anything. Generally, parents who adopt this rule come to regret it, because the minute the child wants out of the ...


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I currently live in Japan. Needless to say, tea is extremely popular. Infants (9 months+) are sometimes given a certain type of tea called 麦茶, otherwise known as roasted barley tea. It is a caffeine free tea so it didn't make her jittery or keep her up and also has a few health benefits in the realm of bacterial resistance. This is the only tea we have given ...


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Unless she needs them to protect her feet, never. In the words of the AAP: "Style is the only reason for a baby to wear shoes at all until the child begins walking outdoors or is taken out in cold weather." First, the idea that her feet will get too big is somewhere between ignorant and harmful. Wearing correctly-sized shoes will not prevent foot growth. ...


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First off, what you're describing is common even for families with similar attitudes. Young children have a tough time dealing with changes, and having to sleep in an unusual bed or sleeping arrangement is hard. Your baby will probably have trouble even if the two kids were perfectly normal: it's the change in habits that does it. I certainly would expect ...


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I opted for the lavatory when we took my son on a plane. I should mention that I'm a pretty big guy: 6'3" or roughly 190cm. Standing in that lavatory, hunched over the rudimentary changing table... let's just say it wasn't fun. Or comfortable. Yet I'm not convinced in the seat would be any better, even if you ignore the issue of consideration for your ...


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First, you are not withholding comfort. You are allowing them to express themselves in a way which requires them to handle the issue without forming a dependency. Being comforting is not the same thing for every child and every situation. For relatives, they likely have children. That being the case, I'd ask them if any 2 of the children were able to be ...


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I would suggest a reminder that "correlation does not imply causation." When my daughter was around that age, I didn't have a car and it was a 30 minute bus ride to-and-from home. One day, she woke up in my arms, smiled at me, and promptly threw up all over my chest. It was A LOT!!!! I got off at the next stop and unprepared to have to change my clothes ...


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Children need to learn to eat and it is slow and difficult work. At 6 months or so the food they get by spoon or hand may or may not serve any nutritional purpose, but is part of that learning process for them (and for the adults trying to get it into them.) As time goes past between that first mouthful and say the one-year mark so much happens: the baby ...


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I would not give caffeinated tea (true tea) to an infant. Separate from the iron absorption issues (and it's not just iron; caffeine has a lot of negative effects on mineral and vitamin levels), the effect on mood is also significantly relevant to children. That said, if she is breastfed, and Mom's having any caffeine, then so is she. Small amounts ...


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Keep in mind, your nieces' routines are being disrupted as well, and their behavior isn't quite normal in this situation either. We were in similar situations when our children were younger. What happened with us was no one was very happy with the situation, but no one wanted to admit they didn't want to fill every possible waking moment with family ...


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Crying at drop-off and pick-up is more of a separation anxiety issue, and it's totally normal. It has nothing to do with whether she likes daycare. What you really need to know is whether she cries throughout the day, or if the crying is limited to a brief period at drop off and pick up. I used to sneak in to daycare at the end of the day and see my son ...


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You have a rebellious 14 year old living in your house, and she is testing her limits everywhere. Several things come into my mind as I write this. Why is she living with you? Where is her mother? Is she living with you against her will? How is her relationship with her father? Why were her parents divorced? Where does she get money to buy a new phone when ...


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I've decided to share a few things we do right now which seem to be interesting and fun and (I think) help her develop (or at least don't slow her development:). Just an explaination: I write her all the time because I have a daughter. At this age it doesn't change much for boys I guess. Indoors Activities with children's books There are many books for ...


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Regardless of the surface, there will be falls and bumps as she learns to crawl (and, later, walk). Keeping her at floor level is a good plan, though. There are two things I'd suggest looking for: reasonable traction and moderate padding. The traction is more important for learning how crawling works than for potential slips causing injuries. If her legs ...


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What a great question! Congratulations on your first baby and your decision to try breastfeeding. It's much harder than you think, but don't give up because it is very rewarding. Anyway, some ways your husband can help are: Before feeding, dad can change the baby and get her undressed. It'll give him some skin time, and some face time. My kids used to ...


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Infants and toddlers don't yet have the information to understand normal, basic, face to face social interactions. They cannot understand the point of social media, publishing, and broadcasting. Lay the basics first, then layer on the advanced stuff.


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Absolutely. What you're seeing is entirely normal in babies, particularly around 3+ months old. Among other things, he might be beginning to teethe; both of those things are associated with teething. Drooling is associated with basically everything for many babies, and sucking on fingers (or thumbs or other things) is also very normal. If the drooling is ...


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Infants do not have strong immune systems. A quick perusal of an academic database yielded three articles within the first 10 hits that caused concern (search terms tea infants): Stojanović, M. M., Katić, V., & Kuzmanović, J. (2011). Isolation of Cronobacter sakazakii from different herbal teas. Vojnosanitetski Pregled: Military Medical & ...


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At 7 months, she may enjoy the challenge of the dexterity required to pick them up successfully, as her motor skills are becoming finer somewhere around now. Why does she try to eat them? Because, first, that's one way 7 month old babies experience the world they live in (after all, putting food in her mouth is pretty rewarding; she wants to see what else ...


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Hurt feelings or hurt child? One of our parents has Alzheimer's, but he and wife still think driving is just fine. We don't leave kids there because we can't trust him not to take a run to the store, the park, etc. with the kid. Hurt feelings or hurt child - - we chose hurt feelings. We've been as polite as possible, but we just can't leave youngest ...


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Take option 1. First, let the other passengers waiting know what are doing. Make sure that both parents go to the bathroom. One parent stands outside supplying wipes, a bag for the poopy nappy, etc etc, the other does the dirty work. Make sure you have plenty of wipes, a plastic bag for the nappy, a bag for any clothes that get soiled, a fresh change of ...


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Yes, it's okay. If it's any consolation, the subject matter doesn't register with your daughter -- yet! But this will soon change, so you're right to address it ahead of that time. Becoming parents means learning how to raise a well-rounded kid, but it also means learning which of your old habits to let go of -- at least for a couple of years. There are ...


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Even some of the MCs known for their notorious lyrics don't feel that they are suitable for children's ears. To quote Willie D of the Ghetto Boys (censored a bit): Interviewer: Well that’s strange to hear coming from the guy who wrote “Let a Hoe Be a Hoe.” Those songs were extremely explicit and you’re worried about the late night porn on the TV? ...


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Beofett linked to a great answer above. Let me add a few observations of my own: First of all, what you plan is different from what you get. Many biological reasons can cause it to take a long time, even years, for the first baby to arrive. And there's no guarantee against such difficulties for the following babies, either. Or you might get two or three all ...


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Unasked-for advice is tricky. No one can see what you see and know the parents like you do. If you really believe the twins are delayed developmentally, I personally feel it's not only ok but ethically responsible to approach the parents, but not with just your dis-ease about the situation. I would suggest that you start by doing some solid research. Find ...


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I'm a grandmother. When I had my babies, my pediatrician was a wonderful, Dr. Welby-type doctor who was in his fifties. He was extremely helpful and very responsive to all of my children's issues, and every bit of his advice was right on the money. For each and every problem that I had, he had specific suggestions for dealing with it and they worked like a ...


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The first answer post is right on the money. Definitely use the in plane lavatory if your baby #2s during the flight. I found it helpful that I had an extra swaddling blaket to lay down on the changing surface. One of my flights did not have a fold down changing table which made it a little more difficult, but all parents learn to improvise. My advice is to ...


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It sounds like the other parents are disregarding your interests and concerns in favor of their own preferred style and interests. Your examples of their statements are anything but respectful or considerate. I could accept that for an afternoon visit, but I'd not be happy with that arrangement during a multi-day family get-together. It's not about your ...


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Depending on the formula that you're using, they might have some probiotics in their composition. For example, Nestlé. Probiotics have small tolerance to high temperatures, so preparing the formula (or heating it after it was prepared) above some temperature might kill those probiotics, reducing the nutritional value of the formula. For example, this ...



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