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You are in a tough situation. Having to share parenting with someone you hate is very difficult. And whenever anyone upsets your child, it's natural to want to prevent that. Let me make some suggestions for you. first, no hitting - I am presuming that "pop our son top make him hush" means hitting. That has to stop. It doesn't work, it makes the crying ...


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Honey is not recommended at all for babies under one year of age because of the risk of infant botulism. The risk isn't big, but if it happens, it can be life-threatening. Avoiding honey until the child is older is an easy way to prevent this. To protect your baby from infant botulism: Don't offer honey. Wild honey is a potential source of C. ...


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Botulism spores are one of the very few things that can survive in honey, and even then, they can only do it by becoming totally inactive. In an adult, stomach acid will destroy those spores, and normal gut microbes will eliminate any that survive to reach the small intestine An infant's stomach isn't acidic enough to do the job, and their intestinal ...


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Children at 9 months really don't understand cause and effect yet[1]. As far as he knows at this point, you're being stern with him and he doesn't have any idea why. Your son will eventually respond to gentle repetition. When my daughter (now nearly two) would grab my glasses, I would tell her "no, please don't do that" and take my glasses back without ...


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This is a clip of the Denver II Developmental Milestones checklist: If you draw a vertical line from the slash in dada/mama specific and the "c" in dada/mama non-specific, you'll have the 8 month old line. The white rectangle is "average"; the blue one means "late but still normal". Falling off the blue box means "possibly prudent to follow-up". There ...


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First things first: No, not all mothers are as protective as your wife is and from what you write, her behaviour is far from normal. (But of course we have only your statement to go by.) From what your comment suggests, you have no support from your inlaws, but it seems you need professional help. More than even a benevolent family or stangers on the ...


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No, nothing is too late. I sense some very important things in your favour: Your milk supply matches her needs. Two weeks is pretty early, even in "standard" cases BF is still not that established at that age. You seem determined to make this work and willing to ask for help -an excellent attitude. Without more details, it's hard to give precise advice, ...


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This is absolutely normal - she has discovered a new toy: her voice. At this age she doesn't really know anything about the effect loud shouts can have on others. And even when you ask her to stop, that is only a short term thing. But this will come with time - I'd suggest keeping on doing as you are now. If you make too big a thing of it, sometimes ...


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There is actually a reasonably well researched explanation, and it has nothing to do with etymology. When we are overwhelmed with a strong positive experience, our brain attempts to regulate this by simultaneously producing an aggressive response to the same experience; these opposing reactions are known as dimorphous expressions. When your wife says ...


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There is no doubt (in my mind) that children can be trained to be "good babies". American Indians in times past would start soon after birth teaching a child not to cry. Back then, a cry might alert a nearby enemy, startle an animal being hunted, whatever. It was important. So the moment a baby started to cry, they would pinch it's nostrils shut. The ...


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It appears there are no significant studies of this type of development in children at present [so far as I could identify]. From my lay perspective the only study which looked relevant was Learning about gravity: segmental assessment of upright control as infants develop independent sitting (2015) but it did not address this question directly. What we can ...


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Infants discover the world largely by their mouth. They put virtually everything in mouth, and whatever they can't fit there, they suck or lick. Fists are convenient. They are always close, they are large enough to fill the entire mouth, they are warm... And it's funny that when she puts them in her mouth, she feels something else, a tickling of sorts, on a ...


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Some kids are outgoing. Others, not so much. Some get scared by facial hair. Some get scared when it goes away. I can't say for sure why your niece is nervous around you, but I can take a guess. Most likely, she just isn't familiar with you. She sees grandma pretty often and isn't scared of her. She's seen grandma be nice and loving. I'd also wager ...


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Babies are pretty adaptable, and lets face it largely blissfully unaware of anything beyond their immediate surroundings and physical needs as they exist in the moment. So will your baby get any enrichment? No, it will not remember it. At all. Exposure to travel might help make for a more situationaly adaptable child if you continue to travel, but one trip ...


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This is a tricky situation. In general the child has a human right to a family life with both parents; and each parent has a right to a family life with the child. But the best interests of the child over-rule the parent's right to a family life with the infant. Hitting an infant because that infant is crying is abuse, and that's enough for you to refuse ...


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Ask your doctor. When babies are very young, they might not wake up when they need to to feed, and fasting through the night could be dangerous.


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Some ideas you may not have tried for the baby: Maybe he's getting too much air, or too little. Check to make sure sun isn't getting in his eyes. Try running your errands at different times of the day. Try vibrating the car seat with your hand. Try having the non-driving adult sit in the back next to him. For the distracted driving part, the best thing ...


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The amount you can pump is 100% definitely NOT an indication of Low supply. First of all: is baby actually breastfeeding or is your wife trying to exclusively pump? If baby is feeding 'straight from the source' then he/she will ALWAYS be getting more than a pump can extract. It's all down to the hormonal connection between mother and baby whereas a pump is ...


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You will find vastly different opinions on this, but I think four months is awfully young to let kids cry themselves to sleep. I know it's hard -- it's extremely hard, and with twins it's more than twice as hard. That said, children that young cannot reason, and although you can condition them in the way you describe, I fear the broader effects will be all ...


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No, it's not normal for an 8 month old child to have never smiled, ever. Infants smile spontaneously from birth (some people attribute this to intestinal gas. It's most likely a reflex.) But they begin to smile responsively between one to two months of age, and laugh at two to four months of age. If you mean the baby doesn't smile for a camera, that's a ...


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Assuming you're talking about a baby carrier, Yes. You can wear an 11 month old on your back. Some details: It is recommended by Babywearing International that you wait until a baby can sit unassisted or with minimal assistance before putting him or her on your back. This is because being able to sit indicates a level of neck & trunk control that ...


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That's very common. The recommendation is to still put them on their back to sleep, but anything they do under their own power is okay. It's actually when parents try to prevent this that babies get into trouble. Don't try to put pillows or toys or blankets as barriers to rolling over. It probably won't be long until he can roll both ways. In the mean ...


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Most babies start to roll "almost by accident", a typical example would be when they - placed on their tummy - lift their head too far up and sideways and "topple over", or, laid on their back, lift head and feet and topple sideways. Even if they manage rolling in one direction, it takes a few days to weeks until they can turn back at will. Leading to the ...


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There is both no need and no sense of being strict with a 9mo baby. With 1,5-2 YO, maybe. You should, however, be consistent. Make sure your reactions to various actions are consistent. Control your reaction, including facial expressions and your tone appropriately to the situation. Talk to your wife and try to reach a consensus each time your baby does ...


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We started extensive renovations of our house with a 6 month old. This involved 15 months of destruction, construction, tradies arriving first thing, jackhammers, etc... Our kid coped fine, he just learned to sleep through the din. Worse comes to worse, you can stick the baby in a pram and take him for a walk at sleep time. The downside is they kid may get ...


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It would/will surprise you what baby will sleep through. We have two, and they've always slept through stuff like (adult) neighbours jumping around playing Wii just on the other side of the wall, the house behind us that likes to light off fireworks any time of the day/night, noisy parents (us) upstairs with noisy grandparents/other company, dishes being ...


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We were in the same boat with our son; he would only settle down when we sped up on the highway, leading to his nickname of Ricky Bobby. We found that, weather permitting, cracking the back windows to allow a bit of white noise from the wind would help a bit. For myself, however, I had to do a LOT of self-talk to keep my mind on driving and not on his ...


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It may very well be helping her, and it's (probably) very helpful for you to have something to do during these stressful times. I presume when you say "directly into her ear", you mean that her ear is perpendicular to your mouth. If this is the case, you have nothing to worry about. The decibels of her crying are likely to be higher than your singing, and ...


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Genuinely, not an issue. Don't worry. He's having fun, he probably thinks that it's kissing or something. It's very normal for children to be more physically affectionate with their mother.



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