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You are in a tough situation. Having to share parenting with someone you hate is very difficult. And whenever anyone upsets your child, it's natural to want to prevent that. Let me make some suggestions for you. first, no hitting - I am presuming that "pop our son top make him hush" means hitting. That has to stop. It doesn't work, it makes the crying ...


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Children at 9 months really don't understand cause and effect yet[1]. As far as he knows at this point, you're being stern with him and he doesn't have any idea why. Your son will eventually respond to gentle repetition. When my daughter (now nearly two) would grab my glasses, I would tell her "no, please don't do that" and take my glasses back without ...


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There is no doubt (in my mind) that children can be trained to be "good babies". American Indians in times past would start soon after birth teaching a child not to cry. Back then, a cry might alert a nearby enemy, startle an animal being hunted, whatever. It was important. So the moment a baby started to cry, they would pinch it's nostrils shut. The ...


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This is a tricky situation. In general the child has a human right to a family life with both parents; and each parent has a right to a family life with the child. But the best interests of the child over-rule the parent's right to a family life with the infant. Hitting an infant because that infant is crying is abuse, and that's enough for you to refuse ...


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There is both no need and no sense of being strict with a 9mo baby. With 1,5-2 YO, maybe. You should, however, be consistent. Make sure your reactions to various actions are consistent. Control your reaction, including facial expressions and your tone appropriately to the situation. Talk to your wife and try to reach a consensus each time your baby does ...


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That's very common. The recommendation is to still put them on their back to sleep, but anything they do under their own power is okay. It's actually when parents try to prevent this that babies get into trouble. Don't try to put pillows or toys or blankets as barriers to rolling over. It probably won't be long until he can roll both ways. In the mean ...


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Most babies start to roll "almost by accident", a typical example would be when they - placed on their tummy - lift their head too far up and sideways and "topple over", or, laid on their back, lift head and feet and topple sideways. Even if they manage rolling in one direction, it takes a few days to weeks until they can turn back at will. Leading to the ...


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This is perfectly normal and you shouldn't try to prevent it. He will soon learn how to roll over on his back again. If you are worried about him doing it in the middle of the night then I would recommend taking out all of the blankets and pillows from his crib. In fact, according to the American Academy of Pediatrics babies shouldn't sleep with blankets ...


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A child's relationship with its daddy is important, but that only going to work if daddy steps up and acts decently. Hitting a 10 month old is not right. It's not going to teach the baby anything but fear. You say the dad blames you for feeling how you felt when you were pregnant. This is not fair. Pregnant women have all sorts of hormonal issues. It's ...


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Ask your doctor. When babies are very young, they might not wake up when they need to to feed, and fasting through the night could be dangerous.


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This is the most beautiful feeling you will ever feel. All good and normal parents do feel protective. Just know that you have to balance this with your child's needs. It is alright to feel protective, but it will be wrong to keep him locked up. Let him explore in a good way. Know that feeling protective over your child will only add to your and his ...


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Edit: When writing the answer below, I had misread "breaking out" as "breaking off". In all cases of rash, pustules, red dots or other changes always check with your healtcare provider first to exclude medical conditions that need professional treatment. Especially fungal infections and oil can be counter-indicative. If the breaking out is simply caused by ...


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Subjecting a child to emotional or physical abuse is absolutely not acceptable, it creates long lasting psychological issues which stay with them throughout their life. As stated by others in this thread, the safety of this child is first and foremost and trumps any other legal rights that either parent may have. It would be prudent for both yourself and ...


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Dad is a source of pain and unhappiness, and the infant has associated dad with this pain and unhappiness. You don't give us clues as to whether the only pain and unhappiness is just the spanking, or if there are activities the father has the infant participate in that the infant doesn't like. It could merely be that it's infrequent enough and the infant's ...


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Being protective like this is completely normal. With my first child, I tried not to let anything happen to him and ran to him for every cry. I wanted nothing but the best for my baby. I now have three boys and my wife is pregnant again. The boys are always hurting themselves by falling down, running into things, fighting with each other. Children, and ...


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It seems you are looking for pro/con of different ways to take care of your baby while working. The 3 main solutions for infant care in the US (and many other places) are: A nanny (child minder who comes to your home), a home based day-care (your child goes to someone else's home where they have a couple of children to look after), a day care (child goes to ...


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Define "not often at all." If there's a month between visits, to an 11 month old, that's eternity. That could be stranger danger. I disagree with the "feeling the need to spank our son to make him hush," mentality. Eleven-month olds have needs. They're not spoiled nor have the capability to cry/whine to get what they want. In other words, there's ...


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To me this sounds like the father has got some anger issues. I wish you the best of luck and recommend counselling or supervised visits rather than just letting them go. If he's getting upset and wanting to spank or hit the little one for being afraid of him...then there's probably a reason that the kid is afraid of him. Maybe something that's happened when ...


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I would call child support services, and let them know you suspect the father of your child is abusing him. Explain what you've seen (the spanking), as well as the baby's fear of spending time with the parent. Ask what next steps are. I would also consult a lawyer and see what you need to do to protect your infant. Courts can require all visits to be ...


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What (mostly) worked for us: sit baby on one knee facing the other. One hand in front (under chin), on hand in back, and tilt baby up/down and back/forth a couple of times then try burping. Somehow, it helped moved the gas around. Also, you have to work at it. Sometimes you have to sit and burp for a good 30 mins to get it all out.


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The main consideration with infant sunscreens are they should be Zinc Oxide or Titanium Dioxide based only; not only will these be much less irritating1, but they are considered safer. Infants absorb a lot more through their skin than older children and adults, and so the Oxybenzone and other organic chemicals in many adult (and even some child) sunscreens ...


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If there are no additional worrying behaviors (cries, painful expressions, arc-like bending instead of a straight stretch) I'd say it's normal, it's OK, it's even good, because muscles, apparently, are working as they should. And it seems so "severe" because we are used to babies lying with their legs bent, curled - a baby stretched, with straight arms and ...


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This is just a personal opinion, but a 6 month old is still a very tiny baby who needs your presence and affection a lot of the time. If she sleeps through the night most of the time I'd say you're luckier than most people. Pretty sure she'll learn to sleep through that first cycle as well sooner rather than later and personally I wouldn't mind being with ...


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Do Babies Dream: Generally people go through five stages when they sleep. Four stages belong to non-REM (Rapid Eye Movement) sleep and one stage is REM sleep. REM sleep is the stage of the sleep in which we dream. Babies will spend most of their sleep time in this phase i.e.REM sleep. According to the recent studies, it is proved that babies don't dream ...


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My baby girl has been taking swimming lessons from the age of 3 months, with her head or at least ears most of the time in the water. She's been doing that for 2 years hitherto with a lot of other babies or children without any illness or so, so I guess this is definitely not a big deal. We were also never invited, was it by the teacher or even a MD to be ...


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I can't help you with "try and raise a well behaved child" because this isn't specific enought. I can tell you what we did for other things. We made sure there was nothing we didn't want our kid to grab at his reach (plants, statues, ...) . If there was, we would say to give it back. We also made the house kid friendly (his toys/books were at reach, we had ...


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From personal experience which happens to match what Dr. Harvey Karp suggested in the Happiest Baby on the Block: I am much more vigorous with my calming techniques (rocking, shushing, etc.) than my wife is. I believe the baby responds more to me because of that added vigor, especially when the baby is extremely upset. A similar difference in techniques ...


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It really depends on the baby. Most seasoned parents would likely let the baby sleep and not disturb the baby. The reasoning being, 'If the baby were truly hungry, he would wake up.' Even adults wake up from hunger. Also, sleep is extremely precious to both parent and child. So by breaking the baby's sleep, you're screwing up a 'good thing' for both ...


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Mostly, holding the baby on my shoulder works for me. Sometimes it doesn't work, so I will try with the different position like putting her on my lap - laying my baby on her stomach with her head higher than the chest and gently patting her back (supporting her head with my left hand and pat the back with right hand). This works for me.



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