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Consider the possibility of a learning disability, ADHD, or other obstacle that's interfering with his ability to either learn the material or express his knowledge. The issue may be a lot bigger than struggling with homework, and it's common for such children to see themselves as stupid or dumb — they know they're behind their classmates, and this leads to ...


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I had similar issues when I was growing up. Let's break this down. Your son is affable and well-liked by his teachers - so it's not a behavioral issue. With increases in homework, it's possible that your son is getting stressed by his increased workload. John's mention of forgetting terms and shortcuts over the summer months is also probable. Help him by ...


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There is a very simple reason why you should not do your son's homework: The results of homework assignments show the teachers whether what he taught was understood. Think of the following scenario: Teacher teaches subject A. Homework covers subject A. Most homework is returned mainly correct. ->Teacher assumes it to be understood and moves on to ...


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I am retired now and have had two distinct successful careers. However I went through a lot of problems educationally. For several years (under the age of 9) I was short-sighted but undiagnosed. Whenever there was a school sight test I would go close to the chart and memorise it so that when it was my turn, I could pass. During class I would regularly ...


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I agree with the points in Stephie's answer. The first step is to stop doing his assignment for him: not only is it cheating, he simply isn't learning. The entire purpose of schoolwork, whether at school or at home, is to educate him through practice. However, that does not mean completely disconnect from his homework. Especially if you have always been ...


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By any chance do you normally praise him for being smart when he succeeds at something? http://www.parentingscience.com/praise-and-intelligence.html http://www.scientificamerican.com/article/the-secret-to-raising-smart-kids1/ In my opinion the 2 articles above go a little beyond what the evidence supports in their claims but certain types of praise can ...


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My guess is that he might be feeling overwhelmed by the amount of work that he needs to do. He feels that theres so much there is no possible way to do it all (at least not correctly, not step by step - not the "slow" way) in the time he has remaining. Thats why working until bed time provides him with a sense of relief. He is able to tell himself that he ...


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I remember in third grade, we were often given an exercise to look up words in the dictionary - practicing alphabetizing. I was always slowest... because I would get distracted by reading the dictionary. If school is so boring or unchallenging that the kid reads to escape, then they are wasting the kid's time when he could be learning something. I'm not ...


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You say that the other children are mostly older, up to a year older. I assume that means that your daughter is basically a year ahead of where children normally are, right? Both from personal experience and from some studies on the matter, I would recommend that in most cases, even very smart or gifted children see benefits from going to school at the ...


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What Dave said is very accurate. The problem in this situation, or what it sounds like, is that your son is refusing to follow along with the rules set out for him which is a perfectly acceptable thing to put restrictions around. When you're having the discussion about "over reading" make sure you have a clear distinction between the behavior of not doing ...


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Kids who have some sense of reason will always have a desire to exert some control over some area of their life. Especially at this age, they don't realize they want it or are doing it, but they have a drive, however small, toward some independence and control. In many kids this manifests itself in diet. They will refuse to eat certain things and ...


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Trying to resolve stupid C programming problem re. hashing. Taking a break and saw this. Brought back memories. I hated school/hated homework/detested being forced to work at stuff that others wanted me to do. Really hated school. Never did more than bare minimum, but then I discovered I could study in a library, and read what I wanted. Was a joy. ...



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