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First we need to know why children tell lie. Because of Loss: if they feel that you can take something from them like their toys, room or you can stop them from going outside, playing with other children, eating ice cream or any kind of loss they may face Pain: If you can beat them or scold very harshly Embarrassment: Scolding in front of their friends, ...


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I generally try to ignore the lie completely. Children have a slightly odd relationship with the truth, in that they still don't quite understand the barrier between fiction and reality. My script is generally this: Me: "Squiggles, why did you draw on the wall?" (Note: Never "did you", always "why did you") Squigs: "I didn't." Me: "Well then ...


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Why ask if you knew it was her? At that age, their thought and speech isn't totally developed even if they look like it. Sometime they "lie" but what they are saying is "I wish I didn't". Your punishment might be wrong, try to look at "natural" punishment. In your example, if she drew on the wall, she should clean it up. "I see you drew on the wall, we draw ...


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First off, don't treat truth telling as a special event, ie. something that deserves rewards beyond a simple "thank you for being honest". Telling the truth should be normal, expected behavior. If truth telling becomes something that is motivated by rewards, it will only last as long as the rewards do or as long as the rewards are sufficient motivators. (...


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Easy technical solution: Make "the picker" wear these: https://www.rhinix.com/ Ask me later about effects on the long run, when he stops wearing them ;)


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Put a paper on the wall where she can draw. She obviously need it, and screaming when she lies about it, or punishing by removing toys when she tells the truth will not make your kid move forward


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The right course of action really depends on the child. Each child has a different way they learn. There's no hard and fast rule that you can apply, but one thing is for sure: don't let your kid get away with lying. From my own personal experience, the fear of being punished for lying just led to me lying even more (even though I wasn't really punished that ...


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Children will break things and break the rules from time to time. We have a simple rule system in our family: Make a mistake and immediately confess (ideally with an apology): Reduced consequences - you get a "bonus" for honesty. For small children, we used this as an occasion to emphasize the importance of being honest and to again explain the rules ...



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