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A little sister huh? What are you waiting for? ;) The answer to me depends on whether she's old enough to know that her expectations aren't realistic or not. If she is then I'd simply say that those aren't things that Santa is likely to be able to do and she might want to think about other things she might like to put on the list. I'd expect her to think of ...


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The simple answer to your question is to only give and allow gifts to be given on special occasions. However, there is a reason we give gifts: it strengthens our relationships (this link is interesting commentary on the subject). There is much pleasure to be gained in the giving, probably more than in the receiving. Why would we want to restrict spreading ...


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I think that as with many things, it is always important to explain to your child that different families do things differently and the way we do things is that gifts are for special occasions... It is important to help your child find ways to have intrinsic value for many of the occasions I see parents giving presents for. In the case of things like school ...


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Show them how to have fun without gifts/stuff What did I enjoy most when I was a child? Going camping: making fires and climbing trees. At home it was Lego, or those wooden railways. My sister and I would make a layout and then play make believe games with the little people. p.s. I am only 18, so it's not like this harks back to another time, this is ...


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I would keep them for later. A newborn doesn't need a coin bank, for example. Nobody else is going to want a coin bank with your child's name and birthdate. A twelve year old will happily save coins in a jam jar. But a twenty-something, moving out into their own apartment, may be delighted and touched to have a coin bank, engraved with their name and ...


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A gift certificate to a spa. With three boys, mom'll probably need it. ;) More seriously, though, unless it's consumables (diapers, detergents, etc) or gift cards/certificates to buy what they need, the family probably has everything they need from the first two (assuming the third was planned, or close enough to 2 that they didn't get rid of everything), ...


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If it were me receiving the gift, I would find a gift card to WalMart or a grocery store or some place equally ubiquitous the most useful gift. We received several gift cards to Target when my daughter was born and they were so nice to have on hand when I turned out to need lots more newborn clothes than I expected or for diapers or for whatever. Even if ...


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I have to disagree here. Everybody is free to give presents and the moment they give them away it is your choice what to do with them. I refuse to sit in a house full of stuff that I hate to see and there are toys I don`t want my kids (I have 3) to have. You have a right to sort out and throw or give away. Other than what has been said here I do not think ...


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You might want to hang on to personalized gifts for a while, in case the gift-giver should notice the item is not around. If it really is unusable by anyone else, a quiet disposal may be the only way to let it go, since you would not want to risk the item ever crossing paths with the gift-giver. If there is a possibility someone could use it, you might give ...


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I liked GdD's answer to this one if the problem was really a lack of understanding, but since it was actually the "high-ball technique" we woundd up just giving her two things (one from us, one from "santa") that we just knew she would enjoy. She learned, we couldn't be manipulated. Then the Easter bunny brought the puppy ;-)


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It seems to me, your concern is more about consumerism and too much "stuff" more than it is about gifts and gift giving itself. I have to say, I've seen kids get piles and piles of gifts on special occasions to the point that they still don't appreciate the gifts they've been given. On the other side of the coin, there are times you see something that ...


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Only if you want to. Both the parents and the child will know the gift has been given. The only difference between giving it before and during the party is who knows. If in your area of the planet everyone knowing is important, then make it known; otherwise, it is already known by those who matter, so party on!


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While we do give gifts on Christmas and birthdays, the other times we give gifts is as a reward, or a thank you or sometimes just to surprise someone. Our activity is picked up by the children, so sometimes they will make a small present to give to a friend, or to one of us, for no apparent reason. We encourage this, and it helps them in understanding that ...


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Personally, I find giving presents on "special days" is over rated. People response better to random acts of gift giving and reward based gifts. If it was me, I'd just leave gifts on special days to grandparents.


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I found a few things useful for new parents with multiple kids. a gift certificate to macy's or lord and taylor or something so the mom can get herself something a picture frame with the same number of spots as there are kids.


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I didn't want anyone to give us clothes, books or any furniture (crib/mattress/bouncer/high chair) for our second baby girl either. However, the things that we did go and purchase: Diapers. They are still going to need diapers for the child. If they are using cloth diapers, you can buy some cloth diaper detergent. Food. Formula if they use it. Otherwise, ...



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