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Hmm, if you said you offered your daughter both boys' toys and girls' toys and let her choose, then I'd say, Okay, you are trying to be careful not to force gender stereotypes on her. But when you express concern that she rejected the boys' toys and ask what to do about this, it sounds to me like you are saying that the issue is not that you want to be ...


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You let her play in the creative ways that make her happy. On a side note, if you ever handed toddlers an 18" piece of foam, like a piece of a floating thing they use in a pool, the girls will immediately coddle it, like a baby, and the boys will either hit each other with them, or use them as a projectile. This is their nature. It's worse to force change ...


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Try to make him trust you (earn his trust), trust himself, and think of his needs. I think he needs more attention and love from you and his dad. Nothing of what you said means he is going to be a gay. Maybe he is walking like that because he feel like every body is looking at him. The diary could be because he feels the need write down what he thinks ...


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I have to echo LRO's answer: Absolutely nothing whatsoever Or rather, just don't worry about it. By not worrying about boy vs. girls toys, you'll help shape her opinion that there isn't any such things. Toys are toys. Now, she may simply prefer toys that we've traditionally labeled as 'girl' toys, but that's OK. It doesn't mean you can't keep ...


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I personally enjoyed the show "Masha and the Bear" and so does my daughter. The two protagonists are a little girl (who is very assertive and a real trouble-maker) and a friendly bear (a big, strong guy who prefers reading and playing chess over adventure) It doesn't really feature race (with Masha being the only human in the show) but it does show a ...


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I'm fairly surprised you find Super Why to be gender biased. While the protagonist (I wouldn't say hero myself) is a white male, the women and pig play essential roles in every episode. Further, each has a chance to be the one whose problem is being solved. That said, I second many of the other suggestions, but especially Peg + Cat. PBS also has Word ...


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Try something different. Look at what she likes and try to add engineering. She likes to decorate? Build complex decorations with her. She likes to play dolls? Build a dollhouse with her. I think it's hard to change the subject they are interested in. It all depends on their environment, TV, books, personal likes and friends.


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Children choose their toys according to what they want to learn. This is genuinely correlated with gender via factors that include social influences but also very critically the child's genes and the mother's hormone levels during pregnancy. Some children (primarily boys) prefer to play out violent conflicts. Others (primarily girls) prefer to play out ...


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The earlier answers are way too complicated for a parent in the U.S. seeking practical advice. So here goes: I taught in mixed, all-girls, and all-boys high schools, and substituted in middle schools, and I can say categorically, at least at the middle and high-school level, that for the vast majority of students, the best classroom is the one with the ...


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Girls may identify with the female princess characters and may adopt some of the ideals associated with them. I find some of the problem is when adults indulge them in the fantasy of them being a princess (and expecting to be given gifts and etc). I think it will be inevitable that children will watch them, but important to also let them see movies that ...


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You can help your daughter remove artificial limits without denying essential parts of her nature. Much more important than what you give her or tell her is what you do with her. One of the best gifts I ever gave my younger daughter (also a girly-girl 5 year-old) was a tinker kit. Not only for what she makes alone using it, but for the opportunities it ...


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Remember her interests may change. When I was very young (3~6) I bought into pink, white, purple color schemes, kittens, barbie and girly things because it was what was fed to me. My favorite colors started to change around 7~9 to blue and green which have remained pretty consistent. Also around that time I watched jurassic park, so I ditched most girly ...


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Boys !== girls When I had mine, one of the things I found really surprising (which with hindsight should have been obvious) is that girls and boys are not the same. I had always assumed tabula rasa, but this doesn't appear to hold water. My little girl will be happy for an hour playing imaginative games with talking ponies. When she gets together with ...


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I have a really simple trick for this, and I've used it to encourage "outside toys" vs "inside toys", "quiet toys" vs "loud toys", etc - even if my child really wanted only one type (and I wanted them to have the other for some reason). This also works for "stereotypical type A" vs "stereotypical type B", and it seems to work equally well with boys and ...


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Play with her. Play by yourself. Model the behavior you expect from her. Give her access to other role models that exhibit the behavior you want her to experience. She may never choose to play with them, but with new toys she may be confused or unfamiliar with them and not understand what her relationship and behavior towards them should be. So sit down ...


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There is a difference between exposing children to the various things life has to offer and forcing your choices on them. There is nothing wrong with pink princesses or other "girly girl" things. So, show her what's available but respect her preferences. edit Just noticed this part of the question: what is the bounds of her and my responsibility on ...


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Offer her more, different things. And if she likes pink, then just let her be pink! I am sure you are not holding "boy"-things away from your daughter, but if she doesn't care or them, that's life and how your daughter is. Certain LEGO play sets1 may still catch her attention (just find something pink). But above all, keep in mind: While having girls, and ...



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