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Do you know if there was money involved and that the parents are soliciting money? Do not assume without the facts. I know a friend who, on April Fool's Day, faked that she lost her arm in an accident. Let's just say she ended up having to grovel to her friends who had cried their eyes out, but by doing so trust and friendship was restored. IN your case, ...


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All the answers and comments have addressed almost every possible angle, so I wanted to focus on this: Now our daughter is devastated, and isn't trusting of new people, she doesn't even want to go out to events with us, even though we've got a holiday to Spain booked in the next few weeks. Normally she looks forward to holidays... now she's dreading it. She ...


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This one is tricky. Let me state that I am American, and while I don't see what that has to do with anything, out side of the legal stuff, it seems important to you, so, take that into consideration. It's hard to tell where to start. I would start by explaining to my child that these things happen. That not all people are good, and that not all people ...


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Things to learn for your daughter: If her best friend says she has cancer, be happy if you find out she is lying, because it's better than if she had said the truth. Any news that you hear, don't react rashly, take your time to find out what really happened, and why it happened, and react to it properly when you have thought about it. It's Ok to lock ...


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Assuming everything you've been told is true, it's an example of a "cancer fraud" scam. It's a crime and it's more common than most people realise. Like all alleged crimes, it's the job of the police to establish if it's true. They can do things you can't, like check actual hospital records. If it turns out it was a malicious prank (maybe someone hacked ...


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Angela got message from her friend via Facebook with "Ha, Ha, I've scammed you." Who guarantees to you that the message is true and the cancer was all made up? Calm down. What do (did) you think about them? What do (did) Angela think about them? Who will profit from such message? If the cancer was faked; why confess when there is no doubt against you? If ...


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I'm from the UK too. Call the parents and check the message was actually sent by them, it seems rather stupid that they would volunteer that information for no reason. I have had my Facebook hacked around four times usually by friends but once by a complete idiot who messaged all my family and friends some mean stuff. If she has admitted it and you know it ...


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Give it time; time helps a lot. It's only been a few days, and this is quite a shock, especially to your daughter who probably worried for her friend's health/life. She's experienced a profound betrayal. It will be deeply disturbing for a while, but the intensity will fade with time. Whatever else this is, it's also an opportunity to talk to your daughter ...


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Welcome to se. There are many possibilities behind the scene.. Lauren might have a different reason behind this, it being a legit or not is totally based on her ethics, and if course Angela shouldn't get ideas that it's ok to do this. Misunderstanding between friends happen all the time, communication would solve 80% and the other 20% might not be worth ...


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In your home, you have the right to enforce your rules. If the neighbor child isn't willing to abide by those rules in order to spend time with your son, then he's making the choice to end the friendship, not you. Both your son and his friend are old enough for you to tell them, straight out, that you aren't comfortable with your son going to his house, ...


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You did the right thing, but just try to if possible, keep them as far away from each other as you can, including school even. Telling teachers to not let them play together is just fine.


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Listen to hu45, What a wonderful opportunity to make a difference in a child's life. What you make of it is up to you. But as someone that has been in that position before, I suggest you act boldly, in the girls best interest, being open to the realization that her interest are your interest. Your young and at the perfect age to start a family, do it. ...


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As you describe the situation, I would consider Angela as possibly a traumatized child in a troubled home situation, until you learn otherwise. This is not to say that her guardians have intent to neglect Angela, but according to Angela they're old and sick and perhaps unprepared (as you wisely observe that you are not fully confident) to raise her and deal ...


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This is actually pretty common. First, lets get some things out on the table. Your talking to her. That makes you her friend, at least a little. Don't think that because you're older you can't "be friends". There need to be boundaries, obviously. But to someone that age "friend" can be anyone that listens. There are structured groups (Boys and Girls Club, ...


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First of all, if you have a problem for which professional help is available, of which this is one, then you should seek professional help. (Reference: MBA program). Consider finding out what resources are available in the community for this girl and try to put her in touch with them. Second, but this is absolutely critical, the chief job of a teenager is ...


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The girl is clearly not happy at home, and her guardians dont seem too interested in looking after her. Those psychological issues could be multiple personality disorder -- and some victims of traumatic abuse will do exactly what you are describing in the hope of adopting a new family. I make no assumptions about the possible perpetrator: she could have ...


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That is a hard situation since you also have your own personal priorities. The child needs psychiatric help, perhaps you can extend a bit more to look for someone who can offer such help? It would make a big difference if you can ask for help for her.


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Boundaries, Expectations and Communication Your first step is to communicate with the grand parents. If they are unaware of your relationship with their grand daughter and discover she is entering your home without their knowledge they may have a negative reaction. Shore up that relationship first and assess their capacity to communicate, understand and ...


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I want to offer a quick couple of points for you. Step 1 - tell her everything you wrote in your last paragraph to us. Kids are not dumb and she will most likely understand. Step 2 - don't feel bad when you tell her you cannot spend time with her. I suspect you feel bad or guilty for doing this. Telling her no is perfectly ok and after you explain step ...


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You can't make anything clear to someone who doesn't respect your opinion. Explanations only matter if the person you're explaining to has kind of the same world view as you do. This is where boundaries come in. Clearly things are not ideal for this girl, and it's natural to want to be helpful, but in this situation, true helpfulness is often more than what ...


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I'd suggest arranging some more structured activities for him to do with his friends. This won't take away the necessity for him to learn how to do free-form play, but it might make play-dates with him more fun for the other kids (and for you). Arrange a craft activity or a board game, take them bowling, anything where the nature of the activity is such ...


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My nine year old has had similar difficulties, although he does not yet have an official diagnosis. These are some things we found to help: First of all, consider that he doesn't need a lot of friends, he just needs one good one. It can take a while to find one, but there is someone out there who is the right mix of tolerance and kindness and quirkiness ...


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First of all, I'm glad you've had him seen by a medical professional, because usually that is my first piece of advice. If your gut doesn't tell you that what the doctor diagnosed him with is true, then I highly suggest a second opinion. Like you, I think I'd be a bit hesitant to blindly accept the diagnosis of my child based on watching a video interaction....



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